My dad doesn't like that I wear thong bikinis, should I still wear them?

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Recently, I started wearing thong style bkinis. My mom doesn't care that I wear them but my dad hates it since he thinks I get too many looks from guys and it's inappropriate for my age. He didn't know I wore them until our recent vacation to the beach. Should I continue to wear thong bikinis or stop out of respect for my dad?

anonChineseMale · Accepted Answer

HAHAHA oh man this is Fire.

So you are 16, presumably attractive, and what to flaunt what you got. That's cool. More power to you. However, I hope you are aware of what happens when you gain too much attention. The world really isn't all that nice even if you are rich with all of the protection or whatever. Perverts exists and may even go to extreme lengths to get what they want. And that's the violent extreme end of the spectrum. Drop it down to semi mild is getting cat called, men looking at you only for sex, maybe approaching you trying to court you, etc. The flip side is there are conservative women and men that will gossip and word will go around saying like she looks like ABC or she is ABC or does ABC.

While we would like to say words don't hurt us. it is false. While we like to say dont judge a book by its cover. That is false too. it is our nature to judge and predict the outcome. its an survival ability. sure you can ignore all of this and BE YOU and WHO you want to be. I get both sides of the argument. Mom says sure where what you like, be sexy, beautiful, and express yourself. Dad says no, I want to protect my daughter from all of the horrible people out there. So yeah. Both good points, is there a middle ground? can I express myself in a way that the world does not receive me in a negative way? Sure if you can afford and if you like more... fancy attire. but you would not fit in with your age group or demographic.

And you still aren't completely safe even if you dress conservatively But you definitely reduce about of attention drawn to you. its like this. Why are heels a thing? is it sexy? to women sure. guys meh. a few maybe. they serve no function except being fashionable and actually is bad for your feet and posture. Now Imagine the world as a jungle, you really think heels making all that noise will go unnoticed? Heels are head turners whether people want to accept that or not. Secondly, you can't run in that if you are in danger.

In term of the whole bikini situation... its fine as long as you have a buddy. It is Day time, public space, and everyone is around so danger is kept to a minimum. Private Parties and you don't know everyone and alcohol plus other substances can be a bit more dangerous but if you trust everyone around you then you should be fine. For most women being sexy and alone is the worst combination. and during the night and with alcohol and or other substances... you got to have a lot of courage and... confidence to not be at least a bit afraid.

Hopefully this was helpful. I wish you the best.

Reaperbot666 · Accepted Answer

considering that you won't be his little girl for much longer. he most likely just does not want to see you hurt physically, mentally or emotionally. but he also wants to keep you safe for as long as he can. because he knows that many guys of all ages. are going to at last glance over or stare at you. if you wear something like that in a public setting. provided they get the option to do so. good chance many will be creepers to some degree. who most likely will only want to sleep with you and bail afterwards. because depending on where you live in the world. average age for sexual consent is between 16-18. so if you respect your father enough. you'll try to honor his wishes for now. or come to a compromise of some kind. likely to be some local area laws about indecent exposure. when it comes to miners and/or adults. for local public beaches and swimming pools also. just might not always be heavily enforced. because in many places your a miner until 18 regardless. if your in school and under life in their household. you fall under your parents reasonability by law until 18 or 25 if in college.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Your father is right and your mother is wrong. That is disrespectful and it's a great way for guys to treat you poorly. You are only 16 years old. You are not yet an adult and this is why having the same parenting styles and agreement is important. You going to be attracting the wrong kind of attention, others are going to gossip and it will reflect how you are raised. Which also in turn reflects who you will attract for a relationship if you want one. The right guy would not want to see you in it. The wrong guy would just want to hop in your panties when you basically have nothing on. Plus, you don't want to disrespect your father's eyes. He is still a man even though he is your father. What about his eyes? See? Would you want your daughter to wear what you wearing? Would you not be concerned about that for her as well? Think about your future and not just your present.

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

Yes, you are his Princess and dad's are protective of their daughters. All he is concerned about is keeping you safe. That is a natural instinct that is built into every good father.

