Have anyone else experienced people changing around them while you’re going through a healing journey?

[Anonymous]

Recently my dad passed away 6 months ago. I didn’t think it affected me much but it did. I was angrier than usual. I was snappy at people. I didn’t give my self time to grieve. I went right to work even when I found out he passed away. I then went homeless 3 months later. I was living in a nice hotel close to my job. I forgot to mention I was working and in nursing school.

the company I work offers free counseling and seeing a psychiatrist if meds are needed. So I decided to do the free counseling. My therapist and I clicked from day one. She called me out and told me I was lying to myself and I had resentment.

in the African American community it’s not popular to see a therapist or tell strangers your business. But I’m about breaking generation curses. She asked simple questions but they dug deep into my childhood.

As I’m healing and being happy from within and learning to not only have emotions but be comfortable showing it because as a man I was taught men don’t show emotions. We struggle and get through it. After a month everyone noticing big changes. Everyone see how happy I am naturally I’m actually smiling more.

The problem I’m having that I wonder if it’s normal. As the inner child in me is healed and I’m becoming a better man. The women around me tend to become angrier or depressed and not want to talk to me as much. Some that see they can’t get to me and I no longer react to things they do. They are paranoid now and or not wanting to talk much. Regardless I’m still happy.

Im just wondering will people change up as you go on your healing journey if so why? I’m happier than I ever been. I deal with stress better now.

[joe2511]

Yes. Like energy attracts like energy. Subconsciously they sense that and will either have to level up themselves to match your energy or fade away. Change is hard and it is easier for people to continue living their lives. Good for you for taking the time and working on yourself. I am sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. Keep being you and the right people will come into your life.

[Asker]

Thank you, I noticed that. I’m starting to attract different people to me now. But the old ones that I was miserable or angry with them they are fading away. But therapy is awesome. I was scared at first. I thought I was going to be in a mental institution. But she tried not to laugh just told me that my emotions are normal and that it’s ok to have them.

So now I’m experiencing all kinds of emotions outside of anger that I didn’t feel before. Like the 2nd day after my first appointment I felt like I was alone/sad/grief/anger so I drank to numb the emotions. She told me to stop and I experienced the emotions and got through them. I’m feeling great. But I noticed the women friends I once had around me are changing and I’m getting more people starting to come in my life now. Like doors have opened since they see that I’m not mean I’m actually happy now. I don’t have to smile now for people to tell me you seem happy.

Anyway thanks for your opinion. I was just wondering why women stopped talking to me every since I started my journey and now I’m towards the end the same people are no longer around. It’s only been 2 months. Lol

[jennifer_bloom]

When I had a spiritual breakthrough at 20, and stopped caring or fearing human beings, I faced backlash and hate by virtually every human being I had ever been in contact with and they gave me so many problems that I did not get my destined life back until around this year or so, that was 16-17 years of limbo, because some enemies decided to attack me when I was lost and clueless. But the happiness I feel in God is so strong, that it’s very easy for me to give up my old life for God.