Because society has taught you since birth to be nothing but selfish. Everything is about you. Every decision you make about everything is all about you being happy, you getting your way, you demanding respect, you putting others in their place, don't take crap from anyone, don't deny yourself anything, every drug, every drink, every party, every possible lover, everything is about getting your rights, making sure others respect you... me, me, me, me.
You've never been taught that true peace comes from caring for others and putting others above yourself, loving others through charity, acts of service and kindness, reaching out to the needy and those that are suffering. Now you are at a point to where life as asking you to invest into the life of an innocent child and caring for that child and putting the child first... now your selfish, the universe revolves around me, nothing is more important than my comfort and feelings and getting my way inner demon is demanding to be heard.
Society has never mentioned to you putting others above yourself. This is a foreign concept to you. Society will only preach to you... party, drink, get rich, be successful, its all about you, that is how you are "happy" that is how you are "content".
You know so true what you said people now a days especially this generation had become selfish. I had friends that are wealthy and confess to me that they never feel happy no matter how much they travel no matter how much they go shopping , They had told me they had the empty space.
Your pregnant, your emotions are all over the place. It's okay and it's going to be fine. Just eat your ice cream, go for walks, cry when you want to and laugh when you want to. This emotional roller coaster is perfectly normal when you are pregnant. The journey is worth the result. Just wait until you hold that baby and look into his eyes for the first time. There is no describing that feeling. It's worth it, just to have that feeling once in your life. I hope you got a good support system and just hang in there, its going to be fine.
I used to cry a lot when I was pregnant with my first son, I regret crying now because I had transmitted all my emotions to my son he cry's I mean a lot. I talk to a doctor and according to the doctor the reasons my son cry's it's because I cry a lot during my pregnancy and I transmitted all the emotions to my son. She needs to try to stay happy and look at the positive side.
@Alwayreckles93 It doesn't quite work that way. You're son crying has nothing to do with you crying during pregnancy. I mean, you may have passed a genetic trait down, that happens to involve crying. But it wasn't you crying during your pregnancy that makes him cry.
It could be a physical trait, where some people have the propensity to cry more than others.
I have a little anecdote, maybe it's helpful. I got a pretty massive concussion a few years back, I still have symptoms, today. But one of the symptoms right after, was spontaneous uncontrollable sobbing. I would be sitting minding my own business in a complete fog and I would just explode into tears for about an hour every day. There was nothing I could do. Nothing caused it, except the concussion.
My guess is your son will grow out of it. I wouldn't put much stock into what you did to make your kid weepy. He just may be that way for now, but kids usually grow out of a lot of things like that.
1… 2… 3. Breathe. You’re gonna be fine, okay? You’re gonna be the best mom in the whole damn world. You should know that. You’re gonna provide your kid with the best life he deserves. You’re pregnant. Your emotional and hormonal. You’re not regretting this, you just feel like you’re having second thoughts. But in reality, you don’t. You’re just scared. You’re scared that you won’t be a good mom and it’s not true. You’re gonna be an amazing mom. Trust me. Your boyfriend is supportive of you, and you should be happy about that! Not many guys are like that yk? Your baby has a wonderful father and mother. All the best!
Don't be so hard on yourself , I bet you will be a great mom. It is scary always being first time parents. I was 26 when I had my first son. Just wait until that little is born it is the best feeling ever. Don't let negative people get to you. You are still able to do great things. It can be scary at first. Advice try not to let people make you upset or Cry during your pregnancy. It is all transmitted to the baby. If you need advice from a mom let me know.
By the way congrats.
If you have any questions send me a message. I am a mom of two little ones I be glad to help.
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Hon I know exactly how you feel. When I fell pregnant it wasn't planned, it was totally unexpected. I was so scared and nervous that I wouldn't be a good mother and that I would miss out on things in my life. You'll soon come to realize that there's NOTHING in this world that can match the feeling that that little boy will give you. My son is 2 years old now and I have loved every second of watching him grow and learn. The biggest and most important thing you'll need is PATIENCE! A baby has no awareness of the outside world, they come into this world knowing absolutely nothing. He will cry and scream and keep you up at odd hours of the night. It will be very tough and frustrating at times but you must always keep in mind that it's just a part of it. After all, we've been raising children since the dawn of time so you're definitely not alone in feeling the way that you do!
My son is two years old too lol
Ufff. Myself, I wouldn't want a baby until like 25-30. It's early to be making hard choices about someone else's life when you are still pretty much a child yourself.
