How can I get her back when she comes back from her parent’s house in 3 days to collect her things? Can I make her stay, said she never felt spark?

[Anonymous]

So I love her so much that I can't describe. I saw her 1st time and it wasn't my intention to fall for her. But i did. 3 months in i told her i liked her and she told me she did too. The next month she leaves for her parents house (2 hrs away from flight). We texted everyday. At the end of the month she said she wanted to marry someone from her culture, like an arranged marriage. She came back and told me that its not gonna work and we should be friends because she doesn’t wanna loose me as a friend. So we still talked, she knew i had feelings for her. 2 months in she started avoiding me and told me that she went on a date and is falling for a guy and after my no comments (happy for you comment) she said if i have feelings for her still then i can't be her friend and we stopped talking for 4 months. After these 4 months because of a common friend she ends up at my place and we talk. I tell her i still have feelings for if she doesn’t wanna talk to me. But next day we go on a walk on beach which she asks me to. Pur conversations start again. But i hold myself off. Next month near her birthday she was already visiting my house alone and we used to just hang out. Once she brought a guy to drop her off and we dont have any conversation about it. Comes her birthday, i dont go to her party because he might be there and she went a temple with him and brought him in front of me and it killed me, i didn't say anything. That day she breaks up with him, i hear and is also mad at me for not visiting her party. I apologise and because of another common friend we reconcile. I give her an intimate gift of an anklet. One month in she is already staying, sleeping at my place at night. And tension is building up. She asks me to sleep in the same bed with her. 1 day we cuddle, out of nowhere and its intense. We kiss and sleep together. We are now together. Goes back to parents house 3 weeks later, then stays there 1 month, says no spark. Breaks up on text.

[Anonymous]

Dude get some balls. Why are you going to act like a little bitch? You’re not her no. 1 choice. You’re going to sit around waiting. How sad do you have to be to sit there like a pathetic homeless puppy waiting to be picked. I guess if you have that low of a self-esteem issue you can wait. But honestly knowing you’re just a runner-up, or 4th place, shit bro she’s telling you you’re not good enough. She’s using you. She’s going to end up back w that dude, then they will have an argument then she will come back to you till things are good w him again or she meets someone else. What the hell is wrong w a lot of boys these days? Man the fuck up. Have some respect for yourself. She’s a roller coaster, she’s going to take you on every damn up and down. Move on. Stop being a simp. She’s going to continue to use you cause she knows she has you wrapped around her finger. She knows you’ll sit there in the damn rain freezing your ass off waiting for her. Don’t be surprised if she ends up w a shit bag who knocks her up the. Leaves her. Now she’s a single mother coming back to you cause she needs help financially, not cause she really liked you. Kick her to the side. Do what you need to do to attract the type of girl that will treat you well.

[ohsheeT]

First of all you can't make anybody love you if you had the opportunity and you blew it and you need to reevaluate yourself as a person as a boyfriend

You got to let her be leave her alone she has a brain she can make her own choices you have a brain and if you want her back it's not going to happen when you snap your fingers it's going to happen in time after you prove yourself again and if she doesn't give you that opportunity then you might as well accept it and move on because that's all you're going to be able to do anyway. Don't be stupid when she comes back to get her stuff he'd be a gentleman you help her get her things and you communicate to her do not raise your voice do not get angry do not try to manipulate be the man that you're supposed to be not the one who doesn't get his way throws a fit

[SueShe]

She is a confused lady and you really should keep your distance and cut all contact with her. She does not really know herself what she wants. By keeping in contact with her, you will never be able to make a clear cut and this will continue to eat you up.

Only by removing everything that reminds you of her will you be able to make the cut. Join a club or take up a hobby to clear your mind.

This impossible relationship is not likely going to ever work because it seems that she does not keep her boyfriends for a long time. What if she leaves you again in 2 months because of a futile argument or different opinion? It will drag you down and you will have an even harder time back to normal.

[IslaTheWitch]

I understand your feelings.

But after reading your description, I have a feeling that she used you. She knew you would respect her out of your feelings for her. So after her breakup, she could spend time at your place and get what she wanted to feel better.

But, I can be biased. I have a friend who was in a very similar situation.

The whole situation is quite toxic. You have no voice. She decides about everything without even asking about your feelings or opinion.

Don't try to stop her. Let her leave and slowly heal and recover. You have your life you should take responsibility for.

[WindAtMyBack]

"she wanted to marry someone from her culture, like an arranged marriage"

This statement makes me wonder how much of her behavior is really her own, and how much are her parents and family influencing her. In other words, is her family trying to make her go against her own feelings and desires? Is she caught between two cultures that are pulling her two different directions?

She seems very confused, and doesn't know what she wants - but is it really her? Even if her behavior is due to family or cultural influence, it doesn't change the fact that her behavior is very confusing and hard to deal with. If this doesn't change, regardless of the reason, you might have to walk away from this one.

[Miristheiss]

You don't.

Just let her leave, don't say anything.

Acting desperate and pathetic won't make her want you. It will repulse her and she'll lose respect for you.

Just move on and start dating other women. This may be unsalvageable. If there is any chance it is by her seeing you move on, be strong and stoic and you letting her have space to "MISS" you. She may never want you back but whining and pleading and acting like a bitch sure as hell won't work.

Just be chill, say, take care and just move on. Let her leave and never reach out to her again. Move on. Maybe a new girl will catch your eye. Be strong, a man with options, meet new people. If there is anything still there she'll eventually miss you and may reach out again. If not, it was nice while it lasted, tons of other great women to meet... MOVE ON!!!

[CTHuskyMan]

Number one, this girl is using you. If she's that on again-off again type..."oh, I want to be with you!"... then "this isn't working out"... then "can I stay with you?", then she's only interested in one thing, and that's sex. You don't need her, cut her loose. Second, you really can't make anyone love you. If they love you, it has to come from their soul. In this case, it obviously doesn't. It will be hard, but you need to move on. There's no point in worrying over something that will never be, and isn't real anyway.

[SherriMarieValentine]

Don't move on. Someone that has left, especially cheaters, were out the door emotionally before the physical act. Get counseling to ensure you are in the best mental state you can me.

[exitseven]

This sounds like a train wreck on many levels. Do yourself a big favor. Forget about her. Find somebody from your own culture that lives close by, Somebody that wants to share your life.

[Keyboardkat]

She sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. She is immature.

[Fireguy17]

Sounds like you are SOL.
one sided relationships are not very successful, and that sure sounds like on.
It happens, and it sucks.

[A_Bell]

You can't make anyone stay. That's kidnapping.

[Staximus]

She sounds like she doesn't know what the hell she wants. Tell her you're tired of her games.

[msc545]

You are asking her to choose between you andf her family and culture. You won't win.

[slatyb]

Probably not happening.

[Anonymous]

Kiss her neck from behind sensually

[In_Trance]

This is a gong show

[Anonymous]

SIMP!!!