Would you consider ending your childhood friendship with a person if they are disrespectful to your values and beliefs?

[Anonymous]

I’m kind of disappointed in a friend who I know for about 11 years. She has been pestering me about meeting my girl cousin who I don’t feel comfortable seeing because we don’t get along that well. This went on for about about 6 months until I told her it’s not happening and that my cousin doesn’t have genuine interest in hanging out with me. So why would I let it happen anyway?

Then this friend of mine stopped asking ME to organize a meeting with her, but now she’s telling me “If she writes to me I will meet her” because they “have mutual friends”. On top of that she gives me guidance on how I should make up with my cousin because she is family. Not that I asked her anyway. She told this to me two times. I told her that she can meet her on on her own terms and proposed to give her number but that they should stop harassing me about this subject. Then she gets defensive about how she is not that desperate to see her anyway and she would only meet her if it is convenient. Also, I noticed this friend doesn’t like my pics on IG but likes my cousin’s pics.

should I just ghost her and remove her from my social media?

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. If she’s trying to force her way into stuff. If she wants to meet your cousin. Then she can reach out herself. Maybe they will make great friends since neither one of them seem like likable people. Maybe they are a perfect match.

Someome who keeps pressing a issue. Is rude. As well as if she’s trying to demoralize you and force her belief system on you.

[Asker]

Ikr. Also funny how now she accepted the fact that I won’t let the 3 meeting happen so now she is telling me how she going to meet her if she gets a text from her. WTF? I told her several times I don’t care if they meet.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. She’s just being a bitch. I wouldn’t just ghost her. But next time she does something. You’re gonna have to speak your mind on how you feel. You have been nice long enough and tell her not to contact you anymore.

[Summeroflove]

I can’t stand people who feel entitled to stuff. If she wants to meet her on her own accord. Go ahead. But stop coming to you about it

[Asker]

Also My other friends don’t approve of her behaviour either. Because she actually has talked to my cousin online before and indicated how she was sad they didn’t meet. Like why does she care if I’m on good or bad terms with my cousin? Not like it’s hee business anyway

[Asker]

The thing is I told her I don’t appreciate this topic being brought abou. Then she argues I’m too stuck in this subject and that I’m making a big deal.

[Asker]

And pretends she is not that “desperate” too see hee anyway. She doesn’t understand how she’s in the wrong. What’s left is I either let it slide until the next time I see her or remove hee from my accounts

[Summeroflove]

Because she’s nosey and can’t take no for a answer. She feels entitled to you and information and your time and your services

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I wouldn’t put up with that shit

[Summeroflove]

Some people can never understand their wrong and think they need to know everyone’s business.

Then she will probably go and talk to people about it once she knows

[Asker]

I think she can only talk to my cousin about it because we don’t have mutual friends. But then it won’t be my problem because I would have cut her off anyway. If she’s that keen to see her they should make plans.

[Asker]

Do u think removing her is good then? Shows her I’m done with her without having to argue again

[Summeroflove]

Maybe her and your cousin would have a lot in common. Lol

But yeah. I think sometimes you have to cut people out of your life

[Summeroflove]

She might not know why you’re removing her. I think she needs to know why. But yeah removing her is good.

[Asker]

But cutting her of social media? Is that too extreme?

[Summeroflove]

No. It’s reasonable. You have given her many chances

[Asker]

But whoever I talk to her about this subject she doesn’t understand. Yet she brings it up again after. It’s like she knows I don’t like this girl and she won’t let it go and that she will see her if it later convenient. I think it’s a rude thing to say to a friend

[Asker]

She deserves it I think. She got several warnings about this

[Summeroflove]

Yes it’s very rude especially because you have warned her. Normal people would just drop it and move on.

[Asker]

She’s dumb. She doesn’t know what’s Waiting for her. 🐣

[Summeroflove]

Yeah. She sounds dumb

[Anonymous]

People change. Respect is a MUST in any relationship on both sides. I have and will end a relationship of my entire life if need be if disrespected. And believe me I wouldn't do it lightly.

[kylee2437]

She sounds like a “flying monkey” which is a person that keeps you the loop for the purpose of getting information out of you / secrets and spreading them to people that do not get along with you. She doesn’t sound like a true friend

[Asker]

I don’t know if this is the case but I agree she is not a good friend. I almost feel like she’s threatening me with meeting that cousin. If I was in her shoes I would’nt even bring it up several times

[kylee2437]

@asker she is simply not trusting your word with the fact that your cousin isn’t a good person. They are definitely talking and they are definitely talking about you.

[Asker]

My cousin showed me their texts and it doesn’t seem that way. However they are desperate to meet that is for sure

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah

[Anonymous]

Yes end it

[Asker]

It’s also a friend I don’t see that often so I don’t really know how to end it other than removing her from my social media accounts. But then she might argue that I’m overreacting though it doesn’t matter what she thinks. I just don’t understand what her problem is?

[Opinion Owner]

Remove her from your social media accounts. If she argues tell her what she did and don't hesitate at all

[Asker]

Lol yeah I tried talking to her about it several times. Then she does a reverse psychology about how she doesn’t care to meet her. If so, why give me advice to talk to my cousin and tell me she WILL meet her if she texts her