What do you do when your best friend doesn't want to be friends anymore?

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SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

Have a drink. Pet the cat. Cry. Get a good night's sleep.

Wake up and realize that although you miss them, they made a choice and they miss out on who you are.

Then you move on. One hour, day, week, month at a time.

Sparkie460 · Accepted Answer

I'd ask them to explain why. If it can't be worked out between us, I'd let them go

Anonymous · Answer

Some people drift apart, and they don't always have a reason - like a big blow out fight that would make sense as to why things are strained (or over).

I had a best friend in late high school and early college who got heavy into hardcore "frat" life. I was not into that. We drifted. It sucked, but... eh. Years later, we became facebook friends, things sort of sputtered... then he just unfriended me. Very weird, but people are like that.

I have another friend who is like a brother. I would like to think it's going to last us most of our lives, but who knows? If he insists on dropping all of a sudden, then, well, not much I can do other than try to check up with him... but if he ignores any posts, calls, etc, then that's on him. It would suck, but I would eventually make other friends.

I can't force others to want to be a part of my life. All I can do is try to keep being a good friend, try to contact them on occasion... wish them the best, and that's about it. Do your best to think of them with the best intentions, don't talk crap about them (even if they were kind of crappy people)

RingOfFire · Answer

I just recently lost contact with a very close friend I have had for over 50 years. My mother passed away and he said something in an e-mail that I thought was incredibly insensitive. I have not contacted him since and won't unless he sends me an apology... which after knowing him all these years, I highly doubt he ever will. Likelihood is we will never talk again. Just like that. Poof.

These things happen. You will lose friends along the way. Many times it is a signal that your lives are just taking you in different directions and it doesn't always have to be a parting on a bad note. Sometimes you just need to let it go. It is always better when it just kind of fades away than when it ends on a bad note. But either way, I think you eventually come to terms with it, wish them well and get on with your life. You always have the good memories to take with you.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

I'd be a little surprised and this actually happened to me a couple years ago I was best friends with this girl who I'll call M and we were super close until we started 6th grade but then out of nowhere she just stopped talking to me and I still don't know why

thatshydork · Answer

Drop them. Don’t waist your time on people who don’t want to actively be in your life. Some people are only meant to be in your life for a little while whilst others are meant to be in your life for a lifetime.

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

Just let them go, I had to do that with someone who I thought I've known since 1999. Just drifted apart, and she refused to talk to me.

Can't keep holding onto something that isn't going to change for the better. At least I found two people who was actually there for me.

Reem12345reem · Answer

find another best friend , there's like 8 billion people on this earth im sure you'll find the one , plus , if you're meant to be together , the universe will keep them for u , but i guess they're not meant to be now , time to let go , u can't force her to be with u

Spongebobssocks · Answer

Ask her why since she problaby has a reason to leave you. And then learn from your mistake grow. Apologize if you did something wrong and move on:)

jujus · Answer

Met someone who asked if they could be friends with me I said yes few months later all of a sudden she completely changed like she has a grudge against me every time I see her. I didn’t do anything to her but I must move on even if it gets awkward when I see her

Pinay_ako · Answer

You let them go. Can’t force someone to be in your life if they want out. This happened to me and it’s not easy but you will meet new people who can make good or better friends. You’re still young. It’s like dating. They want out, bye bye 👋.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Peaceful goodbye and go separate ways. You will always find someone in the different phases of life.

jwmiller95 · Answer

Gaslight them, harass them until they cut their fingers off, make people hate them until they're your friend again. Joking obviously.. People stop becoming friends for the dumbest reason just live happy

Anonymous · Answer

Accept it and move on most times they are toxic any ways! If she is a love then I'd tie her up and spread her legs one or two more times before letting her go forever

ProbablyClueless · Answer

There's not really much you can do, is there? Just respect their decision and try to come to terms with it in your own time.

Jackblue · Answer

It's like that movie  She probably just needs space.

Luopio27 · Answer

Been there done that.  The only thing that can be done is to move on. I know its painful but know that billions of people have been through the same. Get new friends from new hobbies.

John_Doesnt · Answer

'Cause your friends don't dance And if they don't dance Well, they're no friends of mine

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Move on and find better people to be friends with, best wishes to you

REX_JSWL · Answer

Only thing you can do is try to resolve the issue, and if he/she is rigid about that decision there is nothing you can do

LiamJHayden · Answer

Never had that happen, but I would accept it and move on.

BLP11520 · Answer

Some friendships are severed quickly as a result of a breach of trust or honesty. I just broke off a friendship abruptly and it hurts

DreamLife7 · Answer

They were never your best friend you just pushed that narrative on them.

peterrezeeek · Answer

i will leave him after i ask him for his, her reasons

alexandria222 · Answer

Let them go, never convince anybody to stay in your life.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Talk to them

Kinkyhubby · Answer

It's easy. Walk away,

Stressyalaire · Answer

Hear em out.

normandi · Answer

Good riddance

virtualwasp · Answer

PANIC!!!

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Move on

sheikalana · Answer

Let them go.

EaterPeter · Answer

I can take one 😉

Anonymous · Answer

Move on

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