Not to mention you truly haven't enjoyed life a bit. You could have built a successful career, travelled with your boyfriend around the world, made some impact. Now, it's gonna be way harder with someone else who you always have to think and care about and take him into consideration as a significant factor.
I would advise going for an abortion - but that's not a choice anymore, is it? Abortion is kinda harsh... I wouldn't have the heart.
Adoption is kinda harsh*
wouldn't make much sense otherwise
STOP BEING SO NEGATIVE ! She is pregnant we have to think outside the box. Not trying to forced my beliefs but a child is a blessing. A lot of young mom's are able to managed motherhood isn't for everyone. Take your negative vibe else where.
Negative? You misunderstood me. It's about being rational and realistic. What good is it for that child if it gets raised by another child? Being 18 is all about instability and rapid changes, you are not ready to set someone else on their venture into life. What of the important life advice and support the child needs? It's of grave importance to be well prepared, not to dive into it head-first 😉
But as I said - the only two outcomes are adoption or keeping it. I'd rather keep it myself, but it depends. I don't know the couple to say if it's not for the best to give it to someone more experienced and actually fully willing, without any doubt.
But let's remember she is pregnant. A comment like yours will hurt her feelings she is emotional right now and that is normal. Her emotions can affect her baby in the long run. Let's keep our comments respectful. Also they do offer parent classes that she can take. Maybe she has postpartum depression. Just wait within the next 15 years when you become a father you will understand what parenthood really means. I am not being rude all I'm saying is she is pregnant and woman attend to be very emotional ups and downs. We can't judge her she needs support our job is to help.
Well, I would rather take the baby as the priority, not the gal, pardon me for taking it seriously. Didn't catch the point in you stating that I should wait another 15 years, you only applied my logic - we are not ready 😉
What is rude about considering all the options? I am not saying she is to put it away, I am saying that it is a hard nut to crack and she has to be aware of things. I am also saying that it could be a really bad idea to raise a child as a child, giving it probably the worst foundation to its life.
Tell me, do you know what 15-20yo parents like to do? Having fun, for one. Alcohol, drugs. Secundo? They tend to get divorced. Thirdly? They do not install any meaningful values into their children. Pardon me for experiencing a ton of it. Glad you haven't and thus you are not aware 😊
All so sorry she is emotional right now - hope their child won't be traumatised, that's all. Being weak and depressed is kinda second-hand when it comes to the well being of their child, wouldn't you agree? I hope they are well aware of possible risks. So please, don't you simplify this matter with an "oh, poor lass" card. It's the child that is the victim here. Or maybe not - they might be great parents. Who knows. I do not claim to be right, I claim to be preemptive and to not risk another person's life because of someone lack of understanding. Negativity is pure nihilism and destructive thinking. Since she is already regretting it, it seems like my words are true. If you don't understand that, read it again. Maybe, when you will see an 18yo mother choking her child to death because of "depressions", you will finally get the idea. Until then, you can be happy you haven't witnessed that.
Give her just positivity so other 18yo girls can follow her example of a fairy tale and so she won't be ready to make tough decisions. When they crack, the blood is on your hands.
However, I will fight for reason, peace and prosperity and thus, for them. I want them all to be happy and safe - these situations rarely end good, though.
You mean YOU! Are not ready to be a parent I a mom and I would not changed a thing I love my two little boys. Well I can see where you are coming from your generation aren't ready yet to be parents from what I see people your age acting drinking and partying no offence. But 20 and 18 year olds from 15 years ago had a different mind set they were responsible and acted more mature no offense to your generation it's just what I see. My cousin she is 40 she had a kid when she was 19 but she acted very responsible she was able to accomplish her goals she graduated earn her degree in nursing and she took things seriously.
I am a mom , Their are things you do not understand yet when it comes to parenting. Parenthood isn't for everyone. Even people from my generation took things a lot more serious. I mean now a days 20 year olds still act like elementary school kids no offense my intention isn't to come of rude I am just stating what I have seen and how times have change. I mean you probably even seen girls your age don't take relationship seriously they just want to mess around. Not sure why making excuse she can still accomplished her goals.
You can judge this young mom , Let's try to be nice. Like I said it would help if she takes a parenting class for a first time mom.
I don't think you would keep the baby with your mindset you would force the girl to get an abortion no offence.
