I've noticed that a lot of Indians are rather closed-off people, is that cultural, or just something about the people I've met?

[Anonymous]

I've seen this to be true of a lot of Indians I've known over the years that they tend to play their cards pretty close to the vest. They haven't generally been very open people. I'm not even talking about especially personal things, but they just won't talk about personal things. There's a certain... caginess?

Like I remember this one time I knew an indian girl who I had been talking with for about a year. So one day we were talking about what we had each done to celebrate a holiday, so she told me that she travelled to [big city]. I knew she had also gone to [big city] earlier this year (mind you, I've known this girl for a little less than a year, so that's twice in the span of a few months), so I said "you seem to travel to [big city] a lot, do you have family out there or something?" And she immediately got defensive, said she didn't go there a lot and then refused to answer the question. She then asked me for details about what I did over the holiday, which I happily provided.

I understand how my question might be seen as a little nosy, but I also kinda don't see the big deal. I've known a number of Indians who behave this way though, Chinese as well, is this a cultural thing, or am I just rubbing people the wrong way?

That's cultural

Nah, it's something about the way you're interacting with them

[Guy13]

That is my experience too. Everyone has a different opinion about the Indians. They never know what kind of reaction they will receive. In general, they are a very cautious and tedious people.

[Asker]

Are you Indian? I remember you saying you have some business dealings in India

[Guy13]

I deal with an Indian Family... once a year, I visit or we meet at a "resort"... I pay tribute with the head and it is usually in Thailand. It is pretty much a Business and Forecast and Plan meeting. They have concrete Assets and Holdings especially in America. They are money and Gains sensitive. I have met their expectations in their dealings.
Within his/their caste the women are submissive and brokered with dowry and all that. Many factors are examined by the bride father as to abilities to provide life etc