When I’m sad, I take a little time to sit in it. I spent too many years trying not to feel and suppressing my emotions. I will sit in it and allow my body to process that emotion. Only you know how long it is necessary to process an emotion. When I’m sitting in my sadness.. I just kind of get to the point where I say, “Okay, if sat in this long enough”. I then stand back up and just the pure process of allowing myself to feel and grow from that emotion makes me feel better. Every time after that initial sitting in it that sadness and the feeling pops up, it tends to get easier. I’m the type of person who needs to allow myself to feel my emotions or I have way too many feeling built up and then I self medicate and become angry and snappy with others. It may not work for everyone, I am grateful I was taught how to do this. So, that’s what I do when I am sad to cheer me up and with almost all painful feelings.
I listen to music. I often start with sad songs that let me work through how I'm feeling and then move on to songs that have a more positive mood. Also I play piano which helps a lot. It lets me release and express my feelings and it usually makes me feel better.
As weird and backwards as it sounds, I don't really try to cheer myself up, I'll watch something sad or listen to sad music, anything that kinda keeps me in that mindset. Just to feel whatever I need to feel, maybe a good cry in private if needed. But I usually feel better afterwards.
Good question. It's... unknown. Last time I was sad, my brain dealt with it and made me know, "you lived, but they didn't. Release your sympathy tears and move on. it's going to be okay." And like that, the moment passes and bam, I'm not so sad anymore. And if the brain can't fix it, i talk to a close friend I know of or friends on discord. They usually do the trick
Music, it's something that's always been a good way to calm down or express myself in. I find myself constructing personal narratives through it during moments of high stress, and that have been deeply impactful
Though I doubt that is a gender exclusive thing as I know many girls and enbies in my own circle of friends, who do the same
I listen to music or watch something funny on YouTube. I’ve also gotten in to podcasts and audio books in the last year. So I listen to either of them some times too.
I start to question myself which tears me apart at times. But then I get super positive feedback with me pumping myself up with things that people like about and things I will do to improve. Even though this answer sounds simple, it means a lot to me.
I usually get out in my kayak or paddle board, the sound of the water lapping on the boat/board is very relaxing. In the winter time, I may go for a snowmobile or ATV to clear my head, take my mind off what is making me sad.
I hardly get sad tbh.. But whenever I get some kind of a negative feeling I turn back to religion, pray a little and I feel calm..
Also I watch some kdramas.
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I read or watch TV I try to hide away in another world. I sometimes play games as well as I enjoy all of the things but the hiding helps. I used to talk to my best friend but I don't even think we are friends anymore.
I did ask if she wanted to be friends still. And apparently I was in the wrong for that. And of course she still wants to be friends.
Yeah one doesn't work anymore. I have to do at least 2 to hide properly and well I have found other distractions before but honestly they are not good ones.
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