Why did he wait 7 hours to block me?

[Anonymous]

Me and my friend have a pretty toxic friendship. That I’ve now decided to end after he ruined Christmas Eve for me.

Any time we fight he usually blocks me immediately but this time he waited 7 hours to do so.

Why? Was he waiting for an apology or a further reaction?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's really weird that he waited so long to block you this time. Here's what I think might have been going on:

- He was still stewing and pissed about the fight, so waited to cool off before doing anything drastic. Blocking right away is too emotional.

- He wanted to see if you'd message him again first so he'd have an excuse to block and make it seem like your fault.

- Maybe he was waiting until the next day so it wouldn't seem so obvious that he was blocking you cause of the fight. Plausible deniability.

- Could be he was busy doing other things and wasn't on his phone much for those 7 hours. But eventually the anger built up again so he pulled the trigger.

- Or, and this is a long shot, but maybe some small part of him hoped you'd reach out to apologize and make up. When you didn't, that's when the block came down.

Who knows what's really going on in that guy's head though, he sounds pretty unstable. Either way, good riddance man - you don't need that toxic drama in your life!

[Asker]

Overnight I noticed that he unblocked again 😂

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh wow really? Haha that's kinda weird. Maybe he felt bad about blocking you for so long and wanted to see if you were still mad or what. Some people just don't know how to act right after a fight I guess. If it were me I'd probably just leave it for now, unless he says sorry for being a dingus over Christmas. But no way would I just go back to how it was either ya know? I'd be like cool you unblocked me but we're not really friends again till you show you're not gonna pull that blocking crap whenever you're in a mood. Not worth the hassle if he's gonna be on and off with it.

[Asker]

As I mentioned before , if we ever get into an argument he usually blocks immediately and doesn’t undo it, and I’ll block right away too. This time it took him hours to do it and I never blocked back like I usually do , didn’t want to give a reaction, and I really didn’t expect to be unblocked so quick either. Why would he change his pattern lol? Also we blocked each other on WhatsApp a few months ago and just never undid it and then I guess that night he undid the Instagram block, he also went and finally unblocked me on WhatsApp.. like what’s the point of all this? Is he trying to get me to reach out and notice all these things? I was thinking maybe he’s just done with me but then I’d assume he’d just keep me blocked.

[Oliverlogan263]

This guy is playing major mind games with you. Unblocking and reblocking over and over is such a lame middle school tactic to try and get attention or get under your skin. Like what's the point? You guys obviously aren't talking anymore.

I think you nailed it - he's doing it so you notice and hopefully contact him to be like "WTF dude?" Then he wins because he's still creating drama. That or he just wants to peek at your stuff to see what you're up to when he's bored. Super immature and lame.

Honestly, just ignore his little unblocking games. Don't even give him the satisfaction of knowing it's having any affect on you at all. Pretend he doesn't exist. That'll be the best way to get him to finally move on and stop acting like such a child. Not worth wasting another second of your time thinking about his stupid mind games. You're well rid of this clown.

[Asker]

Thanks for your advice. I was thinking hmm maybe he just wants to break this toxic cycle and not give me the satisfaction of showing he’s upset by blocking me so he decided to unblock but I think I know him a little better than that lol. Blocking me and keeping me blocked for a while was an old game he was probably sick of playing so this is a new one. He has a lot of narcissistic tendencies and if he really didn’t want to speak anymore he’d just keep me blocked. He’s also completely ignoring me in person because it’s always the other person having to apologize to him and I’m tired of all of his silent treatments, because that’s exactly what this is. But what really made me laugh is unblocking me on WhatsApp that night after months? Like wtf is the point of that when he knows we never even really spoke on there

[Asker]

The last time he did this was 3 years ago, he unblocked me a day later and I never reacted so he approached me (we sadly work together and were together at the time) and told me to message him. So this could be him wanting an apology from ME

[Oliverlogan263]

Ughh man, your friend is such a lame sometimes. Sounds spot on that blocking/unblocking is just a new game to him now that the old ones got played out. Classic narcissist move too, always twisting shit to make it your fault so he doesn't have to apologize or admit being wrong.

I'd say don't give him the satisfaction this time. Dude wants you to chase after him so bad, he'll keep pulling shady moves til you bite. Just imagine how pissed he'll be if you don't react at all!

Keep taking the high road at work and ignore his antics. Sooner or later he'll slip up and show his ass in front of people if he keeps trying to bait you. Let him play himself instead of playing into it. You don't need that grade school drama crap. Better to just live your life and focus on real ones who ain't so damn thirsty all the time, ya feel me?

[Asker]

I agree!! Thank you for your advice. Not going back this time. He’s coming into work saying hi to everyone but me, even people he’s told me he hates. Won’t even talk to me even when it’s necessary but then looking from afar. I’m completely done with him.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah, good for you for not playing into his games anymore. He sounds totally immature acting like that at work, saying hi to everyone but you. Some real high school drama club type stuff lol.

I know it's probably annoying having to see him there acting all big and ignoring you, but just keep your head up and do your thing. Don't even give him the satisfaction of knowing it bothers you. Act like you don't care at all.

If you need to talk to him for work stuff, keep it professional but short. Don't give him any extra attention or reaction. Dude's thirsty for it so don't feed into it!

Just stay focused on you and forget about that clown. Hopefully he'll realize soon how ridiculous he looks. But even if not, at least you took back the power by not crawling to apologize like always. You're right to be done with all his games, it's so not worth the hassle. Keep doing you!

[Summeroflove]

Block him back. Don’t talk to him anymore. It’s not worth it.

[rosemilk]

probably busy. it is Christmas eve after all

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