Bullying: Why do some people treat others badly?

[Anonymous]

Bullies always find a reason to bully also whatever you do people will criticize you..

This is my case:

I was born in country A then I moved to country B just in time to start kindergarten. I stayed there most part of my childhood. But some years later I moved again, to country C and I've been in this country since 8th grade. (Part of my family is from country A while the other part is from country B )

I had been bullied for that, for not being native or completely native. Some classmates as well as some people out of school treat me different and/or say hurtful comments.. (not going into details..) I think most people won't understand unless they had been through the same or something similar. It hurts 😿 I didn't choose this.. I feel like I don't belong anywhere..

Yet there are people who accept me and are kind to me and I really appreciate that ❤️

[ohsheeT]

bullies were usually picked on growing up as they grow up and they hate themselves for allowing it to happen.

so they start doing it to other people

when they do it to other people they get a reaction

they usually pick on people that are weak weaker than they are but it's that way because of bullies nothing but a big pussy anyway

but if you act scared then they're going to keep doing it but if you walk straight up to their face and look them deep into the eye and say back off most would shit are piss their pants right there..

a bully doesn't have a life that's why they do what they do that way no matter what if you allow it you get sucked into their drama or their judgment or their life and that's what they want they want that toy

but the person is being bullied has to either accept it and go with it or stand up to it

if you accept it it's going to keep happening each and every day if you stand up to it it might happen one more time

I'm not going to tell you what to do on that one more time thing but I'm sure you can imagine what I'm going to say and it's probably the wrong thing to do in one way but it's the right thing to do it in the only way and that is to smack them straight in their mouth and show them that you're not afraid of them

now you can go about this a lot of different ways I would probably try to walk away at first I would say what I have to say and walk away but the next time it happens I would walk straight up to them and I would let them know that I'm not afraid and I would probably do something about it right then and there I would have probably done something right then and there at the very first time they tried to bully me

when we were born we are all giving a gift and that gift is choice you get to choose who you want to be in life by the things that you say and do

most bullies are wimps they only pick on people that they can get away with it from if you show them that you're not that person they will back off

nobody likes to fight nobody likes to hurt other people but sometimes you have to make a stance and understand if you get hit it's only going to hurt for a second it's not the end of the world let it get you pissed off and then kick the fucker's ass do not take shit from anybody that is being a punk ass bully and if you can't do it yourself find some friends that will help you do it and I'm talking about brother or your father or a guy that likes you

this is one area in this world that I will not ever tolerate
when I went to school there was three brothers that tried picking on the and it didn't last very long and that's just because I stood up to them

in high school there was this challenged kid that rode my bus he lived block and a half away from me but they were bullies at my school that would pick on him and his friends his friends were the same way he was and the first time I seen this I kind of walked past it but then I had to back up and I had to go put a stop to it because there's no reason in this world you have to get picked on like that or feel that way and if I would have left that kid bully the kid that takes my bus I was just as bad as the bully then and I wasn't going to allow it so I stopped it and to this day if I seen something like that happen which I have I stepped into it because that's just who I am I don't believe in it and I would hope you don't either but there's all different avenues you can take to to get this guy off your back because of you talk to anybody that's been bullied they will tell you it lasts for a long long time and that's just because they're too afraid to stick up for themselves you can't be afraid of that you have to make a stand

[andreasderjuengere]

I only bullied once in my life: little school boy picked me as his person of confidence

(I was 19 myself)

He was a pain in the arse.

... Self defense :)

[EmyyWolf]

Because it’s a DOMINATION tactic. It’s a control, power behavior.

I’ve been bullied all through my life. For being overweight, and I wasn’t all that pretty in school.

It’s people who think they’re so cool they can put other’s beneath them. They’re bored, have nothing better to do, so punishing others inferior to them is a POWER , DOMINATION behavior that makes them feel x10 better about themselves. They feel empowered.

It’s also people who have personality disorders as well. “Narcissists” “Psychopaths” “Sociopaths”. These individuals can’t feel empathy.

For example, a normal person of sane mind and spirit. Wouldn’t find pleasure in degrading an elderly person or a midget, or someone vulnerable like a child. Your sane mind doesn’t go directly to seeking to degrade others who aren’t like you.

