What it has to do with is that I'm not you, I don't need your "emotional support", it simply doesn't help me or do anything for me.I need different things, things that are different from what you may need.I'm not "depriving" myself of anything because "I'm not a girl", I simply work differently from you.Do you understand?So can you start listening and taking me seriously and stop projecting onto me "things I need" because you think I need them, even though I literally just told you that I don't?That's really the only thing I want from a woman.To intently listen to me when I say that "I don't need your emotional support, ever" and accept that, and then live her life without wondering or trying to offer me "emotional support" ever again.And this is not because of "patriarchal conditioning" or because of my pride or any other BS.It is because it does-not-do-anything-for-me-to-just-talk-about-things, like literally, literally in the most literal sense of the word "literally".What I need is for my issues to be solved, it does absolutely nothing for me to talk about "being upset", because this doesn't solve the issue I'm upset about, so talking about it does, literally, nothing.It's literally a complete waste of time.Also, I never said or implied anything of the sort that you responded to me with.But it's ok, I know you are a woman and that you never actually try to comprehend what men are saying because it's all just about you and your ego.
@HugoThe2nd Have you found a woman that does as you ask?
@Kas19 As a matter of fact, I have.She acts the way a man would, does the things a male friend does for me, and she has no female friends for exactly the same reason that I have just complained about.She also happens to be the best woman I know, but also really the only woman who I know to be this way.
@HugeloThe2nd Glad to hear. Sounds like a decent relationship.
I mean, it is.She is one of my best friends for 10 years now.
Honestly, this whole rant is triggered by the fact that this whole issue of women insisting on trying to see things that "may be bothering me" instead of accepting what I tell them at face value is just making me feel like they don't actually give a shit about listening to me and are just doing it for themselves for some odd reason.So, no. Sorry.I don't want a woman's support, how can someone who constantly ignores what I tell them and doesn't take me seriously possibly help me?
Like that person, who is now removed and blocked.Who kept making my response which was about me and nobody else, into something that was about her and everyone else but me and made accusations of things I have never even implied while ignoring every bit of what I said because it triggered her little ego.
@HugoThe2nd That's awesome. I wonder why they don't believe you if you say nothing is bothering you.
Lol, how should I know.I always suspected it's because they are different, and when they say that nothing is bothering them, there is probably something bothering them anyway.Maybe they do have a legitimate concern for me, but the more I keep repeating myself the more frustrated I become and they seem to interpret this as the confirmation that something IS in fact bothering me if I'm getting defensive and they try even harder... which makes me even more annoyed etc.I've been made to feel way too many times like my personality is some kind of front or a defect.Particularly by women like the OP and this other poster who have "experiences with other men treating them like therapists" that they assume all men are that way, and if I'm not it's probably because I'm some kind of a toxic asshole who has to act tough.Not only does this undermine and illegitimize the way I personally am, they then proceed to make me out to be the villain who is somehow taking away from or harming other males by expressing being a certain way.It's the same thing ad infinitum.I don't care what other people need support in, If they need support they should ask, I'm not trying to take anyone's ability to do that by expressing that *I* don't really need it- because it just doesn't work for me.At this point I'm dreading the "so you got anything on your heart you wanna talk about?" conversation with each new female acquaintance I have, because I'm either treated as, at best, closed-off and at worst, immature, unfriendly or a dick by not confiding in them with whatever.
And, yeah. I acknowledge that part of the blame lies on me because I certainly am immediately annoyed when it is brought up, again, and that it is not the their fault that they are 20th+ whatever person who is asking me this.I'm simply frustrated because I feel like whatever I reply to that offer/inquiry, it's to my detriment and damaging to my connection with the person, unless I, what? Make up some kind of an issue that's troubling me?Awesome.
Were always here for you.
@DaMack999 haha thank you lol
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They don't sound like good friends to me. Friends should have each other's backs
I Got one good friend I don't see him a lot tho cause bars are closed and kinda only thing we have in common. we have very different lifes but our mothers live next to eachother so knew eachother very young our names could have been the title of a sitcom we are Just one letter apart.Once in a while we drink a beer and Just talk about womens and feels and Just have fun and even suicide ain't taboo as a topic we both dealt with those feels.But yeah as I said that is the only one besides the woman I know from online chatting meeting women IRL did never really happen for me not that I didn't try and yeah I have to deal with what I get.So if we talking about having support from the other gender no I haven't I barely get attention from the other gender.
So yeah as as I said I am stuck between 2 evils
@Adinapopaa NO, I never even imagine sexual things, with these friends!! I care about them, like sisters, and relate to them, that way.Sorry if that disappoints you.
I think you have the wrong friends. Healthy friendships provide reciprocal emotional support
Yeah. I agree.
That's not true
@AmeerX I should clarify-I mean as romantic partners. As "friends" being needy is ok with women.
Not sure why I got a downvote...