Anyone else ever have a fear that people will get tired or bored of you after awhile?

[Still-alive]

Sometimes i still feel this way where after an initial period of getting to know you they eventually will just get bored or just tired of talking to you because you’ve told them everything about you already.

like there's complacency that sets in after awhile and the thrill of getting to know you is gone after a point. So in the past i have let friendships fizzle out and die after awhile. I want to not let this happen anymore but i think it might.

anyways anyone else also feel this way with people?

[Cherry234]

I definitely feel this way. There are certain people I like and I want to get to know them more and I want them to get to know me as well. I'm naturally introverted and I'm not very outgoing so I run out of things to say sometimes. Even if those people do get to know me better I do have concerns that I may bore them after a while if I don't have anything else to offer them

[Still-alive]

You get it then :)

[Cherry234]

I do 😊

[Account]

I have felt that way when alI was younger. I no longer do. It is a part of life and I accept it. There is no need to be fearful over something behavioral that is incredibly common and you have zero control over.

[ChrisMaster69]

No really no.

the thing is not to but huge expectations against someone.

Friendships are transitionary, we tend to change them as often as our underwear.

Yes we do have our best pair but the rest go in to a draw.

A test of a good friendship is not seeing them for over a year, you both walk in to the same room and pick up a conversation for the last time, say 2 years ago when you last chatted.

I have mates from the Air Force, I will not see for 5 years but we will if in area meet up go for drinks etc.

the other thing, is give your friends space, they may not want to chat every single moment of the waking day, I get a bit ‘can I have some space please’ , you are still there for each other but not bugging each other lol.

Next but is circles of friends,

social friends - main group

Shooting / mountain biking / other sport stuff friends

Work friends

HM Forces friends

now there is cross pollination with the above, but the point is it’s a mixed lot of circles.

[AmandaYVR]

I just answered this today. That's three men with the same topic, in less than 24 hrs.
Hmmm.

Girls, What makes a man boring in your eyes?

The short answer is yes, it's possible. You need to work on yourself to not be boring, I guess.

[Still-alive]

I feel like im not all that boring really. This is a tad different from that question though

[Still-alive]

im always more or less asking if you or others feel similar. not necessarily advice with this one

[menina]

How can someone get tired or bored of you? You're so funny, smart and nice. I think you have no reasons to feel insecure. :)

To answer your question, yes sometimes I feel that way. Some people eventually got bored but many are still part of my life.

[Still-alive]

thank you lol :)

[menina]

You're welcome :)

[Alejandro3000]

Was just talking to a long-term friend about this, the problem is always choosing the right friends. We are about the same age so at 18-24 you and me would have experienced friendships by being approached face to face because nobody really used laptops or smartphones much or social media. This was great. I was living a good life going all places doing so much. The following generation were just about night clubs I found so my new group or friends were boring. All of this fizzled. But the friends I made initially the group was ruined by one girl hopping from guy to guy. They'd go on eurotrips with me and it was evident that shed messed up their heads. I was away from them in another city gladfully but on these trips she'd decided to mess with them by sleeping in my room after a fight with them. She even wanted to go back to the hotel with me alone. Friendships naturally end.

[Azura_88]

So now the meaning of bonds and people have disappeared forever but replaced with 'thrill and excitement'?
What's wrong with this generation? Even sex is a joke, getting to know people is just a time killer and people are entertainment objects now? Wow.

[Still-alive]

yeah it just happens. complacency... and apathy seem to be big problems when it comes to people relating to each other

[rosemilk]

no, not really. if we're talking about relationships, me and my partner never have that problem, even after 5 years. we grow together. there's never nothing to talk about or do. plus, he's eccentric, never a dull moment. and if it gets quiet, it's still enjoyable. if it gets boring, he'll take care of it lol 🌸

[Katebfun]

No not with the right person. If you think that now, just hold back and open up slowly. If you look back we have a ton of stories and experiences to tell, yet sometimes they only come up with a certain decision. In order to keep the relationship interesting whether it is lovers or friends try new things together. Set a similar goal, play games and become a kid again.

[Alyssa11]

Sounds like an anxious attachment style!


I don’t because I know I’m a handful lol.

[Still-alive]

Ill give you a handful 😈

Jk

[Alyssa11]

😂😂😂

[Mofunfour20]

No because i wouldn't want someone around me that grows bored, theyre welcome to leave as I would be bored of them as well if they expect me to have all the substance in the relationship. People need to be equally yoked for the relationship to work.