These people with severe mental illness like Narcissists , Sociopaths, Psychopaths, find literal pleasure from degrading others.

Specially when they know they can. Example: When the victim is alone and they see the victim has no friends for protection. The victim is isolated. The victim is in a position of not being able to fight back or defend themselves.

There is CRITICISM and TOUGH LOVE. But these are carried out in a respectful, professional manner. They’re not carried out in a obvious hurtful degrading form.

[jennifer_bloom]

I know a guy who once came to Canada at age 10 without knowing any English at all and at age 15 he would make fun of a girl who came to Canada at age 10 from the same country he did and had an accent. I know a guy who got rejected by 200 girls before age 20 due to stuttering problems and at age 28 he would make fun of guys that got nervous around women. Some people hate the d person they once were themselves. Like there is a 300 pound woman who says I have saggy breasts and am uglier than her. She says she has the face of a fashion model.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Believe it or not, not taking anyone’s words seriously - helps,

I always think I’ve never been bullied, maybe I was, I just don’t remember cause I never cared what other people said 😄

And they seem to have sensed I didn’t care and were always respectful to me.

[Kelley1]

Most, but far from all, bullying stops by the time they are in their twenties. Often it is to get attention and sometimes because they are envious of the person they are bullying. In that case, it may not be direct but they look for a way to be a snitch in order to harm the person.

[PeachyPie93]

Violence always solves bullying. Fight the next person who puts you down. Just hit them with a chair wwe style or anything you can find, when they aren't looking. If violence isn't your thing, learn some good comebacks, pick out everything wrong with them physically and stick up for yourself. People always pick out the weakest person to bully especially if you are a quiet person, so don't feel scared and don't ever let ass holes make you feel less than them.

[SweetCountryGirl123]

People who bully others do it because they are mentally, ethically & morally weak. It's why bullies often run away like kicked dogs whenever their victims stand up to them.

Instead of letting it get to you look at them as they are - pathetic weak individuals whose inferiority means they can only feel good about themselves by abusing others.

[Billlewis]

I think there are three reasons

-- number one, because they can

-- number two, because we need it

-- number three, to impress a woman, because many women find this very exciting

[Asker]

What do you mean? You need it? And if you like a woman and want to impress her, you treat her badly?

[Billlewis]

No, no. I need to be bullied, humbled and shamed, and when a woman's watching it thrills me to shame.

[Wallythewalrus2]

Disgusting!

[Billlewis]

@Wallythewalrus2 Yes, Sir, thank you very much.

[exitseven]

Some are insecure and feel better abput themselves by putting others down. Some have been victims of bullying themselves. Some are just assholes.

[normalice]

To make themselves feel better. Every single bully, without exception, believes themselves to be the real victim.

[Somoneelse]

Most likely to mask their own insecuities or pain. Most bullies are being bullied themselves or have a bad childhood w parents.

[4ngelic]

mainly to be more popular/fit in, prejudice, insecurity and sadism

[OtterMan68]

They don't believe in equality. They believe they are better than others, and it's OK to dehumanize them. They were taught that at home or they learned it on the street or on the playground.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Some people are just born rotten and 💩... there's no explanation.

[Nehir]

People who are bullies actually have insecurities inside them.

[UnknownAdvisor2024]

Just know that all the bullying they're doing is because they don't like themselves just remember that it's not really a problem with you it's a problem with them and the only reason they bully somebody is to make themselves feel better

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, and they generally succeed in their objective. And if there's an attractive woman that they want to impress, they'll usually accomplish that, as well. I can't say that I knock bullying, because it serves a valuable purpose in school, in the workplace as well as at various social events.

[CozyCoffin]

Because of poor upbringing they torment others for them to feel good.

[pinkydaze_]

They are usually bullied at home, my ex 😂

[Billlewis]

Oh my goodness... did you bully your ex boyfriend when you were in a relationship with him? I know I shouldn't feel this way, but I find that tremendously exciting.

[pinkydaze_]

What?, noooo
He was bullied at home, I sought to calm the ravaging beast till the beast came to hunt me and I ran

[Stella98_]

Cause they have low self esteem.

[jahaims]

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