Is it bad that I don’t feel like a horrible mom even though I don’t have it all?

[Anonymous]

I had my first child a few weeks ago. I’m 25 and I still stay with my parents and my baby is in my bedroom with me. He has a crib, all his baby necessities, clothes etc I work a nice paying job, I don’t have a car because I don’t drive. Uber and Lyfts are my go to. He has everything he needs and he’s well taken care of. I just don’t have all things most mothers my age are expected to have and I feel my friends are really judge mental of me when it comes to that but I don’t think I’m doing a horrible job as a first time parent despite not having everything.

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And it’s crazy because one of my friends has a car, apartment, a separate room for her child but she parties and goes out and leaves her with her parents most of the time yet she always discreetly judges me for not having my own place for me and my new born.

[Anonymous]

Why would you be a horrible mom for not having it all? There’s a roof over your heads, baby is clean, fed and well cared for — you’re good. There’s no need to compare where you’re at in life to anyone else because you aren’t on their journey, so focus on yours. Anyone who guilts you rather than encourage and uplift you is not a friend, so maybe cutting off that negative friend is worth considering.

[Jessica405]

All your babe needs is love and attention. Give him that, and you are a great mum!

[Emanon25]

It’s a first time experience.