[SpiderManFan2002]

Yeah, when it comes to someone I care about I often worry about that lol

[Still-alive]

You get it then

[natured]

Yes, it's not a constant fear though because it's not worth really being afraid especially if you know who you picked.
But it's normal to sometimes have this thought, and it's normal to be afraid
Nothing tragic here

[On_cloud_wine]

It’s like. Either come closer or stay away.. having you in between is exhausting.

[Still-alive]

Exactly so I've pushed people away over this insecurity before

[On_cloud_wine]

Both men and women?

[Still-alive]

Yuppers.

[On_cloud_wine]

I feel like as you get older, your soul starts to slow down to a crawl. It quits chasing after visitors and waits for the ones who come and stay. Like all this entertaining is exhausting too lol

[Still-alive]

Yeah its just i always let friendships fizzle and die in the past i wanna make more of an effort to keep them going

[On_cloud_wine]

Even those with different hobbies and interests as you?

[Still-alive]

As long as we have similar goals or outlooks on life i think im good

[On_cloud_wine]

I wish you didn’t feel insecure. I’m ashamed to say that I’ve done the same to a few people in the past myself.

[On_cloud_wine]

For the same reason

[On_cloud_wine]

In person get-togethers help keep the fizzle a’fizzlin. Everyone’s on their phones these days

[Still-alive]

I might do meetup. coms again soon

[exitseven]

Not a fear but maybe an expectation that eventually a relationship will run it's course.

[Still-alive]

Thats the thing i wish they were always ongoing and not a “course” to be run

[exitseven]

it is what it is and sometimes it is a two way street. I have gotten tired of hanging out with people myself and realized that we really did not have that much to talk about anymore.

[pink_and_inlove]

Yeah I feel that way in my relationship sometimes I worry about that

[Still-alive]

Yeah i think its a common fear relationships especially

[Ez-Bri-Z]

I'm surprised they are even interested to begin with. More times than not I am more worried I am just going to end up being a burden on them.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, I have never seen it fail with me, I meet someone new tell them
everything about myself and I gets dumped by them, So I know where
your coming from

[NathanDavis]

no, it usually happens in less than five minutes... that's not a long while

[K-I-S-S]

Think about it, yes, be bothered by it, no.

I spend 90% of my time alone anyway, i like it that way, so doesn't really matter if i lose the last 10%.

[BlacklightShade]

I cut them off at the pass by not interacting with anyone.

[IAMNathanael]

I do sometimes. But I get tired too. I think I will and they will eventually come around again

[EssenceOfLight]

No. I have a good sense for the moment when I have to switch into receiver mode. People who annoy others talk often too much and their talks is mostly logorrhoe or self-centered monologue.

[Kdizzle85]

Yes. It’s not really a fear, but just something I accept that people will.

[Kountry_King]

My current girlfriend says this annoying shit to me

[Notfabricated]

All the time , but its that exact same fear that keeps us from being the opposite of what we think we are. Don't let it stand in your way.

[Likes2drive]

Yeah I’ve thought about that before but it doesn’t usually happen, usually get into disagreements about things before that ever happens

[Wiredone]

I don't let it bother me. They either like me or they don't. I am who I am. I'm not changing for anyone.

[ChiTown33]

Nope. That's the advantage you have if no one is interested to begin with.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I don't fear it; it's expected. Everything in life gets dull and begins to decay after a long period of time goes by.

[purplepoppy]

A poppys for life not just for Christmas

[Still-alive]

poppy friend

[Twalli]

Honestly my friendships grow after the getting to know you phase is over.

[InferiorElegy]

People always do so these days I save them from having to tby not even trying with people.

[townhouse]

Possibly at that point try hard to do things u did when u started dating again

[Slim57]

Yeah if people weren't so shit then no one would have these fears

[he-takes-a-part]

Haha most women have this

[Still-alive]

why?

[he-takes-a-part]

Boys are more indulging than girls naturally hence interaction can get boring sometimes with them hence the fear

[Still-alive]

so women get bored easily is what you're saying?

[he-takes-a-part]

Womens in later stages realise that the most boring person is she itself as an individual
Whats rocketscience in it

[MotorcycleMan]

Tired of, but not bored ;)

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Yes being a creature of habit

[slatyb]

Yes. I feel like I am a fountain of TMI.

[Scotselena]

Yep but what matters most is am still alive

[fonduegirl]

Happened to me plenty of times so... yes

[red_knight]

That's a valid thought

[nickaboy]

Nah I first need People for that

[najekim]

Nope. Their problem if they can't keep up.

[Kaneki05]

Nahh i am awesome.

[TallAndNerdy]

Oh yah big time

[dudewithnoname]

Always