OK, so I have been going out with my new boyfriend for a while. About 2 months. Most of it was distance in the beginning though and we got to talk a lot, and I love his personality. But, he coddles me too much and is like overly affectionate for my tastes. It's almost to the point of annoying me honestly. I have started telling him that I don't like it, but when I do, he just looks so defeated...
He likes to hug me like every few minutes at every chance he gets when we are together. He does this weird thing where he like whispers into my ear while hugging rather than talking normally to me. And when he tries to hug me it's always in the worst way like so I am bending over backwards and hurting my neck lol. Almost like he doesn't know that I am uncomfortable. Sometimes I even try to pull out of a hug, and he doesn't stop...normally people get the cue...rrg. He always tries to tickle me even if I say stop. He tries to kiss my face in weird spots, like above my lip/almost onto my cheek, and I get confused like he is trying to come in for a kiss...it's just really awkward and hard to explain.
I can take a certain amount of affection, but I like being with someone not to feel suffocating, and just to feel comfortable. I like him a lot, and am near just telling him I want to be friends, but I like everything else about him aside from this weird coddling thing.
How could I tell him I don't like any of it without upsetting him, or should I just break it off? I don't know what to do since he is such a nice guy. I hate to break his heart like that. :(
He likes to hug me like every few minutes at every chance he gets when we are together. He does this weird thing where he like whispers into my ear while hugging rather than talking normally to me. And when he tries to hug me it's always in the worst way like so I am bending over backwards and hurting my neck lol. Almost like he doesn't know that I am uncomfortable. Sometimes I even try to pull out of a hug, and he doesn't stop...normally people get the cue...rrg. He always tries to tickle me even if I say stop. He tries to kiss my face in weird spots, like above my lip/almost onto my cheek, and I get confused like he is trying to come in for a kiss...it's just really awkward and hard to explain.
I can take a certain amount of affection, but I like being with someone not to feel suffocating, and just to feel comfortable. I like him a lot, and am near just telling him I want to be friends, but I like everything else about him aside from this weird coddling thing.
How could I tell him I don't like any of it without upsetting him, or should I just break it off? I don't know what to do since he is such a nice guy. I hate to break his heart like that. :(
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