Tell her to spend more money and get a soap catered to helping excema.
If she's worried showering will cause a flare its because she's using shitty, cheap soaps filled with chemicals.
You are right, literally NO excuses not to shower😷✋
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I'm also a clean freak and can't stand unhygienic people. You could tell her you're not comfortable with sleeping with someone that doesn't bathe regularly.
Tell her. Be honest, be kind. speak out of love for your friend. Dont be rude or critical about it.
Yeah you're definitely not wrong for having a problem with that
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Oh man! I totally get you. I've bene in this situation. I am always the clean (er) person and am really bothered by bad smells. I had a male friend (sort of an ex/guy I dated briefly, but mostly we became friends, for years after), and he went through a really hard time for a while in his life, lost his apartment and was couch surfing, just trying to get by. He called me late one night to crash. My studio apartment was soooo tiny, not much more than one room. I hated having guests overnight, but I did do it with a few people. It was always awkward. He slept in my bed and he was sooo smelly, esp the feet, but everywhere. I offered a shower but he was exhausted and didn't want to. The next morning he did have a bath or shower before he left. But I had to rush off to work, and when I got back take all my bedding downstairs in the basement to do laundry. Such a pain.
Last year, I had some family members crash with me and they slept in various places, but mostly sofas and floor. When they left, these was so much dandruff on the sofa, back of my car. It was revolting.
I have no idea what you do about this. I suggest showers to people quite often when they stay over and no one ever say yes!I've had to have talks with friends about hygiene before and some get very defensive and upset, no matter how nice you are about it, unfortunately. I try to tell them that I'm telling them about this as a friend because I care about them, not because I'm making fun of or criticizing them. One friend told me I was rude and ignored my advice, and the other kept making excuses until he finally started taking my advice.
Another thing that works is that when you notice they've taken a shower or are cleaner than usual (with one of my friends' case, it was when he washed his hair), try to compliment them about it. I would tell him his hair looked nice when I noticed he had washed it. He began washing it more often after that.
Maybe you could try telling her about a way she could shower without upsetting her eczema (and by the way, I have eczema and still shower daily; mine is very mild, but you absolutely can shower regularly without upsetting it) or ways to help soothe it. For me, I like hydrocortisone cream. I find that once my skin starts itching in a spot I usually break out in, I apply the cream there after every shower until it's gone. Maybe ask her if she's tried the hydrocortisone cream or using cooler water that won't dry out her skin as much.
Poor hygiene can also be a sign of mental health issues, unfortunately.
If all else fails, you might just have to tell her that she will have to shower before she uses your bed. That's not even unreasonable to ask of anyone, even those with good hygiene, as it's common knowledge that germs can be spread by sharing beds with strangers. If she gets upset, that is her problem. It sounds harsh, but sometimes you have to either put up with the behavior or lay out boundaries at the expense of upsetting the other person.You shower twice a day?
That’s not bad for only your skin but also your hair.
you’re gonna look old and bald fast
That’s just an FYI
As for your friend well, she will most likely look younger as she ages as well as have youthful hair BUT damn! Living with dogs inside and smelling that’s just nasty!
I would not care to sound rude, it’s nit rude.
What is rude is not caring that you’re fumigating someone else’s clean air.
Perhaps she doesn’t know she smells?
Perhaps even if it’s mean someone should say it...
Maybe just say you have a small rule that anyone that stays with you has to shower before bed?
It should really be every other day or every third day but if you smell you need to shower everyday..
That’s just very grossReal quick: not only isn't it economically unfriendly to shower every day, it's actually not good for your skin or hair to do so. You wash away a lot of valuable natural oils and can pretty much expect to look like a leather bag in the future.
However, I don't think it's unfair to let your friends know they stink. However, if she struggles with a skin condition, maybe be less of a raging cunt about it by demanding she has to do things.
I'd bring it up to her normally, just be honest but acknowledge she has skin issues. If you apparently have the same skin condition, maybe recommend some bath products for that specific skin issue to make bathing for her less of an issue.I shower like 2-3 times a week because I get severe eczema on my legs and hands, so I understand where she is coming from, trust me it is awful. You know the feeling of getting lemon juice in a cut? Imagine that but all over your body.
Its unlikely that she would smell like wet dog, maybe it was her clothes that particular time. But just if you notice an odor I'd just nicely tell her.
