What should I do, since my dad has himself and my mum is ignoring me?

[KellyPlayz333555]

Guys … I’m having problems right now…

My dad got hurt while I was on the way to the car from the airport and my mum hasn’t been giving me any love since then. I feel abandoned, lonely and stupid. It’s a good thing I have a counselling appointment in 40 minutes and I can tell her exactly what’s going on and I’ll need her advice on what to do. In the meantime, do you guys have any suggestions on what I should do?

i’m a 17 1/2-year-old woman who lives with two parents and 0 siblings.

[wankiam]

to be honest my parents gave me abandonment issues from the age of four so really you have been lucky to get to an age where really you should be thinking about moving out anyway... though i do sympathise and i know it can be hard i guess its time to be an independant adult

[KellyPlayz333555]

I see… I am but I can’t move out until I get a job and when I have enough money to buy a new house. College is also getting on my shoulders, so if I ever did move out, I would have to start thinking about dropping out of college and going to work instead.

[wankiam]

you dont have to buy and im assuming at this stage you aren't too far off going to uni so you can move out then... student loan, maintainance grant and get a part time job like nearly everyone else... in the meantime while at home treat it as a bit of a house share rather than a childs family life and that will give you more freedoms anyway

[KellyPlayz333555]

I guess… But I don’t even have my A-levels yet. But I do have my GCSEs.

[wankiam]

what you got... six months left? it will fly by if you dont dwell on stuff and allow yourself to have fun instead. 17 and half is a great age to be

[KellyPlayz333555]

Yeah. I’ll be 18 in June. But I might have to delay my birthday plans, do you want to go to Spain and that I’m finishing college and also when I start getting a job. I’ll probably just meet up with my friends who live in Devon

[wankiam]

all good then, spain will be nice and warm then... i can't wait to get to my place in bulgaria in summer

[KellyPlayz333555]

That’s nice…

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No offense your mom needs to come down to earth and talk things over with you I sure hope the counselor was able to help some I feel bad hope things smooth over

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for Most Helpful Guy :)

[PrettyPriya]

You are certainly not stupid. Is there something you are having issues with currently?

[KellyPlayz333555]

Well… Since it’s half term and that I have no siblings, I’m pretty much on my own until I go back to college.

[PrettyPriya]

@KellyPlayz333555

I'm so sorry to hear about this. Do you have friends around?

[KellyPlayz333555]

Well… Two of them live in Plymouth in Torpoint and the rest live in Hampshire, Surrey and London. I live in Cornwall now, due to college life. My boyfriend lives in the US and my friends from social media also live in the US

[PrettyPriya]

@KellyPlayz333555

Ok, so I'm not too familiar other than looking those areas up on a map. I can suggest a few things perhaps.

Maybe make some concrete plans with those friends to meet up for say a weekend? That would give you something to look forward to.

You can always keep busy with a job in between school. Also, take up some new and interesting hobbies. Look around your local area and see if there are any sorts of activity type clubs that you might enjoy and find similar minded people.

[KellyPlayz333555]

I would love to meet up with my friends, but I wish I could get a job, but my parents said I can’t do that yet. My parents always want to go to Spain a lot, but I keep telling them I can’t come with them every single time because I got too much to do in the UK. I have to focus on my college, figure out how to get a job and make sure my friends are all doing fine.

[PrettyPriya]

@KellyPlayz333555

What is their objection to you getting a job if you don't mind my asking? Seems like a reasonable thing for a girl your age to get something even part-time.

[Abdulwahh]

You are very brief i dont understand