Is this my fault? :(?

[Bratz1211]

So my poor cat got hit by a car, she died:( I am so devastated cause I loved her so much! Not even that she was a new MOTHER! she left her newborns behind, I had no choice to give them away, for better chance of survival and care. I never let my cat go out like that and kept her so well until this one little accident. She must of sneaked out while window was open. I’m just traumatised and miss her so much. How can I get over this I just don’t know anymore I’m grieving and feel like I lost the babies and her now. I didn’t even check on her & babies that day which I feel more guilty about as I had work and thought my family at home will. I’m just gutted

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Now the lady that has my kittens ain’t giving them back! And that’s the only good memories I have of my cat!

[Titanic1912]

I understand how you feel. That is terrible. It’s not your fault. Cats are very sneaky. Sometimes we don’t know when our outside cats get into the house unless we see them. You shouldn’t have given the kittens away. If they were at least 8 weeks old, they can live on their own without the mother. But if you’re a cat person, you can always get another cat. I know another one won’t be as great as your old cat, but there are so many other cats out there that need homes. But, just know that all animals go to Heaven and she’s waiting and playing with other cats up there until you get there.

[Anonymous]

No one chose this, it was an accident.

Beating yourself up won't bring them back and it won't stop something happening in the future, keeping them inside might help but equally being outside and learning the dangers could also help.

The long and the short of it is that sometimes bad things happen despite our best efforts, that will always be true no matter what we do.

[XXblack88]

No it's not your fault cats are fast and sneaky. Once you give the kittens away the person has already bonded with them and more then likely will not want to give them back.

[Animallover3742]

Aww poor things both of you. The cat is in Cat Heaven now but that could happen to anyone. My cats snuck out as kids and we were lucky. So sorry this happened.

[andreasderjuengere]

That's a typical cat risk - they know it.

And they won't blame YOU personally for getting into trouble.

Of course ''we'' are usually emotionally attached to our pets. But as their lives are shorter than ours, a conscious pet owner will be aware -and prepared- that one day we see their death day.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

That is quite a sad story! 😢 I love cats. Not Your fault, and Ye cannae change the past. I’d say listen to (Don’t Fear) the Reaper, by the Blue Öyster Cult; and Always Look on the Bright Side of Life, by Monty Python. Your cat is in Paradise, with Her fellow friends that I had. How about getting a new animal from the shelter or a new hobby?

[hafinjun]

I'm so very sorry to hear that I lost a cat same way, hit me just as hard, no it's not your fault you have a home not a prison, it would be nice if the women would let you have one , but karma's karma it'll catch up with her. in the mean time you have to get on with life, perhaps soon you could visit cat shelters till one pics you. I pray you are able to get past it, I'm here if you need someone to listen. Best of luck

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

I am sorry for the lost of your friend.

It's always a hard moment and blaming yourself is not going to help. You had no way to prevent this.

Regarding the babies you did what was best for them.

[Bratz1211]

Thank you.. I’m just sad cause the lady ain’t giving my kittens back and it’s the only think I have left of my baby 😪

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

You will always have good memories of her. That no one will take from you.

[MikeInHawaii]

Cats are the only animal ever domesticated that isn’t a social animal in the wild. They’re untrainable. They do as they please. You can try to protect them, but it isn’t always possible. It isn’t your fault.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Prayers for Mother Cat and Babies it's not your fault just think positive and things will turn out well for you.

[Sixgunsound]

I’m sorry to hear about your loss. That’s terrible losing a family member like that.

[Zolly99999]

It is definitely not your fault.. it was a accident. I'm really sorry this happened to you.. I had a similar thing happened to me many years ago..😪

[Sparkie460]

I'm sorry for the loss of your cat. I know what it's like to lose a furbabie. It is not your fault. Cats and dogs both sneak out. Chasing them is never a good idea. Accidents happen.

[bowenw]

Sorry for your loss. It's not your fault. You didn't purposely let the cat out.

[anton_dee]

Shit happens. But it ain't your fault. And in your grief and concern, you gave the kittens away. That again ain't your fault.

[hostboy__fastestlaps]

Yes it is your fault for not taking responsible care of your cats.

[Anonymous]

I’m really sorry for your loss. Hang in there.

[Nikki1989]

So sorry to hear this.

[Bratz1211]

It’s so hard I honestly feel distraught

[Jende]

I really understand u. It's not your fault.

[Havthrills]

So sorry for your loss

[Havthrills]

Not your fault. It happens.

[Sabretooth]

sorry for your loss.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

All cats go to Heaven.

[_Just_A_girl_]

Sorry to hear it.

[shortster]

Nope

[Bklynbadboy12]

Damn I'm so sorry