Are your friends worth it?

[akire420]

I used to have a lot of friends but now I have no one, I realized as I grow older the masks of each friend are falling off only wanting to be with me for convenience. Manipulating me to think that other people hated me for being me, and for the jealousy of my attention to other friends. I find it toxic so went into hermit mode and try my best to move on and not look back. Being in this cycle for more than 20 years, I noticed my sense of boundaries. I just want to be valued, with or without the things I give, or when I'm at my lowest. Now it is sad that everyone I used to have is gone. What should I do?

[lalaloveee]

The first thing you should do is not to have expectations from your friends. Friends don't have to love each other, the important thing is to have fun together. My friends are just people with whom I can spend time on the weekend and have fun while talking with them.

When I get home, I put the phone on silent mode and think that actually I don't love any of them, ahahahh...

You must know that less expectation is more happiness.

[akire420]

thank you! That sounds reassuring

[LazerBean]

Yes, mine are. I'm very picky with who I become friends with.

[nolabels]

I really don't know what advice to give to you.

I could say the usual thing like joining groups that have interests similar to yours, but that sort of thing never worked out for me.

Over the years I came to find that most of my 'friends' were just people that I know.

I decided to go my own way and discovered that I have a few true friends that I see usually once a year.

That's enough social contact to suit me.

I wish you the best!

[akire420]

thank you

[Anonymous]

Ma'am don't try to have "lots of friends"
Have few but quality friend's. I'm still friends with people who knows me from decade.

Relax.

[akire420]

You got it right. thanks

[Opinion Owner]

Your welcome ma'am if you want we can be friends.

Good day ma'am.

[akire420]

cool. Thanks!

[Opinion Owner]

Welcome

[NathanDavis]

100,000,000,000,000,000,000% yes...

and I've put my life on the line for them a couple of times before, and I would do it again, no doubt in my heart about that

[Brando10222]

Enjoy your own company. And try to make new friends when possible

[akire420]

same thoughts 💗

[Brando10222]

You can do it!

[MementoMori777]

It happens, had to let all my friends go as well, even the closest ones, you can't be stabbed in the back if there's no one behind you

[es20490446e]

So don't you know anyone who you would be happy being friends with?

[akire420]

for the record, I've been abused by toxic so-called friends. I can meet new people but I have to consider having certain requirements that would be the criteria for being a true and nontoxic friend. I still have a few left but detached.

[es20490446e]

That's only because people are relating with others through texting.

I only use texting for meeting people for real. Period.

And as result I don't have such problems.

[Rangers]

I haven't had friends since 3rd grade which was 15 years ago

[LavLavLuv]

Well ya people come n go tho and dont expect a lot from them

[jayhams]

Yep.