And what have I said? That it may or may not be all right. Read the original question again - "Why am I regretting this?" And you will tell me she is ready? Also, I answered the question. Why is she regretting this? Because it's risky and she wanted to have some fun before making children. Her words, not mine. What do you argue over? I listed the risks and in addition, I provided a warning. You are tossing a coin instead. I don't understand parenting? You don't understand holding a dead girl whilst looking at her drunk mother, watching three boys being raised as thugs, threatening people and watching your friends suffer from family problems.
I would, I said so. She can't have an abortion now, can she? End of the debate, you are arguing off-topic.
My mindset is set by facts and experience. Yours is looking at the world through some pink glasses. Hope they will be well.
I am not trying to argue with you , She is having a kid now she has to grow up and take responsibility and try to keep our comments not offensive she is pregnant can at least have some sympathy for her. You are so cold hearted.
Experience wow okay , What have you know about life you are only 19 this why people don't take your generation seriously I am not ageists but I agree with 40 year olds the younger generation are spoiled entitled humans.
You shoot for instant happiness. My warnings are here to help them have a great life. Sorry you can't see it, I presented my arguments and yours haven't persuaded me. You won't delete my comments either. I see your point, but it's too late for that. Their lives are now tied to the child. It is dependent on them. Wish them luck, thanks for debating with me and sorry if I sounded too rude. Serious matters.
Perhaps you are right maybe your generation shouldn't be having kids not within the next 15 years. I bet you even agree with me on this one girls your age don't know how to even cook , clean or manager to pay bills.
My cousin was on her own at that time when she was 18 . Wow I'm surprised I how much times have changed.
I for good term not to argue You are not being rude at all. I can see where you are coming from. Like I said I am not ageists but I do see your point times have changed. Perhaps you see this in girls your age , From what I heard dating has changed so much, Now a days with so many feminist poor guys girls don't appricate man anymore , My sister she is one year older then you. She is 20 she doesn't know how to cook a meal my mom baby's her to much. You are right if they can't even prepared a meal how are they going to cook for a little human. Sorry my apologies to you.
Oh well to late to be regretting 🤷♂️, y'all should of wear condoms or pills, both be responsible. Don't blame the child because has come to your world. Be happy and accept it. Many couples can't even have a child and you are blessed. This will make mature more quicker by going to college or both going at least one of y'all will take it online. Is it easy while being parent? Nope but if you put yourself study hard and sacrifice many things to live well and to give a best life to your child, later your life will be at ease.
Welcome to the adult life and parent life.
Also remember don't depend on your man. You must think independently.
I think raising a kid is one of the hardest things I have done. I have 3 and there were lots of times things were so tight that I didn't think we would make it. We had our kids before we were ready. We just got married and let nature take it's course. We didn't even want to find out the sex of the baby. We wanted it to be a surprise. We were not as young as you but were definitely younger than most of the kids parents. We struggled but now that they are grown we are still young enough for some adventures.
I became a mom at 17. Dad was supportive until a few months into pregnancy, he wanted to party and have people over. It hasn’t been the best years in regards to the father of my child. I’ll be honest, you won’t get a break until you’re 40 and you’ll be watching everyone else have freedom and do all sorts of things that you can’t do.
Also abortion is okay 👍 its your body and your life right now - it’s not your boyfriends body or his life yet because he has freedom and don’t have to stay with you and he can leave any time he wants to because guys do that.
@MudRucker it’s her opinion. Stfu
It's okay to have gender disappointment. I had it so bad with my other two pregnancies that I literally won't allow myself to find out with the third until the baby is born. And definitely dont regret having a baby you dont actually know what it's like until you have the baby. It is a lot better than what others make it seem.
Congratulations on your baby , I just had my second baby lol , Our kids are everything to us mother's. I wouldn't changed a thing in the world I love my two boys.
How cute , Are you having a gender reveal?
Surprised , Me too I only had boys lol
Don't regret having a baby. You said you haven't lived. I lived a lot betore getting married and having kids. Well, as much fun as I had, I immediately realized how empty my life had actually been before having my first child.. I hope you experience the awesome roll of becoming a great mom.
I'm sorry your thoughts are all over the map, just lay things in Gods hands he will see you through but he will never let you down, also it's good the father of the child is supportive of the baby as well as you, I trust he won't let you two down. Many Blessings 👼🙏
My question is, if you didn't want a baby why didn't you use protection? If you did want a baby then what are you complaining about?
For one, you shouldn't have been having sex in the first place, unless you two slid rings on each other's fingers. And secondly, your emotions are in overdrive as a physical result of the pregnancy. And yes, there was no reason to be laying on your back at only age 18. But there is always another option. There are couples ALL OVER this country looking for a child because they can't conceive... well?
