Would you judge someone because of his/her friendgroup or relatives?

[imanoverthinker]

so lets get straight to the story.

i have never tried drinking alchocol, smoking cigarettes or doung drugs and i neve reon’t because i am just not interested in these things.

but on the other hand i have some friends who are smoking weed or drinking and smoking cigarretes and also cousines who party smoke and drink a lot.

i am afraid because i don’t want people to think that i do the same things but i think that everybody has in their mind that if someone is hanging out means that they are both drunking or whatever

and i dont want to explain to people that i am not doung these stuff but also i dont want them do judge me by my relatives or friends.

what should i do? just don’t text me that i shouldn’t care about their opinions because i do care about some people opinions especially if they are some kind of a crush

[SnowedIn]

Opinions do matter. You're right. We can try to kid ourselves but they do matter. We shouldn't let them run out life, but they matter.

Good for you, by the way, for making wise decisions. Smoking sucks, I don't personally like weed, and alcohol has its place. You don't need any of that in your life right now.

I think the answer is to keep your friends (provided they aren't trying to get you to drink, smoke, and do drugs) and deal with anyone by saying you choose not to do that. Not doing something isn't judgement of those who do. So you don't have to abandon your friends or put them down.

[imanoverthinker]

thank you for your opinion!:)

[SnowedIn]

Of course! I hope this goes well for you.

[AydenHazor]

Some people will make those snap judgements, some won't. I wouldn't judge you for hanging out with people who smoke or drink. I would only judge someone by the people their friendgroup of they intentionally hang out with the bullies and the mean crowd without doing anything about how they treat others

[imanoverthinker]

great advice. thank you!:)

[AydenHazor]

You're welcome

[OlderAndWiser]

"You are known by your associates" is a common expression of collective wisdom. And the Bible says, “Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.” (Proverbs 13:20)

[imanoverthinker]

thank you but life is different and isn’t like a fairytale

[OlderAndWiser]

If you understand life so well, you should be able to answer your own question.

[imanoverthinker]

i didn’t say that i understand life well and thank you for advice. i also know one expression which is don’t judge a book by its cover so maybe it’s also simillar with friends and peiple in general

[exitseven]

Yes about friends. No on your relatives. You can pick your friends and you can pick your nose but you can't pick your relatives.

[imanoverthinker]

great answer!

[jahaims]

Obviously you judge someone for their friend group. Who you choose to be around says a lot about a person

[imanoverthinker]

thats not always true

[DextroShade]

I would definitely judge a woman for having a bunch of hoes or feminists as friends; it would be a deal-breaker for serious long-term relationships.

[imanoverthinker]

me neother but my question was would you judge her if she had friends who drink and smoke?

[DextroShade]

Drinking is fine as long as they aren't getting drunk and acting stupid or going out to bars/clubs. Smoking I don't care about as long as she isn't smoking.

[imanoverthinker]

okay cool!:)

[BigDog1989]

Yeah, I would. If you're friends with a murderer/rapist, why shouldn't I?

[imanoverthinker]

i said what my friends are doing dont change my words

[BigDog1989]

You said, would I judge someone for their friends. If you are friends with a murderer/rapist, then why shouldn't I judge?

[imanoverthinker]

i described my friends so clearly you didn't get my point

[BigDog1989]

No, you're not understanding your own question

You asked would you judge someone for their friends

So I said, if your friends are murderers/rapists etc.. then WHY SHOULDN'T I JUDGE YOU

[imanoverthinker]

you’re funny😂

[BigDog1989]

Thanks?

[imanoverthinker]

you’re welcome:)