My parents expect me to come home straight away after work everyday. What's the deal?

[Anonymous]

What is the deal?

[SoftCliff]

Please don't enable their controlling behavior.

You are an adult. It's time to establish and enforce healthy boundaries. It can be really good hard at first, but it'll do you a world of good. As another commenter suggested you could offer to pay them rent, or part of the bills (if you don't already). If they refuse any sort of compromise, I guess it's time to move out

[RangerBlue22]

Well you are a grown adult woman who is over the age of 25. But you are also living in their house still.

I would recommend offering to pay them rent to establish a firm boundary that you are a TENANT not a minor living under their roof. If the can’t accept than make plans to find your own place. You might have to work more to afford the rent but you can’t put a price on independence/freedom.

[Freedom007]

While it sounds like they are very caring and concerned, it is also probably very annoying to you. You want your independence, and they want you to be safe. However, the only way to really gain independence is to move out, if financially possible. But yes, it is time for them to cut the cord. And, time for you to take more responsibility (rent, etc.)

[PetiteBabe64]

Just Lie to them Not like they can call Your boss and ask and even if they did you could Always explain to your boss what is happening and explain to your boss that After work You Have other things you wanna do and That your parents are being Too Nosey and to Cover for you if They ever call your boss or go up there.

[PetiteBabe64]

You could just say that You no longer Work at that job and you Now work somewhere else it's none of your parents business what you do so just make something up.

[petitedollbabee]

Why are you allowing them to control what you do when you’re an adult? I don’t understand. You’re not under their care anymore, you are legally responsible for yourself now.

[D_Bone_Steak]

You should watch some true crime shows and you'll know the reason for that. They care about you... otherwise, they'd be saying you should hitchhike with strangers and wear skimpy clothes.

[anon29]

Tell them you're not a mindless, remote control, money making machine which is gonna work all day and then live ur parents way... All the time. It's unacceptable ! And highly recommended to confront them.. To make them know it's wrong of them to treat u in such a way and that you're allowed to live free and in ur ways (now that you're financially independent) u can go fr it. Without hesitation, jst tell them how u feel about it.

[Pyrofox]

Just work on your communication with them they are clearly just worried you won't manage your time post work well.

[Asker]

how do you mean? I feel like im to report to home every day after work

[Pyrofox]

Just ask if you can go elsewhere and simply tell them you will fill them in on what you want to do. And maybe they will give some leeway.

[Asker]

Im 27, I surely dont need to tell them exactly everything i do if im a gown up if you get me

[Pyrofox]

For some parents we are forever their quote "babbies" XD.

[jennifer_bloom]

They might think it's dangerous to socialize at night. There could be crooks who think they will not be discovered due to low visibility.

[BlueScorpio]

What time you get off work and how old are you?

[slatyb]

You are an adult. Do what you want. Maybe it's time for you to get your own place.

[dustybiker]

Sounds like they are still doing their job, and you might be allowing them to.

[FilmGuy93]

Might be a safety thing? How would we know? Is there any reason you can’t just ask them?

[worldscolide]

i mean you're an adult. They have no right to tell you what time to come home.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

“Mother, I would be most grateful if you let me consume a pastry with high levels of sugar and simple carbohydrates”

[Anonymous]

You're an adult not a child. I think you should be able to figure that out for yourself or just ask them.

[EmmaMary]

Why are you still living at home?

[SoftCliff]

Circumstances.. Covid, rent/economic crisis etc. This doesn't mean they have the right to act like dictators and tell her what to do, especially if she has her own job and contributes to the household expenses

[JosyJosy]

Maybe so it's easier for them for dinner.

[Asker]

they dont make dinner for me

[JosyJosy]

Just ask them. But as long as you live under their roof, they're the boss.

[WhitneySnow]

No clue but that really sucks

[_Just_A_girl_]

Paul Bernardo look him up.

[Userben]

sdo they trust you

[Asker]

sdo?

[Userben]

I do not understand

[AndrésC64]

How would we know? Ask them.

[boggboss]

Lol ask them

[Dinklex3]

Ask them.