Ma'am, you're 18. Its very very normal not to get baby fever yet. At your age all girls around me said they didn't want children later. Don't worry and dob't let your friends make you feel guilty about not having a "feeling". It will probably come by the time you're around 23 and reach peak fertility. And even if you're one of the few cases that don't, that"s okay. Plenty of guys that don't want children either.
As far as I am concerned, it is perfectly normal. I don't want any kids ever. I don't want to waste 7 years at uni just so I can change smelly diapers.
Not having children is becoming more common as families\households aren’t driven by religious tenets. 50 years ago, getting married and having kids was what you were “supposed” to do in your 20s. I’m glad people are moving away from superstition.
Well, it could be that your an anomaly which is fine, it is weird because it is human nature to want kids, but its also your life so what ever. It could be childhood trauma that makes you apprehensive towards it. OR it could be hormonal birth control (if your on it. It convinces your body your already pregnant and thus shuts down the drive to want to have kids because your body thinks your already having one (among many other things)).
I totally understand, to be honest i don't have baby fever, but at the same time if it happens i will appreciate it, I think you are maybe overanalyzing things. I'd let things happen naturally instead of being either excited or not excited. Because if it's meant to be you will love it , if not you should love it as well. Love your life either way, and NO there is nothing wrong with you, you should just not analyze it too much and go with the flow.
Yes it's normal depending on what your goals are in life. They say baby fever hits a woman around 30 years of age. I have seen this first hand. Many young women don't want kids in their 20's and then all of a sudden wham. Now I do know a few women who have never wanted kids and have not felt the baby fever themselves. As you age you might change your mind so yes it's normal. Go with the flow.
Aww, you don't want any mini Butterflyhope's running around? Time may wear you down; the last 30 years of your life is a longtime but if you still feel that way after 30 may as well stick to your guns because the risk of defects shoots up through the roof. & don't feel bad, I love kid's but will never have any of my own although I wouldn't be opposed if I loved a woman & she had 1-2.
I know a lot of women who had children in their 30's and even 40's, and the risk of defects is still pretty low, especially compared to a 20 year old who drinks and gets high while pregnant.
Femininity is such a thing for some it hits earlier for some late for some it doesn't nurturing is an instinct for most girls and for some it's not the main thing.
You can decide when the time comes and you will know what to do in that time your instinct will guide you untill then just go with the flow
It’s normal, especially today. Look at how many people Witt kids are miserable. I’m 36 and I am loving the child free life. Never wanted kids yet so far so until I change my mind, that is that.
It’s totally normal. There was a point in time when I DID NOT like kids at all, now it’s not as much but I think they’re still annoying as hell. Babies super cute though.
You're not alone. I don't think I'll ever want to have a baby. I don't think that I'm qualified to raising them and educating them. I haven't told my family because it's none of their business, it's something I should discuss with my future husband
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Yeah, it's normal in this crazy, crazy world
I won't have kids because no woman who have me, the world is ending in just a few short years, my list of potentially hereditary conditions make for shall I say, uneasy reading and those conditions will very likely kill me before they can drink away the pain of my passing
My girlfriend and I don't want to have kids. Our mindset is that if we change our minds later (she's 35, so she isn't fertile much longer) we could always adopt. We still get to raise a kid and that kid gets a loving and supportive home.
Welcome to America where people are so narcissistic that they forego there single biological imperative to entertain themselves. Rest assured if u think u never want kids, ESPECIALLY as a woman then just wait till u hit 30 and your eggs start screaming louder than a baptist choir.
Yeah, that's complete bullshit. Not wanting children isn't "narcissism", but a perfectly normal and natural attitude that many people have because they simply either do not want children, or do not believe they would make a good parent. Alternatively, they may just not see the necessity for producing offspring on a planet that already has far too many people on it.
