HAHAHA oh man this is Fire.
So you are 16, presumably attractive, and what to flaunt what you got. That's cool. More power to you. However, I hope you are aware of what happens when you gain too much attention. The world really isn't all that nice even if you are rich with all of the protection or whatever. Perverts exists and may even go to extreme lengths to get what they want. And that's the violent extreme end of the spectrum. Drop it down to semi mild is getting cat called, men looking at you only for sex, maybe approaching you trying to court you, etc. The flip side is there are conservative women and men that will gossip and word will go around saying like she looks like ABC or she is ABC or does ABC.
While we would like to say words don't hurt us. it is false. While we like to say dont judge a book by its cover. That is false too. it is our nature to judge and predict the outcome. its an survival ability. sure you can ignore all of this and BE YOU and WHO you want to be. I get both sides of the argument. Mom says sure where what you like, be sexy, beautiful, and express yourself. Dad says no, I want to protect my daughter from all of the horrible people out there. So yeah. Both good points, is there a middle ground? can I express myself in a way that the world does not receive me in a negative way? Sure if you can afford and if you like more... fancy attire. but you would not fit in with your age group or demographic.
And you still aren't completely safe even if you dress conservatively But you definitely reduce about of attention drawn to you. its like this. Why are heels a thing? is it sexy? to women sure. guys meh. a few maybe. they serve no function except being fashionable and actually is bad for your feet and posture. Now Imagine the world as a jungle, you really think heels making all that noise will go unnoticed? Heels are head turners whether people want to accept that or not. Secondly, you can't run in that if you are in danger.
In term of the whole bikini situation... its fine as long as you have a buddy. It is Day time, public space, and everyone is around so danger is kept to a minimum. Private Parties and you don't know everyone and alcohol plus other substances can be a bit more dangerous but if you trust everyone around you then you should be fine. For most women being sexy and alone is the worst combination. and during the night and with alcohol and or other substances... you got to have a lot of courage and... confidence to not be at least a bit afraid.
Hopefully this was helpful. I wish you the best.
Your father is right and your mother is wrong. That is disrespectful and it's a great way for guys to treat you poorly. You are only 16 years old. You are not yet an adult and this is why having the same parenting styles and agreement is important. You going to be attracting the wrong kind of attention, others are going to gossip and it will reflect how you are raised. Which also in turn reflects who you will attract for a relationship if you want one. The right guy would not want to see you in it. The wrong guy would just want to hop in your panties when you basically have nothing on. Plus, you don't want to disrespect your father's eyes. He is still a man even though he is your father. What about his eyes? See? Would you want your daughter to wear what you wearing? Would you not be concerned about that for her as well? Think about your future and not just your present.
Yes, you are his Princess and dad's are protective of their daughters. All he is concerned about is keeping you safe. That is a natural instinct that is built into every good father.
That is 1000 times better than having a dad who doesn't care and tell their kids to get lost and go play in the street, there are way too many of those around.
Humor him by staying out of them until you know it is where you will be 100% safe and he will not know about it.
And in the mean time give him a big hug and kiss and tell him you love him so much and especially because he cares about you!
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I would listen to him not only because he is my father. But because he is a father who is still involved in my life and that's not easy. I hope many men would be to their daughters what he is to you.
All these strangers validation shouldn't matter more than your fathers love and care. Some men just love objectify and sexualising women so of course they would say don't listen to him! But at the end of the day if you fall sick, get attacked, or just needed support with anything really. It is only your family that will be there and not all these men on GaG or the beach.
Love him as long as you have him. Bless your heart young lady 🌹
At some point you decide your own style for yourself.
The bigger thing you dad wants is to keep you safe from predators. All men are going to look, but it depends on how you want to keep the relationship with your dad.
Do want he says, make a compromise, or do it your way?
Also the deeper question is why are you wearing thong bikinis? Do you have to show off, attract guys, or cause tension with your dad?
If you compromise, don't wear them around him but beach and poolside when he isn't with you.
u There are so many things I find wrong with this question. However if you're not trolling and you're serious asking then I'd listen to him. It's not like there's necessarily anything inherently wrong with thong bikinis but considering you're a minor and it bothers your dad then it's respectful to well.. respect his wishes.
You want him to wear them? And NO GOD DAMNIT fuck at least cover your fucking ass especially if your age is correct shit luck I'm not you're dad you don't listen guess who else goes to the beach or pool in a thong bikini? Yeah so listen he doesn't want you looking like a slut ending up with a 30 year old that he'll end up getting to fuck out of
I wouldn't either.
You are making yourself a sex object for men to lust after.
Be 16, just be a kid.
Your dad sounds weak.
I wouldn't even let you own one and you would be grounded if you went behind my back and bought one.
You would not be allowed to go out anymore.
He is weak if he is even letting a 16 year old decide this.
Personally, I would stop out of respect for your dad, were I in your position. Just a couple more years until you're 18. For now, do the old man a kindness. Gotta be uncomfortable seeing guys stare at your daughter. Let him have these last couple years.
Your Dad doesn't get to choose what you wear and it won't make any difference anyway, you are a very beautiful young lady and pretty much every guy who ever sees you is going to want you even if you were wearing a garbage bag.
Your dad is right. He knows how guys think. So no, you should not be wearing them. Have some self respect and dress more modestly. That doesn't mean you have to wear a burka. It just means keep it within reason.
Your dad has expressed his concerns. They should be respected. Listen to him; he's actually correct about the issue. Thong bikinis serve no purpose in the end, other than highlighting the lack of modesty that your father would like you to avoid.
If you’re living in his house, I think he’s entitled to put rules on you. Frankly, I can’t blame him to not want his 16 year old girl to have her ass out, he’s just looking out for you.
you should feel free to wear whatever you want, I wear thong bikinis a lot and let me tell , guys stare and drool over me like a kid in a candy shop, I find it annoying because I'm out to have a good time, in a way your dad is looking out for you, and dad's are pretty protective of their daughters especially when horny guys stare and stuff
You are in high school and live under your parent's roof. If you respect your dad, then listen to him because he is just looking out for you because there are a lot of weirdos and creepers. Trust me, you dont wanna deal with that. Wait until you are 18 and grown enough.
I'd say compromise the situation. Respect your dads wishes when around him. When on your own wear them. Just be prepared for stares and comments from every guy that sees you.
As long as he's not forbidding you to wear them, then keep doing it. He will get use to it.
If it is going to cause a problem if he see you in a thong don' t wear one around him or if he to be around you for awhile and leave just wear it and put a regular bikini over it tucking it in if need be and when he leaves take the bikini bottom off and you have your thong in place.
AT the end of the day, you're still not legally an adult, and if you live under your parents house and they pay for things, whether you like it or not, if he doesn't want you to wear them, it might be best to respect his wishes until you're 18.
At the very least, sit down and talk about it with him.
If you think it will keep you on good terms with him. Family is important, and thong bikinis are pretty risque.
In today's society, bikinis are fine. However, even if you are young and pretty, a thong bikini is pushing it and you shouldn't wear them. Nor should you be that desperate for attention.
What has it got to do with your dad what you wear as long as your comfortable then keep wearing them
I am a dad and I say just go for it, your dad will never approve but he will be proud of you
