How can I get my friend to stop commenting on my body?

[Anonymous]

I’m about 5’5 and wish I were a bit taller, even though I’m not that short. But my friend frequently comments on my size and calls me “tiny” and “short” and references my body compared to hers because she’s a bit taller than me. I rang her up to tell her about my new dress and she said “Is it tiny like you are”, she tells me I shrink every time she sees me and always comments on my height when she knows it’s my only insecurity. How can I get her to stop commenting on my body?

[MCheetah]

Your 5'10" friend is projecting her insecurities onto you, because she doesn't like her own height, so she is tearing you down to make you feel equal to her, and to make herself feel better to you. Yes, 5'5" is short for a woman, but not by much. If she's acting like you're 4'11" or something, then it's likely to cover up for her own feelings, and you should confront her about that.

And while I HATE my own height (male, but only six inches taller than you) and wish I was not short myself, I wouldn't tear down others just to make myself feel better. Even though tall people make me really jealous (especially the women taller than me). I still don't attack them to make myself feel better, because it's not right.

Your friend is likely just jealous or dislikes her own height and is taking it out on you for some reason.

[Asker]

Thanks. I know how it feels to wish you were a bit taller, but I too would never put someone down to feel better. She’s not 5’10 more like 5’7-8. She actually always takes pleasure in saying she’s taller than me, and that she can pull off my dresses “because of her long legs.” She’s not even that tall but it doesn’t matter, I don’t like her snide comments

[Cubus]

Just tell her, that it's not funny.
And when it comes to your height: you're not "tiny". I don't know which race you are, but for European women 5'5 is average (and if you're East Asian, then you're even above average). You're not short, and you're not tall either, you're in the middle. I understand that you don't like your height because of what your friend did, but height is something you cannot change, so it's not good to worry about it. You just have to love yourself and your body. Besides being a tall girl also has it cons. I have a female friend who is 5'10, and she find it difficult to buy jeans, because she has long legs, and when she finds jeans that fit her, the legwears are usually too short.

[Asker]

I’m actually half European and half East Asian.

[Cubus]

Then no, you are not short. Most East Asian girls are 5'0 to 5'3 on average. When it comes to height, you have it more from your European side :)
If I may ask: what East Asian country are you from?

[Asker]

I look pretty European except I have almond shaped eyes, so yeah I got a lot of my dads genes. My height is in the middle of both of them though. I love my Asian side too- my mother is Chinese- Malaysian

[Cubus]

That's nice. Mixed girls usually are really beautiful.

And yeah, Malaysians are quite short, even for Asians, so it's definitely your dad, who gave you your height :) You have a completely normal height for a European girl.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Flower7]

Stop having her as a friend. That would help. There’s usually no way to change toxic people. The best course of action is to distance yourself.

[SnakeBoop]

Then tell her forcibly. And if she can't listen then drop her as she doesn't respect you

[Asker]

I just don’t want to come off as too sensitive or anything

[SnakeBoop]

if its affecting you and makes you feel shit, then it doesn't matter.

[Asker]

Thank you 🙏

[ChrisMaster69]

Explain to her politely and firmly you don’t like it, don’t find it funny.

Basically to stop doing it or consider the friendship over.

One of the guys that used to hang out with our social crowd thought his constant sarcasm was funny, so we told him to stop, when he did not we started ripping in to his faults, he did not like that at all, he’s no longer welcome with our group.

[Asker]

Thank you!!

[ChrisMaster69]

No problems, however you are not short and try to practice getting rejoinders in quickly.

[humpbackjack]

You already blew it by letting her know it bothers you at this point you can try and ignore it and she’ll probably get bored and move on but it’s gonna take a while or you can start picking at her insecurities but you’re gonna have to go hard because she’s gonna and she already has you on the ropes

[Anonymous]

Weird that you have an insecurity about your height especially when 5’5 isn’t that short at all and even more so when there are people who are lot shorter than that sorry I just find that to be a really weird insecurity to have especially for a girl

[Asker]

Thanks lovely, I just wish I were taller that’s all.!

[AviatorTom]

She has self-confidence issues and uses you to reinforce them. Just ignore her. If you're happy with your body, that's all that's important.

[Andres77]

Tell her.
If she doesn't stop then stop socializing with her.
Don't stay in a relationship because you feel obligated.

[Mynameisbobby]

Tell her that you don't appreciate her comments about your height. If she's a good friend she'll stop. Sounds like she's insecure about herself.

[Shebidbr]

Sounds like a frenemy. Maybe spend less time around her and talking to her.

[Asker]

It’s weird because she’s supportive in all other ways apart from always commenting on my appearance

[Shebidbr]

Yup... A friend can be good in some ways and bad in others. Maybe its better for your friendship if you kept a distance between eachother. So she isn't so involved that she can feel free to be so selfish/abusive with you.

[Asker]

Thanks lovely xx

[Shebidbr]

No prob. Wish you well

[Wise4myage]

Just tell her to knock it off and make sure she knows how much it annoys you.

[TheorionMage]

Remind her you're "fun sized" ;)

[Anonymous]

Start commenting on hers.

[Hangry06]

5'5 is like average

[disgustingweebtrash]

She's jealous