In a year or two I am planning on moving out of my parents house but I sometimes don't know how it will feel living on my own on one hand I will finally be free from my parents annoying and abusive control but on the other hand my mom, dad, and older sister has done everything for me well ok everything that involves paying bills but I can do everything else. But I wonder to the gents and ladies who has moved out of their parents house do you sometimes miss living with your parents, would you ever consider moving back in with mommy and daddy or are you completely happy you don't have to permanently deal with living under your parents house rules anymore and can't imagine living with them again?
For the people who have left out of their parents house do you miss living with your parents or you don't miss living with your parents?
Nah. With my parents the rule was that whoever makes the most money pays all of the bills. Naturally, the second I started making more money than my dad, things got very interesting... I was paying all of the bills plus they used my car and damaged it but didn't offer to fix it. It was like I went from being their son to their parent in 2 seconds flat. Ha ha ha. I got out of there quick.
But I can't complain about getting a free place to stay when I was in school.. before that happened.
A lot of the things people miss are things you can never have again too. Unless you have a time machine.
I don't miss it... I just don't see it from that perspective... I see it as a quite natural progression in life and also, it's been a while since I am on my own
apart from that, when it comes to cohabitating situations... I am quite adaptable, I am more than fine living on my own as well as sharing a place with others, and I've done both through the years without any issues whatsoever... so, all good
Nope, was always better living separately since then. I've had my own life. Parents always think they know best. That dynamic of it being their way will never wholly go away. It's that, that I especially don't miss. It's difficult for them to change their views and acknowledge that as adults (or in your case, a young adult) we are not inferior to them, always knowing less. In many ways, we will outgrow them. And that's just the way species work.
Yes that is a reasonable statement while you were leaving with your parents have you found it extremely difficult being your true self while living under another person house rules?
They aren't "house rules" when you're also an adult. That term is for kids and teenagers.
I have never wanted to live with any of them again. It was not good. They do not conform much. The younger must adapt to them, typically. And that gets old real fast.
I miss living with them because i miss them. They're older and my dad's health isn't the greatest so i like being near them. I would love living with them again, but in a different state. They refuse though, lol.
I am the parent of two daughters, who both moved out at ages 26 and 22 respectively. The oldest wanted to be bear friends, and the youngest is living with he boyfriend of 7 years. I think they will be getting married. They grew up in a single-parent home--that was me, and saw their dad every two or 3 weeks. It was very hard for me to raise them both on a teacher's salary. Now, I was not overly controlling, but I did worry about them both. I let them go out with friends, have friends over, and there was a curfew, but the youngest liked to come home at her own time. I think I should have been more strict. Maybe then they would have appreciated me more. I gave them a lot, but they still complained. Now, both of them rarely call me, only when they need something. The youngest has issues with me since she was young, or so she says, so I guess I am lucky she has contact with me at all, because up until last year, she was not talking to me. So it's best to stay in contact with your parents and not resent them for whatever you think of them. I'm sure they will worry about you just as I did-- and they do it because they love you. Appreciate your parents, you only have one set.
I love my mother dearly but visiting her is a LOT better than living with her. When I moved out of her house (almost 40 years ago), I never looked back.
The best thing being in family house is you can use everything as much as you want and it’s all free lol. I never had strict parents so in this case living with family is better.
You're 23 and should be out on your own, especially since you don't like their "abusive control". You sound like some of these women who stay in abusive relationships instead of leaving. What's with that?
You be surprised there are tons of people who are either around my age or people who are also in their 30's or above who also find it difficult to find work. It really common these days especially since the economy is so bad.
@Amy10223 Well, if they are college grads they can get a job as a manager at Walmart and make $70K a year. I hear it is not hard to get a job there in that capacity.
No I don’t, right now am actually scared to live with my parents, even tho I live with my adopted parent mother, I’m desperately waiting to leave there house live on my own, but the high cost here and sale wouldn’t support that
Ouch yes sometimes living with your parents can be really difficult because you wouldn't be allowed to do whatever you choose while living under their house roof. Trust me I barely can do stuff, one of the things I can't wait to do when I have my own place is constantly watch porn.