That is 1000 times better than having a dad who doesn't care and tell their kids to get lost and go play in the street, there are way too many of those around.

Humor him by staying out of them until you know it is where you will be 100% safe and he will not know about it.

And in the mean time give him a big hug and kiss and tell him you love him so much and especially because he cares about you!

My dad doesn't like that I wear thong bikinis, should I still wear them?

mindNsoul · Answer

I would listen to him not only because he is my father. But because he is a father who is still involved in my life and that's not easy. I hope many men would be to their daughters what he is to you.

All these strangers validation shouldn't matter more than your fathers love and care. Some men just love objectify and sexualising women so of course they would say don't listen to him! But at the end of the day if you fall sick, get attacked, or just needed support with anything really. It is only your family that will be there and not all these men on GaG or the beach.

Love him as long as you have him. Bless your heart young lady 🌹

QuietRunner · Answer

At some point you decide your own style for yourself.

The bigger thing you dad wants is to keep you safe from predators. All men are going to look, but it depends on how you want to keep the relationship with your dad.

Do want he says, make a compromise, or do it your way?

Also the deeper question is why are you wearing thong bikinis? Do you have to show off, attract guys, or cause tension with your dad?

If you compromise, don't wear them around him but beach and poolside when he isn't with you.

jeemm · Answer

There are so many things I find wrong with this question. However if you're not trolling and you're serious asking then I'd listen to him. It's not like there's necessarily anything inherently wrong with thong bikinis but considering you're a minor and it bothers your dad then it's respectful to well.. respect his wishes.

hornyafbi69 · Answer

You want him to wear them? And NO GOD DAMNIT fuck at least cover your fucking ass especially if your age is correct shit luck I'm not you're dad you don't listen guess who else goes to the beach or pool in a thong bikini? Yeah so listen he doesn't want you looking like a slut ending up with a 30 year old that he'll end up getting to fuck out of

Miristheiss · Answer

I wouldn't either.
You are making yourself a sex object for men to lust after.
Be 16, just be a kid.
Your dad sounds weak.
I wouldn't even let you own one and you would be grounded if you went behind my back and bought one.
You would not be allowed to go out anymore.
He is weak if he is even letting a 16 year old decide this.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally, I would stop out of respect for your dad, were I in your position. Just a couple more years until you're 18. For now, do the old man a kindness. Gotta be uncomfortable seeing guys stare at your daughter. Let him have these last couple years.

Anonymous · Answer

Your Dad doesn't get to choose what you wear and it won't make any difference anyway, you are a very beautiful young lady and pretty much every guy who ever sees you is going to want you even if you were wearing a garbage bag.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Your dad is right. He knows how guys think. So no, you should not be wearing them. Have some self respect and dress more modestly. That doesn't mean you have to wear a burka. It just means keep it within reason.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Your dad has expressed his concerns. They should be respected. Listen to him; he's actually correct about the issue. Thong bikinis serve no purpose in the end, other than highlighting the lack of modesty that your father would like you to avoid.

NatalieKeller95 · Answer

you should feel free to wear whatever you want, I wear thong bikinis a lot and let me tell , guys stare and drool over me like a kid in a candy shop, I find it annoying because I'm out to have a good time, in a way your dad is looking out for you, and dad's are pretty protective of their daughters especially when horny guys stare and stuff

roody · Answer

If you’re living in his house, I think he’s entitled to put rules on you. Frankly, I can’t blame him to not want his 16 year old girl to have her ass out, he’s just looking out for you.

Anonymous · Answer

You are in high school and live under your parent's roof. If you respect your dad, then listen to him because he is just looking out for you because there are a lot of weirdos and creepers. Trust me, you dont wanna deal with that. Wait until you are 18 and grown enough.

darkcloud1945 · Answer

If it is going to cause a problem if he see you in a thong don' t wear one around him or if he to be around you for awhile and leave just wear it and put a regular bikini over it tucking it in if need be and when he leaves take the bikini bottom off and you have your thong in place.

