The burden of being there for my dad, should I start "borrowing" money from him or would this be considered financial explotation?

[Anonymous]

My dad has been an absent figure all my life.. Last year he went to a home long term hospital setting due a cronic condition. He has "expected" me to visit him ever since and to bring him food from outside of the hospital residence. He gives me a card to make this purchase. Yet what he doesn't considers is that I honestly dont want to see him. He feels like a burden, he isn't an emotionally empatic person and he feels like a "giant baby" to be honest. I know this is controversial, but I've been starting to reflect on if I should just start taking money from his card, since he doesn't pays me anything for me being there.

[HappyWoman34]

I don’t think you’re a bad person for having these thoughts. Everyone has bad thoughts and selfish desires. You’re just more honest about them than most of us. If you steal from your dad, you’ll be doing something bad and you’ll regret it for the rest of your life, even if you don’t get a criminal record. I’m not judging you at all. Just suggesting if you feel like this is too stressful for you for whatever reason, cut your dad out of your life or reduce time with him. I had to cut my grandma out of my life when she had severe dementia. She was sick and I was struggling with mental health issues and she was triggering for me. by the way, I don’t think you’re scum. Don’t make a mistake that you can’t take back.

[Asker]

Thank you so much. You're right, I've been reflecting and even when I know he doesn't deserve it I want to have mercy and compassion for him. I honestly don't feel good having this dark thought. Feels also bad, I don't want to exploit him. But at the same time as you very wisely put it, it might be time to reduce the time with him. isn't sustainable.

[Staximus]

Be there for him and get a chance to know him before he dies, or stay away from him if you can't be a good person. Stealing his money will make you the scum of the earth. If he knows how much money is in his account or somebody else does, you could go to jail. Don't be a fucking idiot. This is like something a tweaker meth addict would do.

[Asker]

Thank you, I think I wrote this out of anger and with rationalizing or having compassion for him. I know it was a dark thought but I need to distance myself from him. It isn't sustainable.

[Staximus]

If you can't tolerate him then stay away

[Gent207-2]

That's theft and illegal

Seriously be there like a descent human or get lost