@Silas_153 Everything u just said was utter bullshit. Those who don't want children want to forego maturation. They don't want the responsibility. They want to focus on pleasing themselves and doing nothing meaningful with their lives. You don't even realize none of what u just said is even ur own thoughts or words, it's far too cliched. It's not an actual issue u're experiencing, it's an excuse that u've adopted as ur identity. What proof is there in ur life experience that there's too many people on the planet? Also put some thought into what would constitute a person deeming themself unfit for parenting even though there organs are fully functional? If u actually think about it u'll see it makes no sense ultimately. What if ur parents or grandparents shared the same sentiment? Oh why do I even bother, do as u please as long as it affects no one else. Which even that I can't say with a straight face because I can see beyond my own nose.
Wow. Every word of this is complete garbage. Do you actually believe this? My "identity"? What on Earth are you going on about? At no point in my life have I ever wanted children. Ever. When I was in primary school I already knew this. What "proof" do I have there are too many people? Well, there are well in excess of seven thousand million of us, and rising. Constantly rising. You do know, don't you, the direct connection that exists between the number of people (or organisms generally) that exist within any given environment, and the strain upon limited resources that those people place upon that environment. We can't just keep breeding without end. "Organs fully functional" - Er... it's not about having functioning organs, LOL :D It's about assessing one's ability to cope with such a drastic change to one's life, it's about whether a person is psychologically able to be a parent (and most are not, in my view). Anyway, you're right about one thing. I DON'T want the responsibility! It's MY life, not yours, so my own free choices are completely irrelevant to you (or at least they should be, but you seem to care so much about how others live their lives for some reason).
My apologies. I respect ur one responsible decision and sincerely appreciate ur valiant sacrifice. While u're at it we'd appreciate it if u could also abstain from sex as well. Wouldn't want any mishaps. Leave the activity for it's intended purpose👌🏾 Thank you.
From someone who has two of the little shits, take your time. Unless of course you like sleepless nights, back talking, unappreciative responses to all your best efforts, and feeling older by the day rather than the year. In which case, be my guest.
@cth96190 I thought so. You're an absolute, disgusting sicko. Your comment will be reported, for encouragement of violence against children. Do you have any unfortunate children? If so, I'll call the police as well.
@Silas You are a libtard who does not discipline children, which is the root cause of the increase in delinquency and juvenile crime. Children need physical discipline. Even the Bible tells parents to not “spare the rod.” Flogging disobedient children saves them.
I dont agree with abuse. But lacking discipline is why we have kids who feel entitled to everything. For those who think kids are cute little angels, you dont have kids. Dont get me wrong. I love and do everything for my children. But i won't coddle them when they decide to be butt holes. And trust me, kids can and will be butt holes
@cth96190 "Libtard"? That's not a word. What an idiot you are. How would you like to be "flogged"? You do know the Bible is complete fiction, don't you?
@Silas_153 I am not a limp-wristed Democrat soy boy, so I know what it is to get physical. I am a former soldier, a student of Shotokan karate and a licensed bodyguard, private investigator and security guard. As I write this, I am outside a juvenile prison that has a problem. I have to get physical with mental cases, junkies, drunks and scumbags as part of my job. I do not expect you to know anything about such masculine occupations. As for the Bible, you are a sterotypically ignorant lefty.
@cth96190 You're a bot, aren't you? Your responses are silly, entirely predictable, littered with right-wing MGTOW and incel phrases (like "libtard" and "soy-boy"), you don't present anything that's actually worth reading, and you seem bitter and angry for some reason. Probably because no old woman in her right mind would ever want to date you. "Masculine occupations" - LOL. What a joke! Why didn't you add special forces commando and astronaut to your fantasy? Why didn't you make up some bullshit story about how you're now stalking the enemy in the mountains somewhere, and just waiting to pounce upon the Taliban forces, but at the same time you're being stalked by an alien who wants to blast you with his laser-gun? And yes, the Bible is BULLSHIT!
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Ma'am, you're 18. Its very very normal not to get baby fever yet. At your age all girls around me said they didn't want children later. Don't worry and dob't let your friends make you feel guilty about not having a "feeling". It will probably come by the time you're around 23 and reach peak fertility. And even if you're one of the few cases that don't, that"s okay. Plenty of guys that don't want children either.
As far as I am concerned, it is perfectly normal. I don't want any kids ever. I don't want to waste 7 years at uni just so I can change smelly diapers.
