My parents are charging me rent. Is this fair? (Page 2)

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Ever since I turned 18 my parents have been taking 150$ from me a month. I’m now 22. I know that doesn’t sound like a lot, but I’m only making around 400$ a month from my job. That’s almost 1/3 of all my wages. They’re well off and do not even need the money. I asked them if they’re saving it for me for the future and they laughed in my face and said I sounded entitled and that I should “contribute” to the house. I understand that that is fair, but I could contribute in other ways, especially since I only make 400$ a month, and all of that money goes to my car gas and car insurance. I don’t have any money to save because it all goes to them and my car. What do you think I should do and what should I ask them? Thanks for any help.

H8INCHES · Answer

Parents most often think that high school is the end of their obligation to bank roll their kids. When the kid makes no moves to leave on their own, parents try to force them out gently with rent and chores... things to make them think they might as well move out.
My dad just bitched about everything I did until I had to leave. He was driving me nuts and I was only 17 when I graduated. I had my first apartment 2 weeks before my 18th birthday.

DizzyDesii · Answer

My fam did the same. Its fair to help with the bills but sometimes families go overboard and try to take financial advantage. Keep a secret savings aside

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I always gave money up at home since I started earning from a paper round and washing cars. I was 12.
Know what? Best thing I ever did.. It taught me that if you look after money, it will look after you. I did it voluntarily too.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

No it's not fair considering you have the money to pay that bill, it means you are doing something with your life so it's not like you deserve for them to charge you rent, what would happen if you tell them you are broke tho?

boxxie2002 · Answer

If you were renting or paying a mortgage, they say it equates to 1/3 of your income.

Options would be to upskill to get a higher paying job, or negotiate with your parents. Offer services to reduce the rent... gardening, taking over the laundry, house keeping?

It is fair they charge you rent. It is up to you discuss with them what the rent covers and negotiate from there

EaterPeter · Answer

I think it is fair. I want my daughter to save which I was not sure she may do otherwise. I would take the money save on her behalf or if she have auto deduction go to some kind of savings like 401 K or recurring account which would not let her take out money for 5 years or so without penalty I would be fine. I would be fine. I may or may not want her to know that I am saving on her behalf depends on our daily interactions.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

that is likely barely covering utilities for you, let alone food and other expenses.

You should be able to make more than 400 a month though, what is your future plans and what are you doing to work towards them?

aided_ · Answer

wellacknowledging how much you makei dont think its fairi think its fair to charge you rentbut not that much if it really is such a burden then again youd be in probably a worse situation if you moved into a proper flatso idrk

Subarugirl · Answer

so you are 22 and you are complaining that you have to pay 150 in rent a month? if you're not happy about it move out, see how the real world treats you. Im 24 and my mortgage is about 2k a month...

Agape93 · Answer

Yes it's fair. Be glad its 150 a month and not 800 a month elsewhere. A basic apartment in the city in my state go from scummy at 1300 to nicer at 2500.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What’s the rest of the story? You are 22 years old and only earn $400 per month. What’s the explanation?

Oigit · Answer

Get your life in order. Find a better job and move out. You are way past the point where you should be a independent adult. If anything it's unfair to your parents that you are not.

Adam1978 · Answer

You should stop wasting your hard earned money on a pit like a car. Spending 2/3 on a car is much worse than 1/3 on rent. The car should cost you less than a tenth.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

You're 18. If you don't want to abide by their rules then you're old enough to move out. Get a better paying job.

HumblePatrik · Answer

1. Are they tying to teach you Responsibility or 2. Are they trying to Observe how you will face challenges if incase you have rented a house.

Also, as long as you live that house you must at least take responsibility in helping in house in terms money. I believe if you do this they won’t take rent from. This is because they will see how you so helpful financially to them.

Finally: Seek an advice from your GRANDPARENTS if only they are still alive

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

They’re preparing you for the real world. They are doing you a favor, believe me. Once you become an adult, they are no longer legally responsible for you. It might seem harsh right now, but coddling your adult child is detrimental to both you and them. I’m sure they provide you with food, and list of other things. So in conclusion, no, a small amount of rent for an adult kid is not unreasonable.

20yearsolder · Answer

Since you live under their roof, you have to play by their rules. Your options are to move out which you can't afford to do and you can ask them for anything but they're not obligated to do any of it

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

Such people should not make kids. Kids did not ask you to be born. You are their parent forever not till they become 18. I personally think kids should be supported till they are financially settled down

fonduegirl · Answer

Move out thenPersonally, I wouldn't pay considering a. I've company in my house b. I've deal to deal with family drama. But I guess it's somewhat fair. Moving out is advisable

KieranByrne · Answer

I pay £100 a week, plus other bills like Internet, and use to pay the vet bill (s), sometimes gas and electric, and food. This will help you grasp the concept of 'Real world' living!

AviatorTom · Answer

If you have a job, it's fair to be paying your parents rent. If you don't like it, move out and live on your own.

Gloree · Answer

Hi, don't be sad. They are teaching you a lesson. Don't complain. Beg them to reduce it and let them know of your plans for a better future. Parents often love their children. Personally, I think they are giving you tough love.