I don't know how close of a friend she is but there's a cream from Lush called "dream cream" which is amazing for eczema and smells great, maybe you could gift her some.My advice is i would tell her cause of her body scent
that you would wish for her to take a shower before
she comes to your Apartment , maybe offer her to
shower at your Apartment this way you know she's
showering cause people can tell you anything also
be careful having someone who sleeps with their pets
in their bed cause pets carry the same illness that
causes Stomach flu / Staphylococcus/ etc they
carry it on their coats and also no matter what
people tell you 90 chances of 100 she does not have
her pets properly protected from Flea & Tick medication
I tried telling my cousin all these things and she
even went online and ordered this Flea & Tick that
looked counterfeit but my cousin didn't want hear it
and she still sleeps with her cats on her bed so i gave
up talking to her about things.It's not what you say it's HOW you say it. If you were really her friend, you'd just tell her straight up. Tell her that her sanitation habits make you feel uncomfortable and is just unhygienic. Tell her she has a noticeable odor and you don't feel comfortable sharing a bed with her.
As long as you have a reason with your cause you are good.
BTW: I totally know a girl similar to this. We were on the same sports team in HS and on "away games" she refused to bath. She didn't feel comfortable bathing in a shower that wasn't in her own house.
Tell her you have to sleep alone. Cover up your sofa and have her sleep there. At least you can change the sheets. If you think it's essential that you need to have a talk with her about her smelling like her dogs and showering too infrequently, you'll have to be prepared for hurt feelings. Your worry about her smelling offensive comes from a good place. You don't want anyone else noticing her odor. If you can whiff her, others can too... Good luck
Just tell her you just changed your sheets and your very particular your bed and always take a shower before sleep. Let her know she's welcome to join you and youve laid out a towel and shampoo for her.
First of all who are you to say who has worse eczema. Showering is one of the worse things for eczema. Maybe refer her to a Dermatologist that Specializes in Autoimmune Skin Diseases such as Eczema!!! Vit needs to be treated with the right kkind of medication internally!!!
And yes you are a Bitch that you think you know so much about her Health!!! And yours was so much worse, you obviously haven't a clue about Eczema if you think it only appears where you can see it...Humans don't need to bathe twice a day. You are actually killing your friendly bacteria by doing that and probably using toxic chemicals which go inside your body when the pores open with the heat of the water.
I really don't think you should be her friend and always ask people before they befriend you how many times a day they bath.
If it helps her skin condition let it be. Her pets and her pets, if she wants to sleep with them let her be. Who are you to tell her what to do.i had eczema and i didn't stop bathing because of it, i dont have it anymore, she just doesn't wanna shower 😂
No, it's not. You just need to be tactful in how you say it! If you don't want to risk ending your friendship, have someone else say it for you. I know one thing, if I smelled bad, I sure would want someone to tell me so I could freshen up!
Just tell her she cannot get in your bed unless she is clean. If she claims she is, politely ask her to take a bath before getting in your bed to keep the sheets clean.Well i am one of this persons who likes it more when people tell me the truth and not hide everything
My problem is mostly i sweat real easly when i am doing sports or lie in my bed in summer and thought is less noticed when we did a classtrip for a few days suddently another friend tell me thers a rumor going on abaut me... I realy felt hurt they did not tell me and would be happy would someone tell me i smell :/Be honest..
Tell her.. She doesn't needs to bath if she can find an alternative solution to the smell..
Her not bathing is not problem..
Her stinking is the problem..
Like wear clean clothes and wipe her entire body with wet clean cloth..
To get rid of the stink.."Girl... you smell. Like I know you have reasons but it'-it's making me quite uncomfortable and, you spraying that very sweet perfume on to hide the sweat smell is literally triggering my allergies."
I know a girl who showers only once a month... She doesn't take offence when someone talks about her smell though thankfully.no, that is respectful, some people don't know. but may have to realize they may not have that ability. Have had smelly people at work and they had to be told...
No. I don’t have any animals over and you only shower once a week lol.
I am a very straight up person. I dont even let friends put their pets in my car.Now, twice a day is a bit too much unless you are sweating a lot or have to deal with dirty stuff a lot. She could shower at least every 2 days though. I mean, pubes and armpits need daily care... every 2 days should be the maximum in my opinion.
No, it is not rude. When it comes to dirt and germ you don't care about stuff like that. It is your health in question too. If she gets upset it is her problem. You are tryibg to help her afterall.I’d just make a slight excuse based around the truth and say that you always shower before getting into bed to ensure it’s always clean etc, so if she wants to share then she should too, otherwise there’s a lovely made up bed for her elsewhere.
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