We’ve been friends for a long time, I was originally friends with her ex partner as he was my flat mate and they both got together. They split last year and she’s been struggling, I’ve been there for her. She use to be there for me so I continue to support her, however, the past several months have just been about her. I’ve tried to be there thinking it would just ride out and she’ll realise things and come to her senses but she hasn’t.
It’s getting worse. She goes to therapy and tells me every single detail in depth, every message she sends is about her emotions, and her problems. She never asks how I am anymore. And I was recovering from surgery recently, I even told her I won’t be messaging as I’ll be recovering and unable to see. Well, when I was well enough to read messages, all the messages she sent was about herself and she not once asked or even said she hoped I was okay.
I gave her advise as usual and she said “I was just updating you on my life”. She even mentioned about me being distant before and I said I was just busy as. I moved closer to family and have been spending time with loved ones so I don’t send as lengthy messages anymore. Today, I had enough and decided to tell her how I feel, I politely said I feel she is putting it on my a lot and may be good to speak with her therapist. She completely ignored what I said and continued talking about how she feels etc. I felt bad and was going to advise/support but I got fed up with it and just left it. Her ex partner split up with her because she refused help and he couldn’t handle the stress anymore. She even had the cheek earlier to say that I was probably judging her and her ex despite the fact I’ve spent months just advising her. Am I wrong for not wanting to be friends anymore with her?
It’s getting worse. She goes to therapy and tells me every single detail in depth, every message she sends is about her emotions, and her problems. She never asks how I am anymore. And I was recovering from surgery recently, I even told her I won’t be messaging as I’ll be recovering and unable to see. Well, when I was well enough to read messages, all the messages she sent was about herself and she not once asked or even said she hoped I was okay.
I gave her advise as usual and she said “I was just updating you on my life”. She even mentioned about me being distant before and I said I was just busy as. I moved closer to family and have been spending time with loved ones so I don’t send as lengthy messages anymore. Today, I had enough and decided to tell her how I feel, I politely said I feel she is putting it on my a lot and may be good to speak with her therapist. She completely ignored what I said and continued talking about how she feels etc. I felt bad and was going to advise/support but I got fed up with it and just left it. Her ex partner split up with her because she refused help and he couldn’t handle the stress anymore. She even had the cheek earlier to say that I was probably judging her and her ex despite the fact I’ve spent months just advising her. Am I wrong for not wanting to be friends anymore with her?