TeeSquare · Answer

I'd say compromise the situation. Respect your dads wishes when around him. When on your own wear them. Just be prepared for stares and comments from every guy that sees you.

Wise4myage · Answer

As long as he's not forbidding you to wear them, then keep doing it. He will get use to it.

admles · Answer

AT the end of the day, you're still not legally an adult, and if you live under your parents house and they pay for things, whether you like it or not, if he doesn't want you to wear them, it might be best to respect his wishes until you're 18.

At the very least, sit down and talk about it with him.

Imsmart_urdumb · Answer

If you think it will keep you on good terms with him. Family is important, and thong bikinis are pretty risque.

DWornock · Answer

In today's society, bikinis are fine. However, even if you are young and pretty, a thong bikini is pushing it and you shouldn't wear them. Nor should you be that desperate for attention.

Phil1234567890 · Answer

I am a dad and I say just go for it, your dad will never approve but he will be proud of you

Smirnoff23 · Answer

What has it got to do with your dad what you wear as long as your comfortable then keep wearing them

iseekpinetrees · Answer

Wear what u want. he's only telling u his thoughts because he knows how men think. It does attract more of a sexual vibe so if u like the horny boys lookin at u go for it. If u dont. Cover it up more.

NightOwl8801 · Answer

I am a stepdad and I'll apply this to your situation, if mom is ok with it and dad isn't then that's ok too because at the end of the day he still loves you

soe11 · Answer

If your mom is okay then continue. Try to wear micro adjustable strings bikinis too. Micro triangle adjustable strings bikinis are pretty much fashion trends. Don't be shy, be liberal and have fun.

likelyOK · Answer

No you are not even 18, I would make you stay home from the beach if I were him. You are not even old enough to live on your own

foxrider77 · Answer

Maybe at your age wear the Brazilian style since they aren’t as revealing. Then at 18 or after wear what you want.

Anonymous · Answer

You should listen to your father. He knows what he is talking about.

Lottifan · Answer

It’s best if you listen to your dad. He only has your best interest in mind.

lanadelrey25 · Answer

It's gross you would feel comfortable wearing them around him in the first place...

Anonymous · Answer

I think he should allow you to make your own decisions on some things. Give you a little more responsibility.

Younghungguy17 · Answer

I think you should wear whatever you want and males should respect you for your age and body. Just be aware of the attention and looks you might get and stay safe because people aren’t as respectful as they should be

pleasestopthis · Answer

If you still live under his roof respect his opinion on this matter and when you move out you can wear whatever you like.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Thats between really your mom an you sense your dad isn't a girl an of course your going to gets guys looking even if it was a regular bikini

cootjuh · Answer

I don't know i can't say i dont like them till i have seen that ass

angelcat321 · Answer

No. Listen to your dad he's looking out for ya and he loves his daughter.😇

Liam_Hayden · Answer

You should listen to your dad. He knows just how lecherous guys, especially teen guys, can be.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

You can't help being an attention whore and you will continue wearing thong bikinis no matter what your dad thinks.

NorthwestRider · Answer

Your Bikini Your Body Your Choice  Is your dad some backwards prudish religious nut lol

allaboutyou2 · Answer

I believe you know what the right thing to do is. Be mature and do what you think is correct.

NYlatefun · Answer

That’s just so awkward. Not sure how YOU are comfortable doing it.

In_Trance · Answer

Do you respect your Dad or not?

Twenty2 · Answer

Do you really respect him that much?

gandolph3 · Answer

tough question, follow your conscience

Anonymous · Answer

just explain to him that you're an adult catfish now and can choose what to wear on your own

AmeerX · Answer

Stop out of respect for you father

Anonymous · Answer

why are you wearing thong bikini's around your dad for sounds inappropriate and weird

goblueCFB1996 · Answer

Your body your choice

honestGUY45 · Answer

Too young.

Anonymous · Answer

Stop for your dad.

Luve19 · Answer

If you really respect your dad, you would stop

Anonymous · Answer

listen to your dad

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