How can I stop judging my slutty friend? (Page 2)

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I really need help because I have this friend who I've been friends with a long time. I love her, and I'm always there if she needs me. However, I can't help but feel bad at how much I judge her. She judges other people too, but not so much me. It's not like I talk behind her back, I tell her to her face that her behaviors bother me. I don't like sluttiness and I don't like cheaters. She has many partners and she has never been faithful in a relationship. I've told her many times that she should reconsider her life choices. She also loves to smoke, party, drink and she's a single mother. She told me how hard it's been for her to date and the men she finds are "immature", I told her that she should stop partying because she won't find quality men there, and also quality men don't like party girls, and she seemed bothered by that advice. Also to consider dating only one person at a time, but she didn't like that either. She likes to post pictures of herself that are very provocative and suggestive like bending over, sticking her tongue out, and it bothers me, but I haven't mentioned it. She doesn't confide in me as much and I know it's because she hates the advice I've always given her. I feel like we have very little in common, she probably wouldn't be my friend if we weren't childhood friends. I have always shunned promiscuity and I don't like cheaters and she seems to continue doing both. I guess I thought by our age now especially since she has a daughter, she'd outgrow that phase but it gets worse every year.

serious · Answer

It seems like she has made her choices in life and is living that. You need to ask yourself as to why you want to be friends with such a person.

Anonymous · Answer

Your friend is trash but there's nothing you can do to stop her behavior and, like it or not, her daughter isn't your responsibility. Drop your friend.

Bluedream13 · Answer

I was in a situation like this with my best friend. Get em out of your life they are a bad influence

Malita55 · Answer

Id say to leave her be and find some quality friends

Paris13 · Answer

You stay with her Unconditionally for your own Reasons. xx

cinderelli · Answer

I'd say that you should walk away.. you've told her what you think and if she doesn't care then she doesn't care..

DinoKingLover · Answer

its going to bite her in the butt one day. when it comes to loyal relationships. that shows she has none. I would not date someone that had a history of that. simply because she cannot show restraint. those are the ones that cheat.

kaskas19 · Answer

How about just not being friends with her? That's a great start.

Logorithim · Answer

You can't really stop because you care about her as a friend and also about her kid.

Kiran04 · Answer

You don't. People do not have the right to not be judged. Judge away if you so feel the need.

apple24 · Answer

hmmm she wouldn't be my friend. Let me tell ya... You can't fix stupid... you can fix fat and even your face but stupid that shit stays with you.

HungLikeAHorsefly · Answer

The best way is to become a slut yourself. It's really the only way.

hereforthefunofit · Answer

It's not your life stop pushing your beliefs on her. That is the problem with everyone today, everyone thinks their way is the right way. Guess what it's not, we are free to make our own choices, let her make hers.

counterpoint · Answer

Judging peoples behaviors is not bad or something you or anybody else should stop doing. This is called morals and values, and it's an essential part of bean human.

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

How about you try and quit imposing your values on others... Im not saying your friend is right or wrong with her choices but it's her life, she can ride all the dick she wants

Wowgirl10q · Answer

Your not perfect who are you to judge them leave that to GOD. If they where really your friends you wouldn't judge them.

cseasterling · Answer

What's your slutty friends number? I'll call and see if I can talk some sense in her.

Jack_L_andTurn · Answer

So she is a single mom who is still partying hard. Give it a few years. She will slam into the wall and then she'll hook up with a Beta Provider.

hindril · Answer

She does need to slow down on the partying. She should be there for her child and the right man will come along if she is serious.

Servus09 · Answer

I agree with what others have said. She's a dirty cum-guzzling whore, and you shouldn't judge her based on that.

Anonymous · Answer

1. Become an even bigger slut so she has competition and gets shut down, stopping her slut phase.

2. Cut her out of your life. It seems you both have very different values and aren't compatible at all.

adolescentswede · Answer

Cut her out of you're life or join her. You can't change the mind of someone without their cooperation, well at least not in a healthy way.

Clarke498 · Answer

maybe it's something psychological that since she has a kid she fears growing old and settling down, so she wants to prove that she is still young and full of life?

Danielleo · Answer

your right it's just the truth of she wants to be taken seriously she needs to take herself serious too and boundaries but everyone struggles to be in a good relationship too sometimes

Caaarl · Answer

Why even be friends with someone like that? They're so past crazy.

exhaustedfromlife · Answer

Maybe it's best for you to not be her friend. There's other people to be friends with.

Guanfei · Answer

What wouldn't you judge her? If you don't like her lifestyle, it's your right. And it's her right to not follow what you tell her.

Brutal_Honesty · Answer

you say she should consider her life choices? why? if this makes her happy, why is it a bother to you?

BeingSingleSucks · Answer

You can't and I'm with you here. I'd judge her for that too. Find people who agree with your life style to befriend.

sp33d · Answer

why'd you need to stop judging? She's a slut, she can take it, don't you worry.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

She's hot. KInda reminds me of my sister. The party will never end for girls like them.

cutiebytheshore123 · Answer

U know damn well that's you and u seeking attention. Girl bye

MarketData · Answer

The one thing you can't change is other people. You can either accept her as she is or end your friendship.

Anonymous · Answer

I know it's sounds bad but give her some space and stay away from her for a while then comeback and if she asks why tell her how bothered and worried you are by her behavior and she will listen more carefully this time

monster1energy · Answer

Just keep doing what your doing be straightforward and be honest with her let her know how you feel but don't over step boundaries just be honest with her talk with her and it will all work out

Slave-man · Answer

So beautiful women. I would love to be their slave and humiliated and sweared by those beauties.

Cody_wyaty · Answer

It hard but u just have to stop caring aboit how she looks

Sabretooth · Answer

''immature''? she's hardly one to talk! you are right to be concerned-this will absolutely affect her child.

Anonymous · Answer

If it bothers you then you should avoid hanging out with her. She's a slut so let her be. I could be her pimp.

shreni · Answer

Your friend is sex addicted and she just want sex with multiple partner. That is her passion.

rapfan107 · Answer

I have a lot slutty friends. Just let her be. You can't change when you really appreciate s friend you accept them with all their flaws attached

Servet-i · Answer

slowly get away from him, go other environments separate from it , this way he will not be upset. she is in the picture?

Anonymous · Answer

She likely feels noone would want her, because she has a daughter, so, instead, she's just "having fun"

usaf2018 · Answer

You can't. Keep telling her that stuff. She's going to ruin her life that way. That's a promise

whatbuck245 · Answer

Let here do what ever don't judge and be here friend

pizzaman123 · Answer

Keep being there for her and sooner or later she will run to u.

tombs · Answer

Being slut is fine it's not your decision it's there's if you don't like it find another friend

KinkyHisoka · Answer

Give up being a Pro adviser 2018 and let her do whatever she wants

Anonymous · Answer

Dont get me wrong she's hot but shed look better with dark meat in that mouth

CluelessAtDating · Answer

You can't force people to change.

TripleAce · Answer

Wish I had a slutty friend 😅

Mckerney · Answer

You can't change anyone :/

IntuitiveMuffin · Answer

Being a slut is fine.

CT_CD · Answer

You shouldn't stop judging her. She's a dirty hoe

Sarahgreen202 · Answer

she just likes sex, everyone does really.

Anonymous · Answer

It seems like you just don't need to be friends

jacquesvol · Answer

She'll need your help when she gets into trouble.

eddyrsuarez · Answer

Slide me her number and I'll teach her a couple of things.

DamnMan · Answer

Why do I feel this is a ad for Gorilla Feed?

SwoleCook · Answer

Sloots will be sloots

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