Should we excuse bullying from Family members?

[Mrsposh]

I know a lot of us Have stories where family members are very mean to us. Weather it's insults, using us, being ungrateful towards us because they are Blood. a lot of them crossing lines and boundaries with no regards 😕.

Please share some of your own experiences and how you overcame it or if you're still trying to overcome it.
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Yes I have experienced it

No, I've Never experienced it

I'm not sure if I've experienced it

[HighlyVolatile]

I somewhat got it from my step-sister. She was so much older than me like 20 when I was 10. I also had a step-brother who was 18 but he was very cool with me and even invited me to hang out with him all the time and introduced me as his brother which made me so happy.

That step-sister was a bit mean and she also took martial arts so she'd just do things like a roundhouse kick to me in the face out of the blue. I'd be covered in bruises from her kicks but I felt awkward about trying to hit her back since she's a woman. So I'd just try to wrestle her to the ground but she was still so much larger than me back then and end up getting on top of me instead and punching me in the face until my nose was all bloodied.

She also kept doing things like daring me to jump out of windows and trying to push me out of them while trying to get me to sign a suicide note. She was pretty nasty! :-D

[HighlyVolatile]

Those were the most extreme things she did but in between was a lot of teasing and belittling of me. I didn't take it too much to heart (my stepbrother sort of looked out for me) but it was very difficult getting along with her! She seemed to mellow down over the years. I think maybe she didn't like the introduction of a new boy into her family.

[HighlyVolatile]

I think it's possible that she resented my father as well for marrying her mother. But my father was a grown man while I was a little boy. So maybe she took out her frustration on me instead of my father.

[HighlyVolatile]

... she took a liking to my little sister though so maybe that's not exactly it. I don't know what was up with her. One thing she did though that I most resented is that she would pit my sister against me. My sister and I got along so well until she sort of intervened and kind of pitted us against each other all the time. Yet we only stayed together with that step-family for a little over two years. My sister and I reconciled and became close again once we left that household.

[Mrsposh]

Jesus Christ... that's straight up bullying and ABUSE! What did your father do about it? Was she punished? Talked too? Anything? Sweet Jesus I'm in shook 😳

[HighlyVolatile]

I just kind of preferred to deal with these situations myself. My father was very busy with his work and new family and I didn't want to bother him with this stuff. Plus I wanted to get the hang of standing up to her. :-D

[Mrsposh]

That's very sad 😔. I pray you are healed from every single torment she has ever caused you ❤️🙏🏿
Thank you for sharing😊

[HighlyVolatile]

Cheers! Well, it might seem strange but I never saw it as so bad. There's a disconnect I have with some people who think it's so bad. Adversity can build strength and character as I see it if we don't take permanent damage from it. I preferred to look at these things as challenges rather than torture. Life's a series of challenges as I see it, and I enjoy the challenges.

[HighlyVolatile]

I think my parent's divorce hurt me more than that step-sister and other people I met along the way. I had a step-father on my mother's side who stole my prized possessions and our family's car making it so I had to ride the school bus to school. We had to go to divorce court absent his presence while my mother reported her car as stolen and I had to testify.

I went through a lot of shit growing up. :-D It's kind of funny in retrospect. But I don't think I took too many scars from it except just my parents divorcing. That did hurt me a lot and I sometimes wonder if all my personality faults like my fiery temper came from that... not to excuse them. I still do everything I can to mitigate them. But being bullied is something that never wounded me too deeply.

[Mrsposh]

Jeez my guy.. Your life seems sooo wild to me. But im happy how happy and go lucky you are about it ☺️ 😊 😌 love that for you

[HighlyVolatile]

Cheers and thanks very much! 🍻

[Mrsposh]

💕💕💕

[exitseven]

I have a twin brother and we used to torment each other all the time. one time I was running away from him because he was chasing me with a baseball bat. He threw the bat at me and it hit me in the back of the head and I was out cold.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Ann19951104]

You should never excuse bullying. No matter who does it. I've experienced it and I still haven't found a way to overcome it. Still struggling with it every day. But I did cut out those family members and I'm really happy I did that. Hope you find your peace!

[Mrsposh]

That awesome to hear! I love that for you ♥️. And yes as for me I have learned what bullying looks like and I have learned to love those Family members from a distance ❤️.
Thank you for sharing and I hope one day to learn to overcome it 🙏🏿 🙌🏾 😊

[Mrsposh]

*you*

[SnakeBoop]

No. Toxic is toxic

[Mrsposh]

Absolutely True 👍🏿. But I notice especially in black households, we don't discuss it. Instead it is swept under the rug or brushed of as "not a big deal" kinda thing smh