Why would my dad be so negative like this toward my dream?

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He told me that i won't have any kids and i wanted to burst out crying because its my dream to be a mom one day and Ill be 23 this year and all i was saying is in the future Ill have 4th of July with my kids and he comes out saying "you won't have any"😞😢

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure I think your dad puts a lot of pressure on you I think your dad want you to do things in life he probably puts pressure on you to move out but at the same time he keeps you there to do things for him. Like you're Cinderella or something and he's the Wicked stepsisters. No that's not fair to say I apologize for that some parents don't like when their children are growing up and they start succeeding and they're going to send a move away in a lot of different ways parents hold you back I think you probably argue a lot with your dad because you have an opinion on things that he says that's okay but you need to learn how to argue back there's ways not to do it when you start getting an attitude and you argue back that gives him just more reason to only see it his way and put you down because he's the dad and you not supposed to talk to him that is his feeling. So if you have an argument with him learn how to argue learn when to push the button and when not to push the button that's what he's waiting for he knows you so well he knows he can get you to do anything and he knows how to push your buttons to make you get louder and start a fight that way it's your fault not his learn how to stay calm understand what you trying to do. And the reason behind it. And use your words carefully I don't even know if you read that the steps that I send you but if you do you don't want him to know that you know this you want to use it for yourself when you need to use it. If anything I say remember this place when people you are arguing with they try to get you out of the control. That way you become the bad guy and you just start saying things off the top of your head that's when they know they have you so learn how to control yourself and your words don't let other people's opinions bother you you are in control of your self nobody else

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

How does HE know you'll never have kids?
But, I know how you feel. When I was around you age, maybe younger, my grandmother asked me something like, what do you want to be in life and I told her and she came right back with a kind of insult saying it'll never happen. I don't recall, at the moment, what it was but, I ran out of the room hurt and crying! I'm pretty sure she was a tiny bit drunk at the time. I can't say if I ever got that because I don't recall what it was.

banice · Accepted Answer

Kamon that's what ur dad says but that's not what u want or what God want for you listening to negative words especially to people who are soo close to us hurts us soo much but its ur choice to either ignore what ur dad or other say about you and pruv them wrong or just seat and keep on crying or feeling bad about what was said about you

tatianamay · Accepted Answer

Oh my gosh, im so sorry. No offense, but your parents seem hella toxic. You'll have kids! It's your life, not his. Just try to tolerate your parents for a few more years until you move out :/ if you ever wanna talk, feel free to DM me :)

FlowerSeeds · Answer

Awwwwww I'm sorry girl just try to talk with him and tell him how that made you feel, that it hurt you when he said that

Still-alive · Answer

God he's so mean im sorry. Well he doesn't know the future so he could be dead wrong

bowenw · Answer

He may secretly want grandkids and is hoping you will by saying you won't. You could say when you do they won't be visiting him with his negativism.

Alyssa11 · Answer

That sounds odd. What he said should t matter though I’m sure you’ll become a mum one day.

pink_and_inlove · Answer

Im sorry at the end it’s your choice don’t listen to him. He might just be one of those people that let out their bad day on you

downhomegirl · Answer

That’s horrible. Are you infertile? I’m infertile and that would break my heart

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like he's not a nice Dad, he's not a loving and caring dad, it shouldn't be that hard for you to get a boyfriend

Marhaban-1 · Answer

I don't know its just a dream but its an indicator to what you have been thinking about

exitseven · Answer

I'm sort of looking forward to having grandkids.

msc545 · Answer

Ask him.

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