Is your parents’ approval of a potential partner a deal breaker in the relationship? Why/why not?
I'd trust my parents & friends / family options - deal breaker depends on what flaws they point out that I missed.
I mean years ago a friend was involved with an abusive asshole. But she was such a gentle person with such a giving heart that she didn't realize the massive mistake of being involved with this guy until her parents said something, her friends said something and her colleagues said something.
A person has to remember -
Blood is thicker than water & unless you have a bad relationship with your family they are almost always going to be looking out for your best interests
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If the approval is in my favour, why not. If the opposite is the case then the end won't end because of that anyway.
If it's a deal breaker or not totally depends on my partner's ability to convince his parents. But yeah, I love when parents approval of the relationship.
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No. I've always been WAY too independent for that, plus when I was growing up, my parents could simply not understand that the morals and values of the world had massively changed since they were kids, even though they saw it happen. They apparently thought that, for example, the Feminist revolution in the late 60s was isolated to a small population - it was decades before they recognized how deep and wide the social rules had changed, but at the time, their advice, while well-intentioned, was a recipe for disaster. They can admit that now.
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I trust my parents. If they saw something wrong with my partner I'd definitely take a step back to see if I'm missing something.
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My parents' approval means nothing to me when it comes to a potential partner. I respect my parents, and their relationship works for them, but I also recognize aspects of codependency rampant in their relationship, and they did not raise us learning how to healthily experience, process and express emotions, and that includes not learning how to receive or give love. Knowing that, their approval and opinion has no weight to me when I choose someone with whom I can be safe to express emotions, including receiving love from them and giving love to them. If I'm going to build a relationship with someone, I want it to be healthier than my parents' relationship, as such, I'm not seeking my parents' advice or approval
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My dad is a very good judge of character.
He'd make me aware of a "bad vibe" he feels or gets from somebody I'd introduce to him.
He can even point out specific "red flag (s)" to me and tell me he'll "give 'the boy' the benefit of the doubt" and back off for me.
Mom's the opposite.
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This is one of the few things I'm a little. old fashioned for. If we get to the point where I'm introducing you to my parents, it's cause I want things to move forward. As I have a good relationship with my parents, it's important to me that they also get along with anynpartner I have.
I brought my bfnhome after 3 months and he was passing his pants at meeting my dad. Now they're effectively bras, and he gossips with my mom like no other. Makes me happy 😊 -
No, half the time my parents never even met any of my boyfriends because when I moved out of the house my parents were 2 hours away. They never really expressed interest anyway, they figured they raised me the best they could and had to trust my judgement about these things.
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I think it depends on why they don't approve, my parents and extended family are somewhat traditional so they would take into consideration race, religion and gender plus personality and job. I would care more about my friends' approval I think because they're more picky when it comes to personality only
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I would say it´s a potential dealbreaker because I come from a good working family. My parents have been married for nearly fourty years now. So if they see something I don´t see I´d rather stick with their advice than breaking off with my family for a potential partner.
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No it doesn't matter to me at all I don't think my mom has liked any of my girlfriends
At least that's what I hear but I don't really care that's her loss
I mean it would be nice but like I said it doesn't really matter to me if she can't be grown up enough that's problems on her not me not my girlfriend if I have a girlfriend when I have a girlfriend - 913 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.
I mean I'm open to suggestions and wisdom and all that because they have been in the world before me and would spot certain things quicker than I could but ultimately the decision would be up to be seeing as I would be living with this person forever or whatever. I'm gonna make my own regardless
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This is a hard one because I respect my mother's opinions on almost everything and if she didn't agree with me being with my boyfriend, I might have to think twice about being with him. But luckily for me I know I won't have to because I know she will love him. My mom is an easygoing person and it's hard to get a disapproval from her.
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A potential partner yes. A partner I already have, No. Believe me, my mother and sisters wouldn't allow a woman to get her hooks into me without giving me an earful if they didn't approve of her. And while I make my own decisions of course. Knowing how fair minded they are, if they didn't approve it would give me pause.
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yes because my parents have a very good track reckord of supporting me in the right ways and helping me sort out toxic friends that wrecked my life when i struggeled and failed to see myself. so if my parents hate the person i chose to date, i trust that something is seriously wrong with my choice. but at this point that is very unlikely, cause i grew as a person myself so i don't get with bad people much anymore.
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I would absolutely take their feelings and opinions into consideration because I completely trust them and love them.
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No its my life not theirs:) future husband comes first
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No. My mother has her life and I have mine. Would I like my mother to approve of my potential partner? Yes. Would it affect my decision if she didn't? No. We only have one life and we have to take the gettin' while the gettin' is good.
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Its not a deal breaker , but I don't like it , if they are too close from the beginning , before I've decided what my intentions are , I'm of course going back in time to answer this question as both my parents are long gone , over 20 years.
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Yes, I really would not want to seriously date anybody my parents did not like, first bc they have good judgment and I know they are always looking out for me, second just bc it would be a constant stress. JMO!
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My mum's kind of is, mostly because she's a very kind person so if she has someone bad to say about someone they must have been pretty rude. My dad is more judgmental in general, so I care less what he has to say.
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Nope. It's It's even a consideration for me. I don't value their opinions
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No cause I decide who I get to reproduce with not my parents. I decided who my body chooses to clone. I will be the one pushing out the baby and almost dying for it. Not my parents.
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Not really since I am the person who is gonna have to deal and be with them not my parents.. but I guess my parents do know better than me most times lol
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