Girls are fun cause you get to dress them up and braid their hair and buy them cute clothes and they are easier to protect and discipline than boys, less likely to steal or do drugs and attractive woman have more power than smart men. You will love it!
Become a parent is one of the boon from god, dear don't comes bad thought in mind , its time to celebration.
Its god gift , you are so lucky you will enjoy your future life with baby & your life partner its best kind of feelings that woman feel.
Last but not least take care of yourself & babyboy too.
Medically this is a very normal thing, trust me. Before the end of the period you may even get some worse feelings and thoughts. But Always remember the effort you put in to get here,
then discuss more with your doctor too.
Congratulations again and be a good mum ❤
Maybe because you are 18, not married, don't have a college degree, just graduated high school or still in high school, probably don't have a good enough job to support yourself let alone a newborn... you don't even know who you want to be or what you want out of life and now your life will be dedicated to this child for the next 18 years+. That is probably why you regret it
It's ok everybody gets a feeling like this.
And yeah you are almost 4 years early.
But you can make this work be in present enjoy the moments you have now.
Rest you will learn as you go forward.
First child right so women at age of 30 would also think the same it's a new experience completely natural to feel overwhelmed.
Don't worry just sneeze and pichook the baby will be out soon 😆 .
It will all come to you. No expecting mother knee what to do and may have been overwhelmed so by far you aren't the first to feel this way.
You will learn all you need to know. Yes you are young and you will live. You will be a good mother I'm sure.
Remember, be patient.
Congratulations! 🍼🤱
Congrats no one is ever ready. I for one know that children are not for me I’ll take traveling and living my best life over children …. I’m fine with being selfish. You on the other hand are having a child so enjoy that feeling!! If you feel you don’t want the baby then looking into abortion or adoption may be best. But the feeling of not feeling prepared is normal.
Hey Congrats Girl... So happy for you... that you are having a baby... Why you are thinking like this... You are just a super powerful girl... Go and enjoy your life... Plan something for baby and for his father... 🙂
This is the best thing that ever happened to you. Just make sure you focus on keeping your relationship with the father. If you break up it will be a huge mistake and screw up your life. If you stay together it will be the best thing ever. Dont worry about your age. I promise its not too soon and you can handle this.
It's normal to have some apprehension about a child coming, but soon you will realize just how awesome having a kid is.
The first six weeks or so are particularly rough with the feeding schedules and little sleep, also they can't even smile yet. Very soon thereafter you, the father, and the child will develop a rhythm. It only gets easier with time.
Yes, it is overwhelming and your emotions are going to be all over the place because you're hormones are all over the place. Don't worry, you got this :)
Because you are 18 & now have to postpone your life to raise a child, when you're barely out of being a child yourself.
Bevause reality is finally kicking in that this is going to be a hard next few years
I would also regret when i was 18 and get a kid before marriage. I would abort it. You should use contraceptives in a proper way. Some people use condoms wrong which lead to pregnancy. But i wish the best for you.
You're 18, and you just sacrificed the rest of your life, for a kid, it doesn't even sound like you even wanted
Well, you'll have to decide to either abort, adoption, or keep it (ruin your life)
The gender of a newborn will always be a surprise. Congratulations on your baby, by the way. And I know it's not always what you want but I'm pretty sure you'll like her. And who knows, you might have a baby boy in the future
No one is ever ready. You still have time to put it up for adoption. But that is up to you and the father. But make sure it's what you want to do.
you're the one who chose to spread your legs and have a dick put inside your pussy now deal with the consequences and results like an adult. if you're old enough to spread your legs and get fucked then you're old enough to deal with the consequences
Whoa buddy simmer down there. Either you got some demons in the closet, or you're just the OP in disguise.
@LeeannaDD guess the truth hurts
@Blindguyplaying guess the truth hurts
It’s okay you got this you’ll be a great mom
what dafuq is that
i can't see anything
So what is the exact question?
Honey its ok life does not turn out like we want
Breath in.
Please be a good mom
Will you people stop telling her to be a good mom don't pull her down lol give something that will help her to understand rather telling her that.
She is just overwhelmed
@Aakash_Hangargi Exactly this young mom what she needs is encouragement not negative comments , She is pregnant seems like people has lost sympathy for other people. She is pregnant her emotions can be transmitted to her baby. It can affect the baby in the long run. What's done is done let's make this girl feel better not make things worst.
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