Not having children is becoming more common as families\households aren’t driven by religious tenets. 50 years ago, getting married and having kids was what you were “supposed” to do in your 20s. I’m glad people are moving away from superstition.
Well, it could be that your an anomaly which is fine, it is weird because it is human nature to want kids, but its also your life so what ever. It could be childhood trauma that makes you apprehensive towards it. OR it could be hormonal birth control (if your on it. It convinces your body your already pregnant and thus shuts down the drive to want to have kids because your body thinks your already having one (among many other things)).
I totally understand, to be honest i don't have baby fever, but at the same time if it happens i will appreciate it, I think you are maybe overanalyzing things.
I'd let things happen naturally instead of being either excited or not excited. Because if it's meant to be you will love it , if not you should love it as well. Love your life either way, and NO there is nothing wrong with you, you should just not analyze it too much and go with the flow.
If you mean "normal" as in what generally occurs, then no, it's not normal. But if you mean it as in "okay," then yeah. It's okay.
Yes it's normal depending on what your goals are in life. They say baby fever hits a woman around 30 years of age. I have seen this first hand. Many young women don't want kids in their 20's and then all of a sudden wham. Now I do know a few women who have never wanted kids and have not felt the baby fever themselves. As you age you might change your mind so yes it's normal. Go with the flow.
Aww, you don't want any mini Butterflyhope's running around? Time may wear you down; the last 30 years of your life is a longtime but if you still feel that way after 30 may as well stick to your guns because the risk of defects shoots up through the roof. & don't feel bad, I love kid's but will never have any of my own although I wouldn't be opposed if I loved a woman & she had 1-2.
I know a lot of women who had children in their 30's and even 40's, and the risk of defects is still pretty low, especially compared to a 20 year old who drinks and gets high while pregnant.
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Normal means what most people do, so probably not.
Acceptable is another question and that is based on preferences and opinion and only your opinion matters.
Femininity is such a thing for some it hits earlier for some late for some it doesn't nurturing is an instinct for most girls and for some it's not the main thing.
You can decide when the time comes and you will know what to do in that time your instinct will guide you untill then just go with the flow
It’s normal, especially today. Look at how many people Witt kids are miserable. I’m 36 and I am loving the child free life. Never wanted kids yet so far so until I change my mind, that is that.
It’s totally normal. There was a point in time when I DID NOT like kids at all, now it’s not as much but I think they’re still annoying as hell. Babies super cute though.
You're not alone. I don't think I'll ever want to have a baby. I don't think that I'm qualified to raising them and educating them. I haven't told my family because it's none of their business, it's something I should discuss with my future husband
Yeah, it's normal in this crazy, crazy world
I won't have kids because no woman who have me, the world is ending in just a few short years, my list of potentially hereditary conditions make for shall I say, uneasy reading and those conditions will very likely kill me before they can drink away the pain of my passing
My girlfriend and I don't want to have kids. Our mindset is that if we change our minds later (she's 35, so she isn't fertile much longer) we could always adopt. We still get to raise a kid and that kid gets a loving and supportive home.
Ok do not think it's normal but I do think it's your right not to if you don't.
I appreciate that.
Welcome to America where people are so narcissistic that they forego there single biological imperative to entertain themselves. Rest assured if u think u never want kids, ESPECIALLY as a woman then just wait till u hit 30 and your eggs start screaming louder than a baptist choir.
Yeah, that's complete bullshit. Not wanting children isn't "narcissism", but a perfectly normal and natural attitude that many people have because they simply either do not want children, or do not believe they would make a good parent. Alternatively, they may just not see the necessity for producing offspring on a planet that already has far too many people on it.
@Silas_153 Everything u just said was utter bullshit. Those who don't want children want to forego maturation. They don't want the responsibility. They want to focus on pleasing themselves and doing nothing meaningful with their lives. You don't even realize none of what u just said is even ur own thoughts or words, it's far too cliched. It's not an actual issue u're experiencing, it's an excuse that u've adopted as ur identity. What proof is there in ur life experience that there's too many people on the planet? Also put some thought into what would constitute a person deeming themself unfit for parenting even though there organs are fully functional? If u actually think about it u'll see it makes no sense ultimately. What if ur parents or grandparents shared the same sentiment?
