Boyfriend won't give me his address?

[Anonymous]

(He's an Asian guy (21) and I'm a white female (17), We met online and I've been talking with this guy for around 7 months now but have been seeing him secretly up until a couples weeks ago, he even met my father and now I'm free to say I'll be spending the day with him and not having to keep us hanging out as a secret. We recently started our relationship and he's brought me to attention with his parents so it's not like he's still quiet about me towards them since I know he isn't very close with them.

I understand he's from a different cultural background than me, I can be very open with him but it's never the same with him.. but I still love him. He's been going to my house for awhile now so why is it inferior for me to ask where he lives? I just want to google view his house to see where he lives, and it's not creepy at all since he's been to mine plenty of times, it's just out of curiosity. I kept pestering him about it tonight and he said it was a mixture of how he doesn't like his house, he lives far away (so he couldn't drive me back and fourth since I have no car) and because of his parents. I brought it up again as I was very agitated and although I know I shouldn't step over his boundaries, I just don't understand the logic at all.. I just want to see where he lives as it's just a town aways from me and probably 17 miles.. He told me over the phone how I made him uncomfortable how I kept asking and that anything personal makes him uncomfortable.. WTF? How is asking for a home address more personal than having sex with someone? He always says how he likes my house more but he knows I'm not superficial and overcritical like that so I won't judge where he lives..

[BrittBratt2416]

He's embarrassed of his home or the area he lives in, doesn't take the relationship serious enough for you to know where he lives, or doesn't want you to meet his girlfriend/wife cause that's were she lives there too, hiding some criminalizing scary stuff... take your pick cause it could be anything. You could try to follow him home one night but that be odd lol

[Anonymous]

He might have at home issues that he is dealing with, I wouldn't ask him too much if it is upsetting for him. But, you need to let him know you are there for him.

[mooky06]

Maybe he lives in a huge mansion and doesn't want you to think he is like some millionaire lol

I honestly have no clue though XD

[PoliceLivesMatter]

That's odd. He might not get along with his parents, not like his home, or maybe he has something to hide? I really don't know why he's hiding where he lives. Safety reason? I'm lost. I don't really think it's cultural.

[Asker]

I just meant how he sometimes can't open with about things and he thinks his address is too personal.. sorry I lost you there.. LOL

[PoliceLivesMatter]

That's what I meant. I don't see how he could think his address is personal, since I don't think it's cultural. I think he might be hiding something. Someone mentioned he might be homeless or something. I advise you to be safe. For some reason, this all feels slightly odd.

[KingDio]

question before i answer you... whats the legal age limit in your country?

[Asker]

Age of consent is 16

[KingDio]

ok if you guys are in a relationship then you have every right to know he's personal life if he gets offended by that he's a idiot... im hoping you arnt a side girl though as all signs are pointing to that

[Anonymous]

Just leave his shit alone. Girls never know when to just stfu.. He has his reasons and even if he isn't telling you you should respect that.
Especially because it's something minor and none of your business.
His house is likely a war zone or a bad place for him same for me it's pretty much a place for me to go in and out no stopping.

[amber12A]

I think you should respect his decision and allow him to tell you in his own time he's not under any moral obligation to show you where he lives and you should be fine with that.

[WarlandWriter]

His parents might not allow him to have a girlfriend yet, which would be why he does not want to take you home

[JohnDoe3000]

Very shady. He's either hiding something or too much of a doormat to stand up to his family. Either way it sounds like you're better off without him.

[gaguser2453]

do you often give advice that tries to ruin peoples lives?

[JohnDoe3000]

@gaguser2453

Whatever dude, if not wanting to tell your girlfriend your address is normal in your book then so be it, but don't expect other people to feel the same way.

[gaguser2453]

so because something isn't normal she is better off without him? people dont come into relationships perfect, you have to build eachother up.

[JohnDoe3000]

@gaguser2453

It's not only not normal, it's shady. He has had the chance to explain himself, he gave her vague BS answers, so he can't be trusted. Next.

[Ganbygail12]

Hmm, that sounds suspicious... Proceed carefully! Your safety is always the most important thing!

[jpick00]

He is ashamed of his house. Maybe it's really small and ghetto. Ghetto neighborhood.

[Pink2000]

I talked to an Asian guy who gave me his address but wouldn't let me in. Maybe he has his reasons.

[naraku]

Maybe he thinks he lives in a dump or something goes on there he thinks will put you off him.

[Bezbozhnikustanka]

He's worried about what'll happen if you meet his wife.

[TallAnon]

Maybe he's in an orphanage or had a fight with his parents or maybe he's homeless, who knows.

[Vanjasper]

He has something to hide.

[Anonymous]

maybe his parents are cannibals?

[Deusmortis]

he is homeless

[TheChocolateWriter]

Lol. Oh MY God.

[Deusmortis]

yep 😑

[cutemz]

Move on then

[Anonymous]

Catfish maybe lol