Marrying the woman you knocked up?

[Anonymous]

Men if you got a girl pregnant would you think about marrying her?

Would you only marry her if you were in a relationship already?

Would you feel obligated to the child?

What if you were together but don't necessarily see each other as "the one"...do you think it is better to get married and become a family for the child's sake if you got along but aren't necessarily crazy for each other? Sometimes couples like this grow closer over time and end up pretty happy as a family.

Are you less worried about possible pregnancy in a monogamous relationship?

Women what do you think?

Just curious about opinions, one of my guy friends told me that if he ever knocked a girl up he would want to keep the child and marry her. On the other hand he doesn't have sex very often because he doesn't want to face this problem but I thought that was a nice thing of him to say, because there are a lot of deadbeats out there.

[Anonymous]

If I got pregnant and was unmarried I would tell my partner and say if you love me we need to get married NOW or else I am having an abortion. Might sound harsh, but I am NOT going to be anybody's babymama chancing ANYONE down for childsupport. I am not doing this alone. I don't have sex with men I am not committed to. I can't afford to take care of a child alone neither do I want to. Adoption facilities are overcrowded with unloved children searching for homes and never find them. I would get the abortion early before the fetus becomes a distinguishable human. I won't settle for " we will get married later " BS because I have seen women with boyfriend who they have 2 or 3 kids with and NEVER get married. They just play house. I am not down with that. I also don't think you should just get married for a child. I take marriage and sex very seriously. If I get married it is going to be a lifetime together not 5 years and then divorce. That's why it is important to choose apartner that not only loves you, but you have spent a lot of time together getting to know each other through all trials and tribulations ( you should live together for at least a year), and that you can easily solve problems or conflict with, and maintain a healthy financial life. A person who values marriage and monogamy as much as I do or else it will fail. Also a person who has realistic expectations from a marriage. If we have problems in the marriage, We WILL work through them. It is also important to find an unselfish person, or else you bump heads all the time over issues. Last but not least, if my marriage does last till I have to pass him his dentures as we sit drinking lemonade on the porch of our house, I don't want it at all.

[Opinion Owner]

Furthermore , I have seen women who choose to be single parents and it is extremely hard. They are barely making ends meet and the children are suffering. What is the point of keeping a child if you can't even take care of it? If you have to struggle to feed it, and cloth it, and if it already at a disadvantage and probably can't even send it to college? So I am pro abortion...all the religious folks can hate on me, but that's how I think and have always thou

[rachiee]

I think that its not the best decision to marry someone just to create a family for the child. If you don't love that person and don't want to be married to them in the first place then chances are that's going to be a bad marriage filled with fights. From growing up in a household where parents don't get a long, I think a child would be happier in 2 different homes where their parents get a long but are happy with their separate lives than live in a household with constant fighting. Both parents should be parents and take care of the child, but they aren't obligated to be husband and wife to each other.

[super_mommy]

I think marrying someone just because of a kid is the biggest mistake people make. Me and my husband were already married when I got pregnant but I wouldn't stay with him just because of her and I expect the same from him.

[Anonymous]

In my opinion, the most basic unit of a society is a family. If the society is not functioning properly, you can only blame the parents in that society. For some unfortunate children, their parents are divorced and things in the family goes from bad to worse.



Every parent is responsible for his/her kid, so there should be unconditional love existing between parents and children vice-versa. A healthy and loving family most often or not will produce wonderful individuals that continues to bring great benefit to the society.

What I'm saying is, preferably sex should come after marriage. This is the solution to the root cause of unwanted pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

If I got a girl pregnant I would continue our relationship like normal. I will not marry a woman just because we have a kid together. I will not raise my child in a loveless home. Hopefully we would end up getting married, but that would depend on how the two of us felt about each other. Of course I would take responsibility for my child.

[doug38]

you should not be having sex with her if you are not married or will to marry her. Dads play a very important roll in kids lives don't skip out on the kid or mom single mom is very difficult. self control would be good thing to have. sex without commitment is fun for a short time but long term it is devastating.

[art84]

I think getting married to a girl I knocked up would only be worth it if we truly loved one another and not doing it just for the sake of the child having a father and mother. I hate it when people end up doing it just to try to make the marriage work and it falls apart. I would hate to raise a child in a relationship where both of us don't see eye to eye or get along as it would hurt the child in the future.

[InAmberClad117]

I wouldn't leave a girl I got pregnant because it would be my obligation to care and provide for her. It's just a value of mine to be with a girl I'm willing to be with if that happens, and I don't expect to have to dismiss that value.

[brunettebelle]

I've seen many messed up families because of that, so no I don't think you should get married unless that person is the true love. Personally if two people have a child they should support it but not get married just because you got pregnant.

[Jacob-Kuro]

If I got a girl pregnant then I would take responsibility and marry her and continue on with my life and just support our family.

[re-pete]

It’s the girl’s problem if I get her pregnant. She can have the kid or not. I’d just dump her and move on.

[Nice222]

Yeah I probably would marry them but I also only have sex within relationships.