You need to explain to her the effects of her behavior and how it's straining your relationship. But it sounds to me like you don't hate her or anything, you just need her to respect your personal space and your boyfriend's. Tbh it might be better coming from him, coz brothers can be more brutally honest with their siblings. Maybe there's a diplomatic and non-aggressive way to frame the conversation though, since she sounds quite fragile and looks up to you both a lot (perhaps to an unhealthy degree, but still...). Maybe frame it like "we both care for you a lot, and it's because we care that we have to address this behavior, because the last thing either of us want is to start resenting you because we can't get personal space anymore. We can still be close and all, but boundaries are important not just for us, but for you as well, because as a young woman it's important for you to know you can carve out a time and place in the world that's truly just your own. If you want any help from us to get you started on some positive changes like reconnecting with old friends, we'd be happy to help how we can. But we need some sort of assurance that you'll respect our privacy and our personal time going forwards, because if not then I can't see how we can move forwards the way things are going currently."
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Lol she's like a puppy... Practically there's only two options... Confront her to stop or move out... It's up to you to decide which is easier... But you might wanna do it fast cuz it started to affect your relationship
How old is she? Does he not have any other sisters she can bond with? She seems codependent. This isn't healthy behaviour this will have an effect on all her relationships too. She probably only trusts you. She is fond of you and may not have been taught about personal space. It would be best if he explained to her as he is her brother. This can cause problems in your relationship. If your boyfriend doesn't speak to her then you will have to do it. If all else fails move out. You are not her babysitter nor is she your responsibility.
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You and him need to talk to her and set boundaries
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