Oh why do I even bother, do as u please as long as it affects no one else. Which even that I can't say with a straight face because I can see beyond my own nose.
Wow. Every word of this is complete garbage. Do you actually believe this? My "identity"? What on Earth are you going on about?
At no point in my life have I ever wanted children. Ever. When I was in primary school I already knew this.
What "proof" do I have there are too many people? Well, there are well in excess of seven thousand million of us, and rising. Constantly rising. You do know, don't you, the direct connection that exists between the number of people (or organisms generally) that exist within any given environment, and the strain upon limited resources that those people place upon that environment. We can't just keep breeding without end.
"Organs fully functional" - Er... it's not about having functioning organs, LOL :D It's about assessing one's ability to cope with such a drastic change to one's life, it's about whether a person is psychologically able to be a parent (and most are not, in my view).
Anyway, you're right about one thing. I DON'T want the responsibility! It's MY life, not yours, so my own free choices are completely irrelevant to you (or at least they should be, but you seem to care so much about how others live their lives for some reason).
My apologies. I respect ur one responsible decision and sincerely appreciate ur valiant sacrifice. While u're at it we'd appreciate it if u could also abstain from sex as well. Wouldn't want any mishaps. Leave the activity for it's intended purpose👌🏾
Thank you.
Whether or not I have sex isn't your business either, but just for the record I don't. I'm just not interested in it.
Thank you. Much appreciated.
Yes! You get to make your own decisions in this life and you choose what’s best for you.
I don’t get that baby fever from holding a baby either.
Babies & small children are fun & adorable when you can give them back. I personally dont want children either
From someone who has two of the little shits, take your time. Unless of course you like sleepless nights, back talking, unappreciative responses to all your best efforts, and feeling older by the day rather than the year. In which case, be my guest.
When a child talks back, that is solved easily.
I feel sorry for your children. Too bad you aren't sterile.
@cth96190 It is? How?
@Silas_153
Flog the child.
There is not much wrong with any child that a flogging will not fix.
@cth96190 I thought so. You're an absolute, disgusting sicko. Your comment will be reported, for encouragement of violence against children. Do you have any unfortunate children? If so, I'll call the police as well.
@Silas
You are a libtard who does not discipline children, which is the root cause of the increase in delinquency and juvenile crime.
Children need physical discipline. Even the Bible tells parents to not “spare the rod.”
Flogging disobedient children saves them.
I dont agree with abuse. But lacking discipline is why we have kids who feel entitled to everything. For those who think kids are cute little angels, you dont have kids. Dont get me wrong. I love and do everything for my children. But i won't coddle them when they decide to be butt holes. And trust me, kids can and will be butt holes
@cth96190 "Libtard"? That's not a word. What an idiot you are. How would you like to be "flogged"? You do know the Bible is complete fiction, don't you?
@Silas_153
I am not a limp-wristed Democrat soy boy, so I know what it is to get physical.
I am a former soldier, a student of Shotokan karate and a licensed bodyguard, private investigator and security guard.
As I write this, I am outside a juvenile prison that has a problem.
I have to get physical with mental cases, junkies, drunks and scumbags as part of my job.
I do not expect you to know anything about such masculine occupations.
As for the Bible, you are a sterotypically ignorant lefty.
@cth96190 You're a bot, aren't you? Your responses are silly, entirely predictable, littered with right-wing MGTOW and incel phrases (like "libtard" and "soy-boy"), you don't present anything that's actually worth reading, and you seem bitter and angry for some reason. Probably because no old woman in her right mind would ever want to date you.
"Masculine occupations" - LOL. What a joke! Why didn't you add special forces commando and astronaut to your fantasy? Why didn't you make up some bullshit story about how you're now stalking the enemy in the mountains somewhere, and just waiting to pounce upon the Taliban forces, but at the same time you're being stalked by an alien who wants to blast you with his laser-gun?
And yes, the Bible is BULLSHIT!