How much do you care if other people like you?

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HighlyVolatile · Accepted Answer

The way I look at it is like marketing. I don't try to market a product to everyone; I often think that's a way to receive lukewarm reception from everyone. Instead, I try to find the appropriate demographic.

For example, if I tried to open a sushi restaurant, I wouldn't market it to people who don't like sushi. I wouldn't try to put things on the menu like pizza or hamburgers to try to appeal to people who don't like sushi since that would detract focus from making the best sushi restaurant I can. That said, I do want to appeal to people who know and love sushi, so it's from that audience where I'm most interested in suggestions and will try my best to implement (not necessarily verbatim; I have to balance all the suggestions against each other and my own vision).

So that's also how I roll with myself. I try to present and market myself as genuinely as I can (I never want to veer into false marketing, since I value customer loyalty). I do still want to appeal to the right kind of demographic, but not to everyone. So I like to just put myself out there, flaws and all, and divide my audiences. The goal isn't so much to appeal to everyone (I figure I'm doing something wrong if I do) but to discover who finds me, as I am, appealing. I've found the more we do this boldly and authentically, the easier it is to find our truest friends and lovers with whom we can perfectly be ourselves without any risk of losing them for it.

That said, while I don't seek to appeal to everyone and (would actually think I'm doing something wrong if I did), I do want to try to at least get reasonably along with everyone. The hardcore hater types still tend to get to me when they trash me or a product I've created as though they take such offense to the mere fact that my product or I exist. I've never been fully desensitized to those hostile types, so I do try to minimize my encounters with them and try to appeal to their better nature so that they can continue to dislike me and my products, but don't feel the need to absolutely hate me or my products.

willyppah · Accepted Answer

Decades ago, I used to care so much if people like me, and I always tried not to let them down or see anything bad or wrong in me.
But, guess what!
After I started struggling and facing huge problems to the extent my life was impossible… I realized then that no one truly likes or care about me, but they only like in me what they want and what makes them feel comfortable and what they believe will serve them and their needs including the needs for their souls to see what they like in other people.
So, They left me alone struggling and they only reply to my messages whenever they have nothing to do and when the person they love to be with is not available, meaning sometimes they don’t reply until weeks or months late…
And when I told them about my struggles (that shows automatically how much help I need from at least one person), of course they didn’t even bother themselves and all what they know is saying “just be patient, have patience and you’ll get the reward”, while they don’t understand that when a person needs help helping him is more rewarding even 🤣🤣.
So, basically, now, even if people will show or say they like me, I wouldn’t be caring that much, I appreciate it of course but can’t care because I personally like everyone and like good for everyone, and I don’t need anything from anyone especially that the hard time done already. People nowadays are so judgmental and they become your worst enemies or nightmare once they think you did something wrong, even if they are not sure and don’t understand what you’re doing they can change from liking you to be headache for you. 🤷

BeeNee · Accepted Answer

I more so care when I've gone out of my way for someone, or I've only spoken highly of them, or considered us to have a good friendship and discovered later that they were using me or didn't equally feel that way, that I care because you try and be a good person and friend and when there is no reciprocation, it makes me wonder, what did I do that they'd treat me that way and why is it that they don't like me? I should probably care the least about those types of people, but it bothers me more than I'd like to admit.

SecretsofKB · Accepted Answer

It depends on who the person is. If it's someone I have to work with or be around for long periods of time, I would prefer they like me.

Other than that, I'm getting old enough that I realize I don't need other people's approval to be happy.

Cherry234 · Answer

It depends on who the person is. I'm concerned about leaving a good impression on people I'm fond of. It would be nice if they liked me back (but I understand that not everyone I like is going to like me back and I can accept that). If the dislike is mutual, then I have no problem with that at all. For example, there are a lot of people on here I dislike so I don't really care if they don't like me because they're not important to me.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I try not to care cause the bible says that when you care too much it interferes with your faith but I do care enough to protect myself cause if you do not guard your life, you put yourself at risk, I enjoy compliments but I try not to seek it out, cause I know God does not want us to seek validation from human beings.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Moved too many times.
Temporary friends everywhere.
Some people liked while some people did not like me.
Do not even care about people now.
What these people think about me is a long shot then...

A bit different on this site. I actualy take into account what someone says that is beneficial to me.

NathanDavis · Answer

it has never been a worry for me, some people like me and others don't... that's life, and that's the same for everyone, pretty much

for those who like me, they always find their way to me, or we meet somewhere, somehow... and for those who not like me, they just go their own way and towards those who they actually like, which is fine and that's how it should be... we should all spend some time and share with those we're keen of

menina · Answer

I used to care a lot about it because I always looking for approval. Now I don't care. If people like me it's great, if they don't it's also fine. Those who like me are probably the ones that should stay in my life. Plus it's impossible to be liked by everyone.

