Would you cut contact with millionaire narcissistic parents?

[Anonymous]

Let's say your parents are sadistic narcissists. Growing up, they'd physically and emotionally abuse you. They constantly put you down, encourage you to commit self harm, discourage and torment your own children, and do whatever they can to manipulate you into having the lowest self esteem. They also tell you how awesome your siblings are and how you're worthless and have no good deed to the family name.

But let's also say your parents' estate is worth millions. You know cutting them out of your life results in you being disinherited.

Would you do it?

For what it's worth, it's a true story, so I'm going anon.

I'll cut them out. Me and my wife and kids' dignity has no price!

Nah, I'll stick it out. Just endure the pain until I inherit their millions.

Updates

5 mo

As an update, I voluntarily estranged myself from my parents and went no contact. My mom's immediate reaction was to disinherit me and she mailed me legal documents showing I'm removed from their will. She claimed I'll "regret" it and God will "get even with me".

Updates

5 mo

I learned from a relative today my parents hope their disinheriting me would make my children (their only grandchildren) suffer for the rest of their lives, all from my arrogance.

[molonski2]

Man , thought I was reading my story as a child? My mother exactly except for right at the end she became a really good grand mother , but she screwed me mentally big time , my father who made the money , I'm told was a very good man , but he was in a car accident when I was 7 and died when I was 15 ..

Without that " check balance " she was left to her own devise , she did have 5 children , but when I was 7 , the next closest was 15 .

My advice my friend is mercenary and purely economic , dont cut ties , believe me it will happen quicker than you think , even do a little conscious sucking , but don't get drawn into the main game , keep a go to phycologist that you trust , and quite frankly play them like a fiddle , have a written strategy , but dont let that money go. Honestly , I speak from experience and I have time on my side.

Good luck bro , hope this helps in a small way.

[Asker]

Too late now, man. I cut it off. In all honesty, I was hoping they'd at least want to have a relationship with me. To have a relationship with their only grandchildren. But their immediate disinheritance proves that won't happen.

I live independently from them and work for my own living. My dignity and the dignity of my children is worth more than money.

[molonski2]

Well , never say never..
When I was around your time of life I had the same view , but I did return for my cut ( sadly it was not as much as it should have been as split 5 ways ) but still okey..
Wish she was dyeing now instead of 1998 , then we'd be talking serious cabbage.

But having said that RIO has been a 7.5 bagger for me plus dividends , still holding.
Nothing wrong with money.

[Staximus]

Tell them to go to hell

[Staximus]

Tell them "fuck you and your money". Parents are supposed to love their kids, not physically and emotionally abuse them. I would have lost it when they started treating my kids bad, that's for sure. You and your kids deserve better. You don't need to put up with these terrible people just because they are your parents. If you do, you'll never find peace. Your life and your kid's life will be better without the abuse. Yeah you will have to work harder for retirement, but most people have to do that anyways. No big loss.

[Staximus]

And what kind of evil fuck wants their grandchildren to suffer?

[wolfcat87]

I can make my own money and have. No amount of money is worth hurting yourself and your family by putting up with miserable people...

[rigmarole]

Shit in a box for a month, package it up and then send it back to her.

[Asker]

LOL. I want to. But I feel sometimes the most powerful action, is no action. It's actually quite revealing how reactive they become when I don't respond.

[rigmarole]

Say you understand her attachment to material possession, so you're doing your best to return your food from your childhood. Say, you can't do it all at once but you will make good. It will take time. You will send it back in monthly installments for the next 18 years.