Do you greet someone at a family function even if you don't like them?

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TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

92% says to say hi and not speak again.
8% say No I don't need to be fake.

I did the latter. I don't care WHO you are, if I don't like you, you'll know it! I tend to be a kind and forgiving person usually and for me not to like you, you must've done something REALLY bad to piss me off, turn me off, hurt me, etc! Life's too short. Why pretent you like someone when you don't? They will just think that you like them enough to engage in conversation with you. But yeah, I guess it would depend on who it was as well. If it's a family function, that's hard. But if it's just some random party, why do you even have to talk to them if you don't want? I don't know, I've experienced both. You can usually tell anyway when someone is being fake!

SaartjieJane · Accepted Answer

I don’t like the whole “they’re family… you don’t choose your family”
While I don’t get to pick family, I sure as hell will pick those I want to be around/talk to.
I’d say hi but they will know I don’t like them and that’s great. That way I don’t have to be fake nor do that. Stay out of my way and I’ll stay out of yours and you can have a nice family function

Slartybartfast · Answer

I got a total MAGA cousin. Total cult 45 member He wasn't always that way he just fell down the Fox"news" propaganda machine hole. He's never been the sharpest tool in the box , now he's full on q anon stop the steal, alien lizard people used hunters laptop to creat chemtrails... nuts.

He litteraly cheered on the Jan 6 coup attempt and , get this, thinks Trump won!
At first I would just laugh at the crazy OAN conspiracy theories and wacko talking points , his lack of basic facts and beliefs in easily disproven lies.

But he's so far out there it's nearly impossible to speak to him on anything anymore. We need a professional de programer , cults are dangerous.

Moose304 · Answer

Generally speaking, I will at least speak to someone briefly. There is one exception to this. I want to be 100% careful to get my point across. I try to be forgiving and give 2nd chances to people that have backstabbed me or a close friend. The thing is sometimes these people have crossed a line and I absolutely refuse to have any contact with them. These types will NEVER be allowed in my home and if I am in another person's home and see such a person I will leave. I once had a host call me wondering where I got off to. I told them it was because you also invited a person I rather not be around and because you knew this went ahead and invited both of us. I will NEVER enter your home again!

maximumpower · Answer

always be polite - even if it hurts - then move on.
there is no rule of etiquette that requires you to do anything more than that.
if you're rude, then you're automatically the jerk in the situation.
others may not say anything but they'll surely think it.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

I have to do this with my parents. I'm no to low contact with them both. They don't know where I live.

I say hi, answer at most a few vague niceties about work, and then spend most of my time connecting with the family I do love (and who loves me).

shaysh87 · Answer

if its not someone that I can use or can potentially offer me something , i never say hi. Because at the end of the day, it does not matter if i say hi or not.  sounds cold. but its true.

Anonymous · Answer

I usually don’t tend family functions if people I don’t like will be there

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

No, I don't need to be fake, just walk on about your business, many places my relatives were at I didn't speak to them. I had a great uncle make fun of me and my sister's weight cause we were overweight as a child. I hated being around him.

rosemilk · Answer

i greet everyone, regardless if they're family, or if i hate them. just be nice... it gets you places.

Reem12345reem · Answer

my mom forces me to greet them , but if it were my choice , I wouldn't greet them

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

“Fake?” Since when is valuing family and community over your own biases “fake?” Of course, you treat people whom you dislike kindly. If they are family, then you treat them like family.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I'll acknowledge them and If they reciprocate I'll be sociable, because there is no reason to spoil the day. If they don't? I'll just walk away!

AviatorTom · Answer

Of course, they're family. Family functions are few and far between, and we rarely see each other, so why not at least say Hi.

Stevefiveo · Answer

Lol, this happens at every family function. I will retreat to the corner with my cousins and ask who is that? And they will be like I was about to ask you! Lol

jengeorge26 · Answer

It’s polite to say Hello, even if you are not fond of the person

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

Makes sense because 80-90% of people have low self esteem and need to be fake to feel good.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes I do they're still my family and you can't choose family

Anonymous · Answer

i either don't go or if someone i don't like tries talking to me i tell him or her to fuck off

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes. I try to at least be polite.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Yeah, I feel rude if I don’t.

bolverk · Answer

Good manners cost you nothing,

Jerseygirl1987 · Answer

Just hi. Fake kiss on cheek.

saarisrael · Answer

Geuss so

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