When I was 15 years old my mom started a savings for me to go to college but she kept having to dip into her savings for bills or emergency expenses because she was a single mother. By the time I actually graduated high school the savings wasn’t enough to cover much and I knew she needed the money so I told her to just keep it. But she met her husband right around that time and with his help she was able to save up a lot more money. To my understanding her husband pays the bills and she covers everything in the house from food to products but she doesn’t pay bills anymore. over the next 5 years She saved up over $20000 and told my younger sister that she wanted to give her the opportunity none of us got, which was to go to college with a good amount of money to start with. My sister never liked school and said she didn’t want to go to college and that she would like to use the money towards moving and starting a life in another state. They argued and my mom said she wouldn’t give her the money unless she went to college so my sister finally agreed to go to college but my mom changed her mind about paying for school anymore because she felt like my sisters heart wasn’t in it to go to college and that she would just waste her money and the years it took for her to save it up. Since my sister didn’t go along with her plans the way she expected she said she would keep the money. I asked my sister did she want to go to college and she said that she didn’t want to but that she had to have a plan for her life and that without the money she couldn’t go with her plan A which was to leave and start a life with her boyfriend. I kind of agree with my mom but now she says she won’t even pay for her to go to college because my sister doesn’t actually want to go and is only doing it because she didn’t expect my mom to keep the money since she no longer has to struggle.
My mom is saying she won’t pay for my sister to go to college anymore. Is she wrong?
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There really is no point in paying for an unwanted education. It's a crazy amount of money for most people even if you do want it. It sucks that your mom tried to force her and then backed out, but I also get why. She's wrong for trying to force it, but less so for eventually deciding not to assuming your sister hasn't started yet. (If she has started, that's another story because then she'll be stuck with thousands of dollars of debt from something she didn't even want).
But otherwise? It's your mom's money and she chose to dedicate it to her children's education. She doesn't have to give it to your sister to help her move if she doesn't want to. I hope she'll provide some support simply on the grounds of allowing one's children to make their own decisions and supporting them, but otherwise your mom's fault was really just trying to push something on someone who didn't want it.
Your mom can do whatever she wants with her own money, and she's right that it would probably be wasted on your sister. Your sister needs to get how own crap together and stop being so entitled.
No, it's her money she can do what she wants with it. Your sister needs a plan b if she wants to move out of state.
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