Interrupted sleep is so frustrating. Right?

[meetkitty123]

Lately since I been basically a single parent of two, with two jobs and a caregiver in between it all Sleep seems to be a commodity. Today I tried to take a 15 minute nap before getting up to cook dinner and heading to my second job and it never happened. Between kids busting in and jumping on me phone ringing doorbell rings dog barking phone rings again I gave up! Pass me a cup of coffee and a monster its time to get cooking and onto my 2nd job... a night shift! WOOHOO 😴🤪😵‍💫😜😴🥱🤪

Hell yeah

Sleep? What's that?

Sleep is for chumps! Pass me another Red Bull, a monster and more caffeine! WOOHOO!

I don't need much sleep.

[sage2021]

Sounds like it would help to have a strict schedule to go by. Kids in bed every night at a specific time - no exceptions. If kids are in bed, perhaps the dog will be too (if you have a dog).
The sleep you are getting that is constantly itrrupted is bad for your circadian rhythm during sleep. Believe it or not it can cause you to become sick after a while.
I am glad you are able to quit one of your jobs, that way you can make a strict schedule which will include a time slot for your sleep. You cannot go on the way you are and have it not affect your body in a bad way.
Good luck planing a new, strict schedule to keep you and your family healthy. 🌷

[meetkitty123]

Thank You for the very sound and good advice. I appreciate it. At that time 4:30/5:00 the youngest had just come off the school bus. So its very unlikely I am going to tuck him into bed at that hour. He jumped me excited to give me a belated mothers day gift. The dog barked at the door bell being rung by a delivery man. And hey thats what dogs are for to give us a heads up. This is all part of family life. We do have our routine. Our life may not be traditional at the moment but thats what living is all about. The ball isn't always going to go straight. Every so often we get a few curve balls and to get by we have to know when and how to make adjustments.

[howhigh420]

oh i fucking hate it because i have a bad sleeping patern hate being woke up to early the van playing tune around the back all the neighbours there's way to much neighhours around my bit talking to much kids screaming nd shouting i know they need fun but peace is good dogs barking people coming in for a fag the most tiny thing can wake me up nd everytime get woke up i need a piss nd a hate getting up out a bed when am trying to get a good sleep but i need to or awl no be able to relax again

[ohshee]

Yes it is totally frustrated and then when you can't go back to sleep it's even more frustrating I used to be able to just masturbate and I've go back to sleep but now it's like I want to masturbate with somebody lol to get even more tired and please that person at the same time cuz if I can please her then that means I'm going to have the best orgasm to and then I would sleep like a baby but that person's hard to find so I just get up start doing something that I get a little bit more awake and then by the time it's time for me to wake up it's that moment that I want to go to sleep

[ArtemisSilver]

Maybe you should get a roommate with kids and trade off the childcare and cooking responsibilities.

I have kids and can relate, even with my wife helping it's a bit exhausting. I'm trying to care for them, study and daytrade and almost every day one of those things has to slide.

We're exploring the idea of polyamory/polyfidelity in the hopes of finding a lady to join us who likes kids and chore splitting. Maybe an arrangement like that would work for you? (Not suggesting with me lol just in general).

[meetkitty123]

Nah I dont care to have another woman in the house... But I would consider another man 😉

[ArtemisSilver]

Yeah people think I want to start a harem, which I guess is half true, but my reason for wanting to exclude poly men from the household is because it seems to cause bad mental health outcomes for the less assertive/popular man/men. Don't really want to risk that when creating a safe space for children.

I don't mind if the women I'm partnered with have additional partners outside of the house as long as we all discuss the workings first. For example I'm just not paying for some other dudes kids and I expect everyone involved to be responsible with testing and protection and stuff.

But negotiation is always possible.

[meetkitty123]

Well I hope it works out for you. Whatever people want to do in their marriage is their business. As long as they are in agreement it isn't anyone elses concern.
Quite frankly I still would never bring another woman into my family. After all I don't want to be paying for some other womans children 😉. But if they are mine Im alright with it.

[ArtemisSilver]

Who says you'd have to work?

[ArtemisSilver]

I mean if you want to pay for everything and be a matriarch go for it, although I think men would thrive less in such a situation.

[meetkitty123]

Let me stop this before people take me entirely serious lol Im only partially serious.
I am serious about not being into women
I am serious about having permission to discreetly date however I haven't taken that offer up even though my marriage is on paper only
I'm not serious about bringing another guy in the house what I might do outside the house will be my business I'm not bringing that home around my children
I'm not serious about not taking care of kids that are not mine I've been a stepmother. And I've even helped friends out with their children when they ran into some issues

[meetkitty123]

I'm always the matriarch I run everything in my house its just how it has had to be

[ArtemisSilver]

Thanks for sharing

[Guardian45]

Very interesting

[Massageman]

My "normal" pattern includes an interruption.