Citizenkirk · Answer

If you have not graduated from high school yet, and are getting decent grades, perhaps you could convince them too let you get your diploma before charging you rent.

Emilyis · Answer

you are 24 go out and get yourself a job and have your own place and learn to cook, clean, pay your own way and show people that you can do it.

Guy13 · Answer

You’re getting off EASY‼️ Get a second job lazy…your 22 year old pussy. OMG 😱  😱 😱 😱

htmndg183 · Answer

Its not fair. I don't understand this. Are they trying to recover the cost of raising you? Aren't parents supposed to look out for their children? In my culture parents don't ask children for rent even when they become adults.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Welcome to being an adult. You need to try and get more hours, a second job or a different job all together. Most places if not all would charge you more for rent than you make in a month and would non-negotiable.

Wise4myage · Answer

Look at it this way, if you moved out and had roomies, than you'd be paying a lot more on food and utilities. Maybe you need to look for a better paying job?

DevinAM · Answer

I live with my parents and pay toward rent, I give them more than that though.

It's still less than you'd have to pay if you were on your own.

I would suggest getting a second or higher paying job though.

SnakeBoop · Answer

They are entitled to charge as much as they want. Its your choice to stay, you could move.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Wow! This looks like a very Western concept. I find it unfair.

dustybiker · Answer

Of course it is fair. Life isn’t free or fair. Your parents wouldn’t be doing you any good making you falsely think it is.

Browneye57 · Answer

Oh dear. You're still not getting it. Will you be a total failure for your entire life? Or just a little while longer? We're dying to know...

IveGotNoName · Answer

You're an adult, so yes it's fair. If you dont agree to the terms of the household, get a better job and move out.

zagor · Answer

Are you going to school FT? If not then you should be paying your share. And where else could you find rent for $150, with utilities presumably included?

When I lived with my parents for a time as an adult, I paid them $600 a month.

Dragonstarterplus · Answer

"I’m only making around 400$ a month from my job"  I found the issue. Get a better job

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

1/3rd sounds about right. I make 5200 a month and pay 2k in rent

Drumlin2001 · Answer

It's totally fair. You're an adult and €150 is very cheap for somewhere to live. Maybe you should be looking at better paid jobs

boobliker · Answer

is that all out of 400 my mum would have wanted 250 to 300

omnivert · Answer

Yes, a lot, Thay are trying to teach you a lesson which you already know or dont. But its a life lesson. You should appreciate them and live peacefully.

Anonymous · Answer

My parents are wealthy and live near school but I still work and pay my own apartment because it's my responsibility as a college adult. Be glad that you are so lucky to get such cheap rent and parents who let you stay with them

EnglishEuropean · Answer

I think it's fair for you to pay something but for $150 a month they should get the hell out of your house. But I think they are just encouraging you to move out, which is fine. You're an adult after all.

Parakeeta · Answer

You need to get a different job or another job and work more unless you are going to school.

TallAnon · Answer

Yeah, mine were talking about the same. 150 is actually quite cheap. I moved out instead though. The better question is why you only make 400.

DWornock · Answer

Your parents are 100% correct. You should get educated and motivated to get a higher paying job and then move out.

CaptainLegal · Answer

I don't know my parents never asked from me to pay rent. There have been only a few times when they couldn't pay the bills or something and asked me to pay them but this happened like 2-3 times.

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

They are teaching you that life is expensive and if you want to succeed, you will need to further your skills or education. They are doing the right thing

Shamalien · Answer

400 a month at 22? My parents charged me 400 for rent at 22. Get your shit together. Your parents are doing the right thing and pushing you to make more. I think they should charge more

joeldalton · Answer

Extremely fair. You are supposedly an adult. Act like one.

Ram-man · Answer

My parents charged me rent too. I think it’s good for your adults to have this. Live is not a free ride.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Yes its fair welcome to the real world where nothing is free.

Kiran_Yagami · Answer

Yes, it's fair. If you don't want to be charged rent, live on the street, because everyone else has to pay to stay somewhere, even if they own the place (property taxes).

Phoenix98 · Answer

So why don’t you find a better job? Or a full time job that’s 40 hours a week?

Anonymous · Answer

Average rent should be about 1/3 of your wages. You're a big girl, you can handle it. Welcome to being an adult. If you don't like whst you make, get a different job.

Anonymous · Answer

Rent is usually between 1/3 and 1/2 of your entire wage. So yes it’s fair. My rent is 1800 a month and I make 4000 a month.

Shy_Steve · Answer

After your 18 your Parents can legally demand rent if your living in their house. You cannot do much unless you move out.

Anonymous · Answer

Amazing how immature todays young people are — 100 years ago, men were men and took care of themselves at 18 — their own job, house etc. and didn’t cry about it being unfair. Men are starting to act like women so much that they want to become women

Staximus · Answer

150 a month is nothing, I paid 3 times that to rent a room in the 90's. Go get your entitled bum ass a real job and grow up for fucks sake.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like your parents are that big of a failure that they have to take money off of their own child just so they can make ends meet. If they where financially stable then they wouldn't be charging you rent.

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