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have and mine was terrible , I moved away 3 years ago and we haven't talked in 2 an half years. I went from a 7 person house hold to 3 person living with my grandma and her boyfriend and now don't talk to my family at all. They think I'm lying and are in denial it happened for year but it was true and when they come to realize it's real I might not be so forgive on the pain they gave me the year it taken them. I basically broke up with my dad's whole side. I was asking my cousin if he had my mom or sister number to call and ask for taxes for financial aid but he said if I wasn't such a bitch an lied this wouldn't have happened and few weeks later had the nerve to ask me. What my email was for my. Old/ his new account on Xbox
Like to think I got child service involved would make them think it's real and it happened to me but noo. I think I'm better off without them now and counseling and moms family side Helped me.
I know this was over share but I didn't break up with them we'll, I moved away to different state with my grandma right after graduating high school. An month in told he what happened and said I wished my parents would get a divorce. It wasn't health.
Its very easy to breakup with extended fam. Just dont answer the door or their phone calls lol. If passerby, wave only when they do and then keep walking. As for immediate fam, its harder because you’re so used to being around them. I've wanted to cut my immediate fam off for a longtime but i can never stay mad at em for more than an hour because i like to hear myself talk too much 😂 just move to a diff state, that’ll help
u 1.- Financial support, who or what is your financial support, being financially independent is the most important thing.
2.- Emotional support, who else you have in your life, besides your family, it's very difficult to be an independent island out there in the world.
3.- Do you have a plan, do you know who you are and what do you want to be, where do you want to go, what to become, is it even possible, how will you make it there.
4.-Unrelenting tenacity, it your family and your house are not a good place, this doesn't mean that the rest of the world will be better, or that welcoming and lenient, this life and the world out there will definitely test you, it might hit you and it usually won't stop or wait, is not easy to be out there on your own.
But maybe you have a different concept of what "breaking up" is.
I cut off contact with my dad for a few years and my mom kicked me out at one point but she continued to support me while I was transitioning and trying to make it on my own. I think it's fine to take some space for yourself when you need it but you should know that long term your goal should be to have a good relationship with them. My perspective has changed a lot from when I was younger and yours might too. You might see their point of view more.
So I'd just tell them you want some space to figure yourself out and you'll let them know when you're ready to come back into close contact. I wouldn't start blaming them or anything just say this is what you need and they will probably accept it and if they don't do it anyway.
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I think you start to think about if they add to your life or they take away. You don't want a toxic family but I think boundaries and space are important words to use when making this transition.
I've become distant from my extended family, thats easy since i don't contact them and I stay away from them plus I don't have any of their number's saved so i never pick up unknown numbers. If its my household members (parents), thats tough to break up from. My parents have always been there for me, though they don't understand me at times, they do love me and do want the best for me.
Yes I have with some family members. But don't make it a big deal, nor do you have to talk to them or "explain" anything. And you don't have to cut them out of your life completely (ie to avoid explaining). Myself, I just don't relate to them on a regular basis (I live alone, obviously this is harder if you are still living with them). I'm here if they ever need me, but as far as regular relating, we don't do it. They have their life and I have mine. And I don't want them in mine on a regular basis. We are very different people and they aren't good for me.
I haven't, but I have distance myself from them. Some people are toxic and you don't need that in your life
Depends on how you were with them before and the cause. For me, actually cutting them out of my life, was cathartic. They weren’t there for me when I needed them most, and it hurt. So removing them helped me.
Just put some space there if you need. Don’t try to cut them out. That’s a move that won’t work and you would regret if it does. It says you’re 19, time to start building own life.
NO! This is a bad idea. What you need to do, is set boundaries with your family. Set them according to the level of harm you recieve. Don't cut them off.
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