I’ve lately been very sad because I feel like no one likes me?

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I know that I have a boyfriend that loves me a lot and I love him too but I kinda can’t help feeling bad when he has a friend that he’s had for 20+ year (and several more friends too) and I have no one I feel like a loser and I’ve been sad lately I actually cried today just thinking about how no one likes me and like I’m weird I had asked my cousin if he liked the weather and he ignored me and I felt bad I probably overreacted by crying (I cried in a way that no one would notice I didn’t take my mask off). I’m being really honest when I say that I don’t really have anyone except for my boyfriend. I work at a factory too and it seems like everyone has friends except me there I was trying to talk to this girl that helped me out but we didn’t become friends or anything I still sat all alone for lunch and I think she also ignored me when I was asking her a question. I feel like everytime I talk I’m annoying so maybe I just shouldn’t try to talk to anyone maybe there really is something wrong with me and I just act really weird/awkward. I had friends in highschool but they haven’t contacted me and I tried making friends on bumble a few months ago and I have those girls on Snapchat but they don’t even message me or anything. I feel like a loser

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

We all go through that trust me.

I have a bunch of friends and sometimes it feels like I have none at all, especially on new year's eve for some reason they all make separate plans.

Your case is a bit more serious though, i won't lie to you and say you got friends because it seems clear that you don't. And I told you many times before that having just a boyfriend and no other human interaction is unhealthy.

First you need to get your head out of the negative place, watch a movie you like or listen to a cheerful playlist...

Then you need to begin working on meeting new people.

One practical way I see doing this is by downloading apps, there is one called "meetup" i belive I don't know how popular it is in the states but it's got a community in Europe so I think it would there too.

You select any hobby you like and find groups of people who share that hobby and organize events.

Like say for example chess, you might find a group of chess players you'll meet up, play with, and become friends even ourside the chess event. (Of course it's an example it can be anything you imagine)

The most important thing is you keep your mind focused on the task and not self destruct saying you're too shy or awkward or any of that.

Remember your early dates, you did great and now you have a boyfriend. This is the same idea only instead of a boyfriend you'll get yourself a few friends

bannacookies · Accepted Answer

There's probably more people that like you more than you know, but even if no one did like you that should not stop you from doing your life endeavors. You do you, and the more places you go and the more people you see you will find other people who you'll truly connect with who will like you just the way you are. Sometimes it just takes time.

Pink2000 · Accepted Answer

Are you sure they’re ignoring you or they just didn’t hear you? I like you. I think you’re very sweet but I’ve never met you in person I can still tell you’re very nice. You seem shy as well.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Thats poisonous thinking. If you think about what you don't have comparing yourself to others who have more, you are guaranteed to be miserable.

Maybe you should compare yourself to someone who doesn't have anyone or a boyfriend? Or the girl laid up in a hospital dying of cancer?

how to make friends... make it a fun challenge to learn to mingle with people and have good conversations. develop interests of your own and meet people while enging in those things.

It can be hard to make friends at work sometimes especially if it is "clickish". If that's the case, make them elsewhere doing things you mutually enjoy and can connect with doing same interests.

maybe there is something in how you communicate and engage that is offputting.

Dontaa · Answer

Yeah, I tend to feel like no one likes me as well. I have friends, but I always think they don't like me for whatever reason.

Not having friends doesn't make you a loser, in my opinion.

I like that you've been making effort to make friends, that's good.

I've still have friends from highschool I still keep in contact with, it's only a handful though. I've gained a few new friends from Uni as well.

You just gotta keep trying, it's hard to make friends that'll stick around these days as an adult.

Since unlike in highschool, you don't have to be around the same people 8 hours each weekday for over half a year each year.

bowenw · Answer

I'm sorry to hear you are sad. You are not a loser. This pandemic doesn't help. In my experience you have to be prepared to put yourself out there and not expect everyone to like you. For example don't wait for your high school friends to contact you, just contact them. When the pandemic is over start doing things to meet new people with the same interests as you. For example if you like photography, join a local photography club or take photography lessons. There are probably some things you can get involved with now where events are being held online.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

You must have forgotten me so fast 😂
I wasn't talking to you cause like i said before that i'm giving you time to enjoy the boyfriend that you have never had and i was happy because finally i saw you happy and that your sharing your love with someone and believe me that you have a lot of friends and i'm one of them sweet CONFUUUSED girl 😊

No one was able to talk with you about things that are done as friends since all your questions were related about your and your boyfriend 😏

No worries your okay and there is nothing wrong with you...

COMMODOREII · Answer

Well there is a problem there. I can't say about those other people but I like you very much. I will keep you close to my heart always. So if you ever need to chat or say hi you know you can always chat with me. Don't feel bad little sister. *big hugs*💞💞

Ripper_E · Answer

A lot of people don't have friends past high school. Every goes their separate ways. After college is worse because you might end up going to different states or countries.
It's normal not to have friends, especially because we live in a digital world.
Always be yourself, that way you know people like you for you.

Jjpayne · Answer

I like you as a person! You are beautiful, wonderful and special! Do me a favor though, your family might not be the most supportive in this situation. Find others to talk to including us. You are very special and unqine! Be proud of yourself!

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Well, we can only make friends but making small talk, I know where your coming from when I was in School I had only 1 friend in High School but your too sweet not to find friends

Berethor · Answer

You have a boyfriend, it's usually better than having just friend.

Anonymous · Answer

Be glad that as a girl you're not expected to make the first move or talk to guys first

Iron_Man · Answer

Keep your head up you are liked on the site

Anonymous · Answer

You shoymeet up with your old friend

jasco · Answer

I can be friends with you if you want to be

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