Men and women If your ONLY son came out as gay would you "support" it but secretly hate it? (im 15)?

[Anonymous]

so im a single child everyone else in my family is 40+ and if i dont have kids my entire bloodline ends on both sides of the family, My entire family keeps asking if i have got a girl yet, My grandma keeps begging for grandbabys, My entire family is wanting me to knock up a girl at 15!, But i like boys, What should i do? im also girly but i pretend to be manly, My family is also homophobic.

[btbc92]

I cannot agree or condone acts and lifestyles that is not of God. That doesn't mean I don't love or wouldn't love my children. Your family shouldn't be having you do things that is toxic and of sin. You are still a young man still growing into adulthood. What you feel doesn't always matter, but if it is your conscious choice to be gay and desire other men, you have to deal with that decision and that is between you and God now. I would teach my children to go the way God commands.

I CANNOT force my children to believe in God, to worship God, and to serve Jesus. I believe the source for most homosexual decisions is demonic and generations curses. Not just influence physically and or spiritually. You would have to respect their beliefs as well as they need to overall respect you as a person. That doesn't mean they have to respect your choices.

But again, this is something you must decide to live with. I believe you are way too young to be making such decisions, let alone be involved with anyone. Girl or not. By you being a teen you experience and may feel any depending on how susceptible and sensitive you are going to think, feel and assume, especially if your programmed to think and feel a certain way. At the end of the day, understand that just because others do not agree with your lifestyle choices or life decisions, that doesn't mean they don't always love you. It is up to you how you choose to either accept that or you don't. But regardless to what, your family is straight up toxic and dysfunctional. I suggest that you have a understanding why you are like that, and whether or not you want to change from it. DO YOU want to be straight, or be Gay. It is a choice.

Anybody can feel what you feel, I cannot judge and say you don't feel a certain way when you may do. All I can tell you as somebody who have been around people who had certain spirits and been exposed to sinful lifestyles, that I know I am a woman meant for a man. Regardless what I may "feel", I know it is not of God. I cannot force you to belief what I believe and know. All I can do, is inform you in wisdom to decide now if that is the path you make. It is your life, you have freewill, and while I do not agree with that, that doesn't mean I don't pray your saved and is delivered. I say this out of love and kindness, not religion.

But REMEMBER, you are ONLY 15, and anything you think you believe or feel now may CHANGE. But you ultimately have to decide what you want and need in your life. Let your family make their own decisions. But PLEASE, DO NOT have sex and get somebody pregnant. Finish school, focus on yourself, and if possible, distance from your toxic family until you are in place as a man to communicate that. To be honest, while it is best to be honest and you are still under the authority of your parents and they need to know. It is nobody else's business about that area unless it is of concern. It is NOT your families business what you want to personally do UNLESS AGAIN, warrants your concern. They are gossipers and want to spread your business so you can be toxic like them. They may be your family, but they surely do not act like family. And trust me, I grew up with some family members like that. So that is my advice on those areas.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I'm the only daughter of my parents - both come from Catholic families of 8.

I'm bisexual and childfree. I have been permanently sterilized by choice (for free, thanks, Canadian Health Care!).

My dad's bloodline dies with me.

I've been told/asked to have many children. My response is no. My body, my choice. Also, if they want kids, adopt them. Pay for them. I'm not doing that. It wouldn't be fair for the kids - because I don't want kids and kids deserve parents who want them.

If I did have an only son and he came out as gay, I would support him proudly and love him dearly.

Who gives a fuck about grandchildren if your child isn't happy and healthy? If my gay kid decides they want to adopt or have kids somehow, I'm there for it. They have to want their kid and be able to support them, though. I'm not a baby sitter (I'm a hazard).

Legacy and continuation of family or whatever other weird and outdated ideals are there aren't for me. Loving my gay kid?

Now that's for me.

[Cozybcuz]

Depending on you situation it might better to just wait with telling people until you are independent. But yeah don't go be someone you are not, if your parents can't handle that it's their loss

[Anonymous]

Do you follow Tom Daley? Go look him up. Read what he’s been through. If you reach out to him he might even give you some real life feedback.

[Agape93]

Long as he's happy and healthy, I'm happy for him

[MrSwisher]

most 15 year olds don't know shit