If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow this person to be your friend?

[BeeNee]

[caring__1]

When we look at ourselves, we use tunnel vision. It's like looking at a fly under a microscope. It looks like a monster, but it's still just a fly. When we look at others, our perspective is usually broader. We see the total package rather than focus in on details. Using tunnel vision on ourselves, and blowing things out of proportion, leads us to be our worst enemy. We generally aren't interested in being around people who are as critical of us as we choose to be.

Similarly, you can ask If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you speak to others, how long would you allow this person to be your friend? Feeling entitled to push our agenda onto others doesn't mean we'd be receptive to others pushing their agenda onto us. If we don't show consideration for others, how can we expect others to show consideration for us?

The type of question you posed is what I'd like to see more of on this site. Get people to think below the surface. It can be tiring to go through the endless superficial questions that abound on this site (tell me I'm beautiful and this other girl is ugly; does my butt look fat in these jeans; I'm with this guy, but you know more about what he is thinking than I do; size is the most important thing; I'm asking a question, but I only want to hear answers that conform to my beliefs; I know the answer, but let's see if you can guess the correct answer; let's stir the pot and get everyone fighting against each other; etc.)

[Juxtapose]

Not for very long, friends are supposed to go out of their way to not hurt you. My inner dialogue does not care if it hurts, it only cares about the truth.

And nobody knows myself like I do so nobody has a right to speak as if they know me like I do.

[Juxtapose]

Thanks for mho.

[Labokachulaa]

I would like it because they'd be very supportive and understanding of my feelings. Even the negative things I would enjoy, because it would help me to move forward and keep living my life.

[Amy10223]

As long as they wanted to. I feel that I speak to myself in a respectful way, when I talk to myself. lol

[Guy13]

It really depends which inner Friend showed up the day in question…

We have these Innards or Mind’s Eye 👁 that doesn’t seem to forget the bad we conceal or remember the good we seek. At times the Externals being introduced into the System (Me) are good and “oh yeah, I’ve heard that before…oh yeah, done this” and my Innards or Good Friend confirms it.

Often in the same situation again, I have the “repressed” or concealed bad experiences that I immediately remember. And if I fail to stop and take inventory before I either listen or respond to that innard Friend then I will likely not like Me, Him/Her mind’s eye or Friend, and that vibe will likely perpetuate across the room…. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[NathanDavis]

lmao...

I'd love it, for the most part... and since my best and closest friends have been around for over a decade there's a lot of familiarity and similarities

now, for the times I've been maybe too harsh with myself though... I would never ever take it the wrong way from them, never and for no reason

a few times, when it was needed, they were very direct with me and said the things that had to be said but, they never had any ill intention towards

tough love as they say... I have nothing but appreciation for that and for my friends as well

but yeah, sometimes I am just too harsh with myself and then my friends just won't let me do that, that's the truth
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"what's fair when the hearts and the words won't reach?"

[D_Bone_Steak]

I had a friend that would go into my dreams and would tell me about the dreams the next day. Like some shit out of a movie and still the only reason, I would believe there is such thing as astral travel.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

For lifetime.

I speak to myself in a decent understanding manner. So much so that almost always console myself in many things. So it would be good.

[Red-Blaze]

No one talks me down that long and lives!!
Also that be horrible talking to someone like that growing all the crazy ideas I have

[Sasha0426]

Well, I never called myself a whore so I would end the friendship. Which, by the way, I did with two friends because that’s what they did to me all because I’m single. I’m far from being a whore but they would call me that any chance they got.

[Agape93]

Not long. I'm the only one allowed to cut myself down like that.

[Sisters_Of_Time]

I think we would get along very well actually! It would mean she knows how to interact with me really!

[AsaKyo]

I'd stop being friends with them within a week, probably

[Surely]

I speak to myself a lot worse than I speak to others. So they wouldn’t last long as a friend!

[WTFdivorce]

Great question. Really makes you think about how you treat yourself.

[dustybiker]

I don’t abuse myself.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

The person would be my best friend!

[Anpu23]

Yes, I am quite self reassuring

[aaron210419]

Probably less than a day

[Alex8736]

can you be more specific?

[BeeNee]

If your inner voice materialized as a living breathing human being and spoke to you everyday in same way you talk to yourself in your head when something happy, sad, stressful, etc happens to you, do you think you'd be friends for long?

[Guardian45]

Sure, why not?