Sour-rose · Answer

I've lost a lot of percentage if someone likes me. I'm going down a road not many will agree with and tell me to stop while it's easy. So if you don't like how i'm doing this life, then stop walking next to me in the grass while I stay on the rocky path. :)

Biya21 · Answer

in the past i have self worth issues and if someone didn't liked me i took that to my heart but now after i have gone through a huge transformation and spiritual awakening i dont care about others because no matter how much you do still people will hate you. you cannot make everyone around you happy. just make yourself happy and enjoy the moment.

Matcha19 · Answer

I used to change myself to fit into a situation. I don’t anymore. If I don’t like you, and you don’t like me, that’s ok. Just be cordial.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I use to care a lot actually. It really effected me. A therapy helped me realize no one really cares. Not everyone will like me or click with me and that's just how it is.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

It’s not the most important thing for me to be likes, but…. Then again, who doesn't wanna be liked

melaniee789456123 · Answer

To be honest, I try not to care, but I does matter to me sometimes. I try to ignore how others feel about me if it's negative, but I find myself in the back of my head, thinking about how hurtful it can be.

TransAm85 · Answer

I cared when I was younger. Then u grow up and u realize those people aren't paying ur bills so who gives a shit wut they think, right? The only person's opinion that can be damaging is a parents.. hence why we rebel and screw up.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

I care (or cared) a lot about it, but I’m changing it.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Doesn't bother me a bit they can hate me for all I care

Honestly I've spent most of my life not being liked so it would honestly barely affect me

If four or five people liked me that would be enough I would be happy with it

annabananna · Answer

I care and it feels good to have people like you for who you are but at the same time I know that not everyone will like you so you have to deal with it.

England4eva · Answer

It’s not the dislike that bothers me. But lately people have been going out of their way to ruin my day, because they dislike me... Grown people acting like kids

Passion_Devil · Answer

I don't really? I don't want to live for someone else's approval. I want to be me, do my thing. The people close to me who I care about, I don't care if they like me but they do because they accept me for who I am as a person.

Guccigabbana18 · Answer

I care if I like them back. If I dislike them, then I couldn’t care less what their opinions of me are. I only value their judgement if I think it’s a good one

OneNineZero · Answer

I dont care at all  In fact most people in real world hate me and I dont care  Even if the whole world would hate me I dont care  Even if God himself hate me I dont care

UniquelyBasic · Answer

I would like to say I dont care what people think of me to seem cool but I do care but only specific people like some family and friends.

Kaamraj · Answer

If someone apart from my parents, and dog like me than they have never made it known. So I do not care. I do my duty in this world to survive and not be a pain to all around me, that is it.

DonkeyDan · Answer

Couldn't give a fuck to be honest, I know there are people who don't like me for one reason or another, but they are their hang ups not mine.

libsaretards · Answer

Not a damn bit. If you are not feeding me, fucking me or financially providing for me I do not care. Since I am waiting until marriage option 2 is off the table but I just love the saying.

purplepoppy · Answer

It matters a lot to be liked by the right sort of people but if your hated by the wrong sort your definitely doing things right.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Most people don't add anything of value to my life so I couldn't care less. There are a few people in my life who I do care about what they think of me.

Dominique95glee · Answer

I don’t care 90% only ones who opinion matters is mine unless I’m looking for a date that the other %

Squaresquirrel · Answer

I care about a few selected people's opinions but the rest? No. This is me, take it or leave it.

JBlade · Answer

Very little, I care what I think of me significantly more.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I care a lot but if someone doesn't like it well that happens

HeartFullOfGlue · Answer

Depends on the person I've changed my whole personality just so someone would like me

Rippersavage · Answer

I care a lot and I hate that about myself (but I'm good at pretending like I don't)

Nagatoro · Answer

I don't really care unless it's someone I'm close with that doesn't

YesIWouldLikeFries · Answer

I don't give a rat's arse if people like me or not. Its irrelevant.

Waldoe · Answer

I care, but it isn't a driving concern... I don't change who I am to please strangers

driven159 · Answer

Don't care one bet I have to take care of me and don't count on anyone else doing it for you

noohair · Answer

I like myself, screw anyone else that doesn't. Specially strangers.

bigpauly · Answer

I want some people to like me. But I don’t care if random ones don’t.

Zygum · Answer

If some body like me and respect me, I give more love and respect

altdbob · Answer

I don't really give a shit; it is their loss not mine.

Unkn0wn427 · Answer

I am a people pleaser and love it when people like me. I hate that I feel like this but I do

flirtatiousgirl · Answer

I don't care if i have a boyfriend

JuanVeIasco · Answer

I only care about my aunt's love.

llorando · Answer

Don't care one bit if people like me.

GJ2154 · Answer

Sometimes, it depends on the situation.

OddBeMe · Answer

I used to care. But it was a losing battle.

anton_dee · Answer

Initially a lot, but now idgaf...

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Primarily I just hope they like my Conga Series

QuasiaRobinson44 · Answer

not at all

TX651 · Answer

Makes no difference to me.

Liketheview · Answer

i could care less

Joker_ · Answer

too much

malwins · Answer

LOL 💯 percent

Zondahyura22 · Answer

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