Is my best friend being jealous and unsupportive?

[megzs16]

My lifelong best friend is amazing. She is always there for me and has helped me through a lot in life. But lately I've been reflecting, sometimes it seems like she says and does things that are unsupportive. I want to say maybe she does it out of jealousy? But I hate assuming that of people especially her. Backstory, I've played piano my entire life. She played when she was little and we used to be competitive with each other, but as she grew up she stopped playing. Everytime I've played piano for her or have gotten to do projects as an adult she's never that enthusiastic. I rarely hear her encourage me give compliments. Recently I got an offer to do a project but had to turn it down because of some personal stuff that came up and I was sad that I had to let those people down. I told my friend about it and she said I shouldn't feel bad that I had to turn the project down. She said sometimes life takes you in different directions and you won't always have the same priorities as other people have and thats ok. I told her music is a huge priority of mine, but that I just couldn't do it right now because I've been going through a lot. She didn't have a response

I'm starting to realize that she might be jealous of my success with piano and that's why she never encourages me, but I don't want to think that of her.

[HollyK21]

I think the thing is that it’s hard to be happy for someone when you don’t feel happy for yourself, even your best friend. You continued on with your passion and now you’re reaping the benefits, and I’m sure that’s hard for her to see since she stopped. She probably wonders what her life would be like now if she’d kept at it, and may even wish she kept going. But that’s her own personal trials, not yours, so don’t let it get you down or feel guilty. If she really had the drive, she could get back into it now, there’s now she cap on these things. But she probably lacks the motivation and dedication that you have and that’s her own problem.

[megzs16]

You're right. What you said was so on point and helped a lot

[Anonymous]

It is possible she is jealous or maybe she is just getting tried of having to give you compliments to keep you happy.

The part about her saying I shouldn't feel bad that I had to turn the project down. She said sometimes life takes you in different directions and you won't always have the same priorities as other people have and thats ok. That doesn't sound like jealousy to me, it sounds more like she doesn't want you to feel sad over something you have no control over

[megzs16]

You're right, I didn't think about it like that. Those are some good points

[Danny_dan92]

There are a lot of fake people out there. Especially these days.


I basically have no friends cause of this

[megzs16]

If that's really you in your profile, you're a stud. 🔥 also thanks for the feedback.

[megzs16]

There definitely are many fakes out there