When growing up, were you taught to love yourself?

[Agape93]

[melanieeeB]

Nope more to serve, help, be a perfect future obedient wife and put others first. I hate that looking back and I hate people who want me to be that, I hate turkish society for that shit and I hate people who are like that.

I'm very glad that as a late teen I started to see how wrong that is and worked on myself.
I learned to put myself first, I learned to say no and I learned to set boundaries and I learned to not be only a giver and take care of me and I'm very proud that my mom finally realizes that she has a behavior and people pleaser problem and she also finally started to work on herself.

[SteveSmith1985]

I remember you from chatting the other day. It surprised me to start readying your reply that began with "Nope" (because of the nature of our previous exchange).

I'm so sorry you grew up that way. I definitely grew up being taught to love myself. I've got an 18-month-old niece. That's like... the most important thing she has to learn.

I think it's awesome that you clearly learned to love yourself even while being taught very different lessons growing up. That's admirable.

[melanieeeB]

Yeah hey, I remember you too🙏🏼
And thank you, that's really kind of you yo say! I agree with you, it is important to teach our kids that it's okay to put themselves first and have that self love🙏🏼 Glad that you had it from the get go!

[Damian69]

Kudos to you!

[Sixgunsound]

Absolutely not. I was shown how much of a burden my brother and I were to much voluntarily single feminist mother who just cashed in on the divorce rape system, and fought for custody to get monthly 'lifestyle support' (not to be confused with 'child support') payments, not because she wanted to be saddled with her ex's children. Dragging another man's children behind as a single woman who is neither young nor skinny anymore being notoriously hard on one's love life and future dating prospects, especially a woman whose vanity would not let her accept that she isn't 25 anymore, it quickly became apparent that we were resented because destroying our family and childhoods didn't have quite the predicted or desired effect on her financial status.

[Jaximus-Lion]

Nope! As a christian from the middle east, self loving was never in consideration at my time. Morals, christianity, education and being a minority was what we were taught at home by parents.

[DizzyDesii]

Maybe when Barney told us to hug ourselves. But a lot of people I know didn’t love themselves so i couldnt expect them to teach me that. I don’t think i truly loved myself until around the end of 2019. Its been nonstop ever since

https://www.youtube.com/embed/bMpFmHSgC4Q

[Stressyalaire]

No, you could say that is self taught. If the people who should be teaching you this are going to push you into a depression, you teach yourself that valuable lesson upon getting out of that depression. I was taught what was expected from me as a daughter, a student, a sister, a human being in society. How to behave. I learned some household stuff, some responsibilities, but selflove? Doesn't ring a bell.

[DarkCarousel]

I don’t remember anyone ever saying or teaching this, no. Be a good person, work hard— those things, yes. But never explicitly, “hey, you should love yourself.”

[jennifer_bloom]

I have an alternative view - do not love yourself or hate yourself but love what you have done and will do and are doing for others.

[Agape93]

That doesn't answer the question

[worldscolide]

No. It took me a long time to learn that.. My mom, from day one taught me I was worthless, that drugs and men came before me..

[Damian69]

My mom, big brother, and grandparents taught me to love myself, but many peers brainwashed me into believing I was weak, too sensitive, that real men don't cry, etc. Believing this shit caused me to despise myself

[Damian69]

I eventually came to realize that real men do cry, and unlearned what I'd been filled up with

[AviatorTom]

It wasn't put that way. I was taught to be self-confident and to believe in myself. A very important lesson I passed on to my kids.

[Anpu23]

Theoretically yes, but also my household was filled with hate propaganda so I got mixed messages.

[Mynameisbobby]

Nope I was taught that being a boy equals punishment. By both my mother and older sister, she was a queen and I was basically a dog.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Nope, sadly my parents never taught us to love ourselves

[Jamie05rhs]

No, but at least Arthur taught me to believe in myself.

[Nikki1989]

No, it was more the complete opposite.

[CharlieTheNerd00]

By teachers yes but my dad always called me ugly and smell

[Jennz6]

@CharlieTheNerd00 PM me Charlie

[Pink2000]

not really. It shows too.

[Whatthefluff]

I don’t think so

[NathanDavis]

my Luna dog taught me about that...

[serious]

No, I was not. I don't think so.

[lightbulb27]

no, not really.

[fonduegirl]

No. Had to learn that on my own.

[Jennz6]

Yes, why wouldn’t you love yourself?

[driven159]

I was the only one that loved me

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yep.

[Caramelpie]

Not much 💔

[SnowedIn]

Oh. Hell. No.

[Batsy01010101]

no..

[MrPickles13]

Not at all.