Is your family against interracial relationships/marriage?

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Most of my family isn’t a huge fan of it and are against it. Most people prefer their own kind and enthicity which is normal but rejecting someone because of their race is racist. My family didn’t didn’t approve my first boyfriend because he’s Latino. They told me to break up with him or else they won’t speak to me. He was a shitty boyfriend anyways. They accepted my second ex because he’s white. I’m a white (Caucasian) young woman and race don’t matter to me as long as the man treats me right. The guy I was currently seeing is mixed (white/Native American) but my family gave us a hard time and scold me off for bring him and if I hadn’t of brought him, the drama would not have happened. He scolded at me for pushing him to meet them but that’s for another post. I didn’t push him. I have a cousin who’s married to this amazing beautiful, kind woman and she’s black. My most of my family went ballistic and completely disowned him. His parents (my aunt and uncle) doesn’t see him as a son and refuses to go to his wedding. A lot of our family didn’t go to the wedding. My siblings, my dad, three relatives and I were the only ones that went. It was a beautiful wedding. My aunt and uncle have NEVER met their four beautiful grandchildren and they are missing out. They bluntly said they don’t want half black grandchildren. I wish my family wasn’t so racist towards interracial couples. If it’s friendships they are open but not to relationships.

[California_Poppy]

In general, I think it makes for a better relationship when your family supports it.

I'm already mixed so I have never had pressure to date within a certain race, but my family tends to trust my judgement and I have never felt the need to ask for their approval.
If I love a man and he's good to me, and I have decided to make him my family, that's the end of it. I will not tolerate any disrespect towards him.

That being said, if you live with your parents, you should not disrespect them or their rules, and if they have valid criticisms, you should always listen to them. At the end of the day, they want what's best for you.

[WonderBell99]

No, they don’t care about my partner’s race. As long as he takes care of me and is a good man, they won’t have a problem. Some of my relatives are a bit more on the traditional side. I’m Indian and almost all my uncles and aunts have married non Indians, while their families were initially against it, they came around eventually.

You don’t always have to listen to your family. They just sound like a bunch of racists.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

They are racist. If they don’t like it, that’s their problem not mine.

[AaronKrieger]

No, I think I have some family members who are, but they just kept it to themselves for the most part when I dated a girl who's muslim a few years ago. Sorry to hear about your situation though. I'm not entirely sure what I would do in it.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Oh okay. At least some of your relatives keep it to themselves. Most of my family is super blunt and has no filter about it.

[AaronKrieger]

Do you ever have arguments or try to correct your family members? I could see that being frustrating if they aren't respectful about it.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

I do but they say I’m talking back to them and scold at me for “talking back”. When I stand up for myself I get shit for it. That’s why I zip my mouth. Unless is this then I will stand up for myself

[lightbulb27]

That's extreme.

Most of my family is mixed this or that. It was more about character, but I'm sure they prefered me staying in my heritage.

[Jazzy54]

Nope. As long as a man treats me well, is a hard worker, and is a gentleman, they won’t care about his ethnicity. 😊

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

You’re so lucky. I wish my family and be open minded but unfortunately I can’t change their minds. If they wanna disown me, fine by me.

[Jazzy54]

I’m sorry you don’t have their support. 😔💔

[mandyfire98]

Nope I've dated outside my race and my family were cool with it. My mother dated outside her race in the past too.

[BlackJeep]

My family would not care. Ironically I am in an interracial relationship and my family loves her nationality. They all have many friends from where she's from.

[Berethor]

My mom and dad are from different nationalities, and at my age I can't be too picky right?

[Agape93]

No, more issues with cultures, values and religious opinions

[BLP11520]

Unfortunately my family would have flipped out over this issue

[BLP11520]

Before I married I asked a Latino out she shot me down

[LiamJHayden]

My parents would never have cared about anything except my being happy and the girl treating me right.

[Raaj4you]

Nope, my parents are cool and supportive. I told them I will marry a western white girl. Otherwise I will stay single for life.

[dudeinohio]

My dad and his wife are... but I don't care what they say. I was in several ir relationships.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No, they are supportive and open-minded.

[gothbxtch]

no, they are in support of them

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

You’re so lucky. I wish my family is like that but unfortunately we’re unlucky.

[gothbxtch]

i’m sorry :((

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Thank you

[bowenw]

They are not against it and neither am I.

[pethouse]

Your parents seem racist asf

[htmndg183]

They're not against it.

[LavLavLuv]

Nope