Do you have a best friend? Why/why not?

[Pinay_ako]

[BullShark]

It's kinda complicated, if I'm being honest. Like I have a couple of people I could say I'm close to, but as for labeling someone as my "best friend", that has always been a stretch for me for as long as I can remember.

When someone hears the words "best friend", the first thing that comes to mind is the main character's sidekick; the person they trust the most, their partner in crime, the Jerry to their Tom, and so on. Personally speaking, I never really had that sort of person in my life, if I'm being honest, which surprises most people, but it is what it is. I don't really have any one person I can call a best friend.

Now backtracking to what I said before, yes, I have a couple of people in my life that I consider good, or even close friends, but that's it. Do I feel that special strong internal and unspoken connection with them though, no. Maybe it's because they already have other people in their life whom they're closer to, and whom they've known longer than me, or even better than me to consider their actual best friends, so that could be one of the reasons.

[MrPickles13]

I did. I honestly don't think I do anymore.

She doesn't seem interested in staying friends anymore. And it sucks as for the last year I've been trying to stay in touch, make plans and all of that. When I question if she wants to be friends it's somehow mostly to all my fault. Yes I've made mistakes and I have some blame. But at least I'm trying. She just cancels plans or says she'll let me know and then I dont hear from her. Last time I asked if I could drop some stuff I had of hers off. She said she could only pick them up which didn't work for me and when I said that she outright said. I know you don't want to see me and thats fine. Which honestly sucked. I'd been trying for a year at that point to see my friend.

And she also forgot my birthday 2 years in a row.

When we did talk about if she wanted to be friends or not. Mostly it was my fault or excuses. Same with plans it's just cancelled 3 times now after we were supposed to meet. I acknowledged the parte I was responsible for and apologised. I don't even think she read what I said about her side of it. So yeah I don't have a best friend anymore. and I'm stuck still trying to contact her cause I just want rid of the stuff I have if hers.

[WonderBell99]

You might’ve just drifted apart. Sometimes, friendships don’t last long… and that’s ok. I wouldn’t ask you to stop trying without having a conversation face to face. It might be a misunderstanding; but if she behaves the same way even after you meet up, you don’t need to maintain that friendship.

Also, you might want to try talking to some new people. I’ve seen you around, and I get the sense that you’re more of an introvert, but honing your social skills is never bad. You don’t have to limit yourself to just one best friend. I have 4 different close friends, and I don’t talk about everything with them. I know what topics to bring up when I talk to each of them.

[MrPickles13]

You really do have me pegged on the introvert side and that. I also have an anxiety issue heavily based in social interactions, but also well it's pretty sensory affected. I do have a few other friends but I don't have many plus there are many things that people don't know about me and I try to avoid a lot of topics in conversation.

I do want that meeting face to face as you say. But it's hard. I'm the only one trying and it's been about 15 months now. But I do get where your coming from. We did drift apart a fair bit I would say and sadly it's not the first time. We have been friends for a about 5+ years and last time it was more on me to fix as well I guess I've just done a lot of self reflection and such recently and all that. But I just see these massive gaps where I put the effort in and often get ignored or told they will let me know only to not hear a thing. Plus planning over existing plans and canceling the ones I made with her. And all that it just kinda sucks.

Thank you for what you have said. I really appreciate it. Your a really kind and lovely person.

[WonderBell99]

I can understand how repeated hot and cold behavior can repulse you from socializing again, but always remember to choose your friends wisely. Everyone has their flaws, but some people are just toxic.. and some are just incompatible. One true friend is better than a million fake ones.

I’ve cut off a few friendships because of negativity and confusing behavior. See a person for who they are, don’t judge them based on your past experiences with others. Good luck, I hope you make some good friends, man.

[MrPickles13]

Thank you, your right I will try. I really appreciate this, I wish you all the best.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Honestly? No. I have friends, acquaintances, work friends, and people I speak to online on a regular basis that I am close to, but as for a best friend? I haven't had one in years!

As to why? I have a hard time trust people and considering someone as a close friend. A best friend is someone you can be yourself around, open up to, don't judge you, and can trust with practically and and everything-

... yeah I have NO ONE in my life that comes even remotely close to that description. Not being mean; I just know people well enough to know no one fits that criteria... at least for me. And previous "best friends" wound up disappointing me: they ghosted me, stopped talking to me, betrayed my trust, or I realized there weren't the person I thought they were.

[Blackcosmo]

I don't have a best friend but I sure wish I do. I'm online schooled and my parents are strict so I wouldn't have been able to keep in touch with my 'sort of friends' from Elementary school.

Even if I wanted to have a best friend, my awkwardness would probably get in the way.

[serious]

In real life?

The answer is No.

Reason is given how I am it is very tough for people to remain in my life. I have very low tolerance levels to certain things and there are things which I cannot forgive and nor I do I second chances.

For me logic and doing what I believe is more important to me rather than having people in my life.

[serious]

*Doing what I believe is right*

[crossdressingrihno]

Technically yes…
I only have one friend.
People like me but I don’t like them. I don’t go out of my way to talk to them and actively avoid talking to them.

[melanieeeB]

Nope, I have mad awful experiences with besties and think it's better to not do that again lol

[Still-alive]

You are your own best friend :)

[Ms_Facesitter]

A few :) because school, and went to a few different ones, so different best friends

[ilikesnow]

kind of? because someone new is somehow her best friend now so im kinda left out.. but the new girl went on holiday and is skipping school for a week so im thinking of trying to spend more time with my kind of best friend

[jennifer_bloom]

I have friends I talk to and hang out at homes and hang out spots with but nobody knows all my secrets to the extent that I do. I have friends who might know a certain degree or portion but nobody knows all my thoughts.

[CrimsonAngel09]

I have two best friends, one whom I'm a Godmother to her son. They've always been there for me, and in return I was/will be there for them. They did more for me than my family, that's for sure.

[MementoMori777]

Nope i don't trust anyone anymore, 5 people i considered friends got killed and the last 3 I had were fake, i can't say I have any heart left for anyone else that's not fam.

[talka20]

Yes i do... in real and online too... i have from childhood from my school

[PointTaken]

I do not. I have had bad experiences with so called friends. So I avoid and hang out once in a while with so. e coworkers.

[Still-alive]

My best friend is me...

and my cat lol.

[sage2021]

I did have a life long friend but she was such a show off I couldn't stand to listen to her bragging all the time.

[dragoblack]

No... not really. I have friends but not many who i would call super close or best friends.

[Anonymous]

I have friends but i avoid making best friend because in past i faced double faced cheaters as close friends. So hanging out with good quality of friends but avoid revealing so many secrets to them..

[ArrowheadSW]

My best friend since college. We've been in touch for decades.

[exitseven]

I do, he moved away two years ago. We did not eve nget to say goodbye to each other because of covid.

[RavVid]

I do. Common interests and raising things that will be of interest to me.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes. Same person since I was 4. She is also currently my primary heir, since I have no living close relatives.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, I do. Why? Because the Lord was gracious to me.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Nope. Friends, work friends, acquaintances, former friends and strangers