Why does my older cousin always ask about how I can afford things?

[Anonymous]

I’m 31 and have a decent job and my cousin who is in her 40s always always asks me how much things are like if I go on a trip

[ShesRad80]

nosey and you probably handle money better then her, you can always say im not comfortable talking about the price of things.

[Asker]

It’s a bit rude I never ask how much she spends

[ShesRad80]

next time she says something about it, tell her i appreciate the interest but im not comfortable discussing such things, this way you can get out of it

[Asker]

I don’t have a car and I share a flat with my partner my expenses are quite low. She lives in Canada as a single person she doesn’t know what the uk is like

[ShesRad80]

its not her business in all honesty

[Jazzy54]

Kindly tell her to mind her business. If anything, she’s probably jealous.

[Asker]

She’s asked how much I make before in the past

[Jazzy54]

Yeahh. Definitely time to put up some boundaries with her.

[Asker]

It’s not right i would feel so rude if I did that to someone

[Jazzy54]

Check out the book Boundaries. That book helped me a lot. You have to put up boundaries with people, including family members.

[Asker]

She also thought there was something wrong with my Relationship because I didn’t talk much about him but she knew from that start that was the cause I like to keep my private life to myself I think she likes being nosey

[Anonymous]

Because she's broke by the sounds of it, I get the same questions from people and tell them the truth that I stagger my earnings thus don't pay taxes