I sleep in a "binary number" pattern. I sleep for four hours, then I wake up.
I go back to sleep, and that will be for two hours.
If I go back to bed again, that will be for one hour.
This pattern has been sticking with me- I've quit trying to fight it, since I have no problem falling back to sleep, nor falling asleep in the first place.

[meetkitty123]

Its helpful to know your pattern

[Massageman]

If I decide to stay up after four hours, for example, I will be better off than if I get awakened again in the middle of my two hour stint, in spite of the extra hour.

[OlderAndWiser]

Good sleep is a luxury for many people. When you get older, you'll wake up in the middle of the night to pee and even if you go right back to sleep when you get back in bed, it's not the same thing as sleeping straight through the whole night.

[jimmy2]

Please be careful. You are stretch out
Before you are done with caregiving you will be gone in death. I know I almost be died taking care of my wife. If I was you I w lol quit all jobs but one. Get disability on the one you are caregiving. Then take it my much easer

[meetkitty123]

Thank you I plan on giving a two week notice to the pm shift but I have one more bill to catch up on. The hospital bills are stacking up.

[jimmy2]

If you can get under $2,000 a month the government will give you a job to take care of your love one. If above you get enough

[meetkitty123]

Thank you hopefully he won't need permanent help.

[RavenBloodswiin]

I used to work for my uncles company which is established on a different time zone. so my working hours were from 8 pm to 5 am. I am only really getting back into normalish sleeping patterns the last 2 months ish?
Plus im in the field of software development, so can someone please define sleep for me? lol.

[jshm2]

Get your man, mom or aunt to help.

Also, don't take too many naps - you spoil your sleep for later.

Cut the caffeine before 6, or two hours before bed.

You need to get your shit together before you can earn a good sleep. You read like you've got nothing together, so no surprise it's all going to unravel when you're not up spinning plates

[exitseven]

I have to use a CPAP machine and every night is an adventure.

This is not me.

[ArtemisSilver]

At least you can pretend to be Darth Vader

[meetkitty123]

Oh that looks so uncomfortable I hope its not as it seems

[Guardian45]

What does your wife think?

[exitseven]

@Guardian45 It makes it so I don't snore so she is good with it.

[Rudon00]

Meetkitty123 try to get some sleep when you can it is very important that you do. I know it may seem hectic but you need to get some rest. caffeine drinks can do long term. damages to your health if you don't make the priority to get some rest.

[meetkitty123]

I was joking about the coffee and Monster thank you though. But yes rest is always a good thing

[Rudon00]

Okay then.

Yes it is more than we ever know

[amandat94132]

I was happy when an old husband and wife moved next door after these noisy
partiers left Loud music til 1 am Saturday / Sunday

Disco sound banging YUCH! Totally frustrating! I know what you mean! :)

[Chiarac2003]

I’m sorry hun…that sounds/seems very difficult. I wish you some happiness. Ur such a trooper.

[meetkitty123]

Thank you

[Chiarac2003]

🎀🥰👍💕

[20yearsolder]

It sure is, I sleep about 3 and 1/2 or 4 hours a night max. I used to sleep eight, nine, 10 or more hours a night

[Uptowngirl88]

Um why are u allowing the kids father to get away with this?

[meetkitty123]

he's the one sick in and out the hospital bed ridden after 2 strokes and 8 surgeries 9 blood transfusions and some time on life support... I think he may be entitled to a pass. 😉

[Uptowngirl88]

Doesn't mean he's off the hook as a provider you should be receiving his disability and child support raise your standards. Stop being mediocre

[meetkitty123]

Of course I am receiving the money that doesn't mean the hospital bills are going to stop coming nor does it mean that Im not managing it.

[Uptowngirl88]

Why would u be responsible for his medical bills if you're a single parent?

[meetkitty123]

I said Im basically a single parent now meaning Im juggling this on my own since since Feb since he's been sick we are married

[NathanDavis]

sleep? what's that? lol

I'm quite used to it... pretty much since I was a child

[Crankor]

Downside is too just how your body creates an internal clock to wake up in the morning, same thing can happen if you constantly wake up through out the night.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I hate when sleep is Interrupted that is so frustrating

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. Unless you were woken up from a nightmare. Than it's a blessing.

[Guardian45]

They say your cumulative sleep deficit takes years off your life! I have this problem, too. But I'm making it my objective this week to improve my sleep hygiene!

[ArtemisSilver]

Melatonin and chamomile tea, total darkness and no tech for two or three hours before bed. Sounds easy but I always find myself reading before bed on my phone.

[TroyDT]

You mean like having my dog bark at the wind at 0100 so that I am on here answering questions till after 0400? Yes, it is.

[larry69]

I get very little sleep due to stress

[meetkitty123]

Sorry to hear that

[msc545]

It is very disturbing and it's very hard to get through the next day after that happens

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

100% fact. I seriously hate that ish.