I’d say they’re not very good friends and possibly not very good people really more the girl than the guy. For me personally it’s hard for me to accept presents I don’t know how to act and honestly I’d prefer not to get any so for me if it’s a good buddy of mine I think it’s weird for a guy to buy another guy a gift but if it’s a girl friend of mine and she got me something for my birthday I’d try and set alarms in my phone so I remembered to get her something otherwise I’d probably forget until after the fact and then maybe feel lame getting something late and again if it’s a guy that got me something and it wasn’t during a party setting I definitely wouldn’t get him anything in return maybe if it was his bday party and it would be my wife getting it for him. Really the girl I’d say no doubt no good and the guy I’d ditch him to but possibly would accept an apology from the guy because a lot of guys are stupid about such things
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Just drop em and move on they dont give a shit about you
Yes you are friends but most people are self absorbed.. my birthday in 2020 my brother didn't even wish me happy birthday does that make him not my brother no.. he just got caught up in his own life.. with the added stress of covid cut people a break.. give them both a card next year.. I stopped buying gifts might send $20 etransfer but thats it..
Remember you dont give gifts to be recognized or what you could get in return.. we give gifts out of the kindness of our hearts. I only stopped giving them cause my income was drastically affected during covid and I struggle to afford to.. $20 use to be just $20 now I think wow thats a lot it all depends on your status of money
Ugh i hate how most female friends behave
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Yeah you should probably reconsider this friendship. I had a friend like that once were I was always putting in effort to try and reach out to them, make plans, meet up etc and they just didn’t show the same level of interest.
In my opinion there are two ways to handle the situation. One you can kind of lower the friendship to like an acquaintance thing or something, and just not put in all of that effort that they clearly don’t deserve. Or you can kind of let things naturally drift apart - I mean if the only way the relationship exists is by you making plans for them, and you reaching out to them, and you making the effort to talk to them - then it really, if you didn’t put in the effort there wouldn’t be a relationship all.You are very right, this is not reciprocating. It seems they just don't need you or want you as friend. As if they are with you from pity, and to have a "spare option" who'll run around with them and show up in front of others or go places, but only when no other friend of theirs is up for that. Of course the girl has no time for you. Until she hangs out with everyone whom she actually wants to hang out, there's no time for you.
No, you are not juvenile, there's absolutely nothing juvenile about this. If anything, they are the ones less mature. They don't even care they are hurting you. Clearly, to them, you are more like an acquaintance, who, accidentally, fell into belief you were friends. So now they have to "put up with you" from time to time, and you're not "such a bad" company, so they'll "survive" . I know exactly what I'm talking about, because I USED TO walk IN YOUR SHOES!You apparently need better taste in friends. Some people see a gift as just that, a gift. Gifts are given because you want to give them and with not expecting anything in return. However, that said you would at least expect a "friend" to remember your birthday unless they were absent minded. By their actions I can't see them as seeing you as a good friend as they don't treat you like one. Your friendships seem one sided to me. You give and they receive and don't think of doing anything special for you. You might want to reconsider your friendships as they don't seem to be working for you.
Most people here get offended but let me just say this. I would forget your birthday too. You know why? Because I forget my own damn birthday and every holiday unless someone tells me about it LOL. I literally always have my mind too preoccupied with my own studies and research and when that's not the case I'm talking to my SO or my dad who I'm the caretaker too and thinking of new ways to improve myself. Don't take it too hard. We live in a very fast paced culture and it's very easy to forget these things. I would say dont buy gifts in the future. I dont buy my dad gifts because we dont do that much. We usually saved gifts for kids and gfs on occasions. We usually just make each other our favorite meals. Mine are homemade but he loves crab and lobster so i buy that for him for his Bday every year and a huge bag of pistachios since he loves em so much.
With great expectations comes great disappointments, your approach to birthdays is wrong, it’s not everyone who believes in birthdays or anniversaries, understand that you can’t force others to believe in what you believe. Don’t expect people to remember your birthday or do a birthday party for you - unless it’s family or a family tradition, it’s the way it is and can’t blame nobody. You should celebrate your own birthdays by inviting family and friends, fully budgeting for it annually, that includes buying yourself a present too - example a new phone, car etc to without expecting gifts or that whoever you invited or gifted will invite you to their parties or gift you.
Forgetting birthday isn't so bad that u will leave ur friendship
I can tell you about my experience, until today there is not single friend who wished me birthday every year
Sometimes they did text to me and I go normally to them on my birthday and throw party if they remembered and if they forgot then it simply means that I will save all those money for myself and get what I want and when they realise that they feel guilty about that.
But did ur friends remembered ur birthday date if asked randomly on anyday they may forgot couple of times but if it happens again and again (when asking them randomly about ur birthday on any day of year) then they don't care about them, just leave themEveryone is different and yes I'm that girl thats going to forget your birthday even if you tell me the date 10 times. I honestly don't find them that important but like if you got me a nice gift for me and yours was coming up maybe I'd write it down because I would feel wrong to not give something back.
I have a terrible memory when it comes to birthdays. However, that's why I always try to mark a yearly reminder on my calander. And other than that, they seem pretty terrible. My feind used to date a girl who took forever to reply and would ignore him when he would tell her it bothered him. Ended up dumping her and been better ever since. If they are not willing to change, find better friends.
It's really important for relationships to have a give and take kind of relationship. If one friend does a lot for the other friend but the other friend reciprocates, you can't help but think if that friend doesn't care for you as much as you do. I think it's totally understandable for you to feel that way because it's not just about "forgetting your birthday" but also the way she ghosts you. Sorry you feel that way :/
they aren't friends at all. real friend are people you know when you need them you can call, they remember your birthday etc
Eh I forgot one of my friends birthdays this year and honestly I felt bad, but also I’ve been really busy in my life and I don’t really focus on peoples birthdays. She also forgot about mine so it’s pretty equal, but it happens
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I can understand exactly where you’re coming from this bothers me as well reading this question I’m sorry
I personally don’t get offended by it because they might have a whole ton of things going on in their lives. But it is a nice feeling knowing that they know your birthday.
They don’t value the friendship as much as you do if they don’t even remember your birthday
They're clearly not that invested in this friendship. Stop reaching out for them, they can go f* themselves.
I mean yeah because some people have a bad memory.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/29lAy8eSdpII have a friend. he treats me for my birthday and I treat him his birthday. we both spend some money and thoughts. I don't think it's fair they treat you that way.
I mean its ok. People have lives outside of myself. If she/he forgets than it is what it is. Most of the time tho i tell people its my birth day
No, because they don't give a shit about you so... I mean nobody remembers my birthday except my family members and that's it.
I forget ppls birthdays especially if yours is a double digit the only way im reminded is through social media or snapchat if it announces it lol
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