Awesome yes I can imagine how freeing it is finally leaving your parents place. I love my parents but sometimes it feels like prison having your own place equal all the freedom in the world.
Yeah but I hate my parents and left as soon as I was legally allowed to. I rarely see them anymore. I used to go and cook them dinner every Sunday to make sure they had a decent meal each week, but only ever got grief in return, so i told them to go and fuck themselves. It all came to a head over Christmas when I was ill and not leaving my house, all they could say was "so who's going to cook our Christmas dinner?" They have the money to pay someone to care for them, I'm done trying to be civil with them, had 45 years of pain and disapproval from them, no more.
Oh I am very sorry if you didn't have the best relationship with your parents, I generally never understand why most parents try to act awful to their own offspring but glad you are in a better place now.
Thanks, they really haven't played any significant part in my life and I'm happy about that. Honestly it would have been nice if I had a normal everyday family, but thats another topic altogether.
How did it felt leaving out of your parents house were you happy or you didn't really mind at much? And I definitely think you can make a family of course you at first would have to impregnate a girl though.
Oh boy I definitely know that feeling but happy everything worked out for you at the end. Now the only person who you have to follow their expectations is your own expectations of yourself but still try not to get into legal trouble of course too much freedom might risk costing you.
I don't miss anything about it, I live alone and I don't even feel lonely, plus they visit me from time to time so I never really get a good chance to miss family
Did really enjoyed France as much? We're it the people or you just doesn't enjoy the environment. No judgement because I usually hear that a lot of french people tend to be mean is that true
Although I do understand why France has tons of racist people it's just insufferable, plus it's not a great choice if you're still trying to build yourself up
Oh man I can definitely imagine how awful you felt, I am extremely sorry you have dealt with any racism as a black guy I can definitely understand how God awful racism feels
I wish, I actually be doing a happy dance. But at least it is getting better each following generation, I honestly prefer to today present racism over the past racism. At least with today racist you can easily annoy!
Have you tried paying bills when your mother were alive. Also what do you mean by living in housing are you talking about a group home of some sort.
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@finalfantasybro Now like High Rise / Manor I qualify for it but I got I just got on a waiting list and yes when I lived elsewhere I paid all the bills, me and mom would put the bills together, and that is how we paid the bills also I pay bills here
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@finalfantasybro The Manor everything would be included
But still I am truly sorry about your mother passing away, I can understand how hard that must been for you.
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@finalfantasybro Yes, she was still young when she passed at age 58 but she was sick and lost hope with her health.. I moved in housing and it's been a rough road since June 18, 2016 ...
Would you consider getting roommates to cut the cost or are you like me and hoping to have your own place? I don't really want roommates so I just have to be the one who pays for everything but at the end the space is all mine don't need another guy or a girl to ruin it. 😂
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@finalfantasybro I am cool with having a roommate female or male but I want someone who is willing to share the bills and rent also if I moved to High Rise it would be cheaper too
Nice, and yes you definitely would want a roommate who will do his or her fair share of the work. Don't let others walk all over you because remember there are others who would take advantage of your generosity.
I don’t miss it at all. I love them both but I did not enjoy living with them at the time. We have all changed but now I couldn’t even think of living with them.
I’ve lived on my own since 18 years old and never looked back. It feels much better to have your own place and at your age, women will appreciate that more.
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My parents are tyrants, so I am more than happy to live alone and a good distance away from them.
a norm, that is toxic and unhealthy. I am having therapy sessions about that and recover from it. It takes quite a long while to get over it but the journey is there.
I know, that there are very many dysfunctional and families low on money, who too abuse their kids. Most won't make it out of there. Most also don't have the dedication to escape such madness. Some of them even end up having stockhold syndrome. I know of a case, where the child moved away from their parents in another country (Europe) but years later returned back to them in the poor village.
I am not letting myself trifled with. I have a life to have fun with.
I am very sorry for what you possibly went through but yes I can definitely understand how abusive some parents could be. Between abused at home and absurd at school because I deal with bullying at school my childhood were just ok. But still glad you finally left that situation though.
Thanks but I actually do love my parents but at the moment I unfortunately still live with them. But I can't wait to actually have full independence though.
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