Do you think stay home millennial mom's really need nannies?

[Alwayreckles93]

I am not trying to mommy shame this was just a conversation disagreement I had with my cousin she is currently expecting her baby and is looking for a nanny. When she told me I was like oh you have plans on going back to work considering her husband makes good money. My cousin tells me no I am just stressed out that I will not have me time or my husband and I have alone time and within two months she wants to celebrate her 30 birthday with her girlfriends at the club 🙄. I don't mean to come off. Rude I just told my cousin then why did you even get pregnant in the first place if you don't want to raised your own child instead pay a stranger to do it for you. She look at me like as if I was crazy and shocked. My cousin claims that woman always need me time and enjoy that there is nothing wrong with having a nanny around. In my opinion okay some mom's have to work don't have a choice but to live their kids with a family relative , Daycare or hire a nanny but in my cousins case she does not have plans on going to work so I really don't agree with having a stranger raising her kid. My cousin wants to still go out with friends get her nails done and shop around. While her husband hired a house keeper for her yet she claims that she is stressed. I really don't understand woman from my generation.

[Exterminatore]

I don’t understand this either. If she’s not going to work there should be plenty of time for “me” time, and taking care of the child and there should be plenty of time for her to take care of the house and her husband also.


To me it sounds like her having children isn’t the right choice.


This is a huge problem in society. Everyone wants to have kids, no one wants to raise them or wants the responsibility that comes with them. In which case, the solution is simple. Don’t have kids.

[Alwayreckles93]

Exactly when I told her that her having the privilege of having a someone else get the chores done should be enough and only during the time she is in postpartum not the whole time. I see no need for her to hire a nanny she looked at me like I was crazy.

[Exterminatore]

It sounds like she doesn’t have much work ethic. Like to her the concept of being a full time home maker is beneath her or is too difficult for her.

I think her hiring a nanny is a waste of $ because she could still do it on her own.

So if you add it up, someone will do the cleaning, and someone most of the care taking of the child…. then what is she doing? Lounging by the pool every day for 8 hours a day?

[Alwayreckles93]

A lot of mom's managed to get it all done in one day cleaning and taking care of the kids. My cousin is just spoiled as hell, I wonder what is she going to do if she's ever on her own if she's ever becomes a single parent.

[Exterminatore]

She would get child support.

[Alwayreckles93]

Apperently she isn't ready for motherhood from what I heard her said. She is all worry about having me time. She should know once the baby is born all me time is over. You are absolutely right Sir, since she decided not to work I am sure she is able to maintain to keep a home clean cook fresh meals and take care of her baby. Especially infants require so much care and attention like it has been said before a mom's job is never done. Sadly not all woman have that motherly instinct gen.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Alwayreckles93. I will bet anything she is a super-hot girl who is used to having things just magically happen for her.

[Alwayreckles93]

@KrakenAttackin My uncle and aunt always called her the princess and would just hand over things to her, which we all know that is not how the world works obviously. It surprised me how some people just have it all easy.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Alwayreckles93. True enough and her children will suffer because of it. Let's add that if she is still clubbing, her marriage will eventually crumble when a club Chad Thundercock takes her fir a few rides.

Of course she will leave the marriage with cash and prizes but her kids will be a wreck.

[Alwayreckles93]

@KrakenAttackin It wouldn't surprise me. But if she ever has to work at a job she will have to start from the bottom it's not like oh my daddy says I'm the princess give me the highest position because I'm the princess, No it does not work like that. My uncle always bought her a $5,000 wedding which in my opinion I think it's insane when she could have just got one on Amazon for $80 . She thinks in jealous of her which that is not the case I did tell her she needs to know how to manage her finances that money does not grow on trees , She claims that I am cheap. Oh well reality will hit her hard one day.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Alwayreckles93. I have a young daughter and I cherish the time I spend with her. You never get back the young years so you have to soak it in. It's too bad this girl doesn't cherish her children.

[Alwayreckles93]

@KrakenAttackin That is so true , You are a good parent. Your daughter will always remember the memories you shared with her it is very precious. You are a good father.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Alwayreckles93. You seem like a steadfast young lady with a good attitude. You will certainly do well.

[Alwayreckles93]

@KrakenAttackin One day my cousin will regret it. Now a days it is a dangerous world we can't trust people. I don't understand why would a mother allowed a complete stranger to raised their child. So my creeps. It is sad because that baby will grow up eventually and she can't never get that timing back.

[Alwayreckles93]

@KrakenAttackin Thank you ,

[KrakenAttackin]

@Alwayreckles93. She may be so shallow that she doesn't care. Her nanny will likely see the first steps, hear the first words, and a ton of other things.

[Exterminatore]

@reckless

You are exactly right miss. Once you have a baby all me time is over and those who have babies should know and expect that.

Sounds like she’s not ready and should not have a baby now.

[Pasiton5]

Isn't that the reason they are staying home to raise their k kids not pass them off to someone else so they can continue as if they have no responsibility, this is when their kids need their parents to bond with become familiar with teach them not leave it to some stranger to do so, when you have kids they are your priority, you only have them 18 to 22 years if your lucky, after 22 years they belong to the world if you done your job teaching them if not then they're yours for as long as you can stand then living in your basement, they are not dolls to set aside when you feel ok that's enough come get them no they are your full time responsibility to they can care for them selves, I'll say this how your kids are as adults is your fault

[TrueConfection]

Yes, sometimes. As moms, we used to have the help of our own moms and sisters. Now that most women have joined the workforce, stay-at-home moms don't have that support.

For example:
My husband and I don't have any relatives near us and we were IT all the time. I definitely could have used help while potty training, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, dropping off and picking up the siblings from preschool, helping my husband with his business, and just answering the damn phone. Somewhere in there I needed a shower and to be able to use the toilet myself. It was hard and a nanny would have been a Godsend.

Some women ask for too much "me time", but in reality we ALL need a little time (moms and dads both).

[Apple1996]

Nah no stay at home mom needs a nanny. Maybe a sitter from time to time if they have to go out without the kids but hiring someone full time so they can be a selfish mom is some bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Most people need a focus in their lives to be meaningful. This woman does not appear to have a mature attitude. But then how many of us have been in the position to have such a luxurious life.

[Iron_Man]

Not if they don’t work and their home all the time. They are just basically being lazy

[Dinklex3]

They probably don't "need" it, but if they want to that's their decision.
No judgement from me 💁‍♂️

[Hangry06]

It's kinda like those white women from The Help

[Alwayreckles93]

😂 Yeah you are right

[KrakenAttackin]

Yeah, here we go raising another generation of dysfunctional kids.

[Alwayreckles93]

Yeah I feel ashamed of my own generation.

[Wise4myage]

No that’s a waste of money on my opinion.

[Alwayreckles93]

You are wise beyond your years.

[Wise4myage]

Thanks, lol.

[Anonymous]

If they have the money and the person making the money doesn't mind why not?

[Alwayreckles93]

She is a useless mother

[legalboxers]

what the actual fuck

[Alwayreckles93]

Yeah I know plain lazyness.

[Hallo626262]

Obviously not

[Alwayreckles93]

You have a good head on your shoulders.

[princeofromance]

No, they are the mother of the child.