i thinks she keeps them around to boost confidence and feel attractive,when you have two or three people paying attention it makes you fell good...she has a relationship with all three of you...the coworker who she flirts with to keep him interested...the good friend she can tell her problems to and go out with and not be questioned...(and we all know the guy is sticking it out with her if he knows he might sleep with her one day)...and then there is you the boyfriend who is more emotionally involed the both of them...even thought you may be the only one sleeping with her she is still getting some sort of need met by keeping these other guys around...when me and my girl started dating we both deleted our myspace and diffent things we used as dating tools we both know friendly coversation with the opposite is just that friendly conversation...for your relationship to be strong she should want to make you feel comfortable and exclusive...but what the hell do I know...ride it till the wheels fall off then trade it in for a newer model
It means she's letting them THINK they have a chance with her, and since they see her more than you do (work), you shouldn't be making long term plans with her.
Of course she might just be a flirt at work and have no intention of getting 'involved,' but I wouldn't bet on that I'd bet the other way.
I would suggest you ask her but that would mean admitting you looked intoher phone messages and she will probably get mad at that. But it might be worth the risk of a break-up since you can't trust her anyway. If she just laughs about it, that will mean she was probably just flirting harmlessly.
Well I'm not your girlfriend, so I am not positive that she is in the same situation, but there is a guy that I am texting now that calls me babe, sexy, hottie, etc. all the time and he doesn't mean anything by it (in fact, he has a girlfriend). and I don't mean anything by texting him either. however, if you look through my text messages you can see I have saved ones where he tells me he loves me and wants to talk to me because there sweet and they are just little confidence boosters, nothing more. so again, I don't know your situation but it really could be nothing at all!
I'll honestly admit to saving messages that guys have sent that have made me feel kinda special, even though I have a boyfriend who says really sweet things too.
Maybe you should be sending her cute messages that she wants to save forever and ever , even after you two break up (if you do) because they make HER feel so special.
It sounds kinda stupid and dorky, but we like to feel special :)
While she may just be flirty in nature, the fact that she keeps them in her phone isn't a good sign! NO LONG TERM PLANS HERE.is what you should be saying!
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It's a pretty good sign that she's considering it, or she would have told them to stop with the messages. Maybe she just likes to flirt, but given that she works with them there will be plenty of opportunities. I wouldn't trust her. It's tricky to admit you checked up on her phone, though, so you may not want to confront her about it. Just make plans for a break-up.
theres one way to find out , is to follow her or try to see where does she go while she's not at work or you can confront her in that way she'll think you'r spying on her by checking her phone
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